Posted on Wednesday, March 13, 2013
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Monday How To Express Your Compassion began a series on compassion, followed by Silently Express Your Compassion.
I would argue that undermost circumstances when we express compassion we are better to be silent that to talk too much.
It’s important to listen patiently without an agenda.
And, to listen compassionately without judgment.
We all need to listen patiently, graciously and sensitively; seeking neither to give advice nor to fix people.
Sometimes we do need to speak up. It’s a challenge to know when to speak up and when to shut up.
Bob Rakestraw, reader and author of the deep and thoughtful book, Heart Cries, commented yesterday, “…at times have listened too long, when the person really seemed to be wanting my input. There is a delicate balance here, neither speaking too much nor too little. But we can trust the Spirit of God to gently lead us. When the person really needs to speak, and talks non-stop for a long, long time, I know that he or she desperately needs to be listened to, with empathy, and that’s the best thing I can do…”
Bob’s humble and wise words echo the experience of many of us.
Others of us, frankly, either…
– don’t practice the discipline of listening
– were never taught how valuable listening is, or
– don’t share our appreciation for patient listening
BUT, sometimes we do need to speak up.
In those times our compassion needs reigns; the reigns of courage.
Compassion Takes Courage
Compassion takes courage to love.
Compassion takes courage to love patiently through pain; yours and there’s.
Compassion takes courage to love despite the inevitable misguided attempts to cope.
We all need courage.
We all need compassion.
Perhaps you have a shortage of either, or both today. To you and to me the Scriptures remind us that, “God our Father loves us. He is kind and has given us eternal comfort and a wonderful hope. We pray that our Lord Jesus Christ and God our Father will encourage you and help you always to do and say the right thing.” 1
More on coping Friday.
1 – 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17, CEV