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Why Men Hate Going To Church by David Murrow

Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2012 in Uncategorized

I’m a man.  Of the clan “men.”  I love going to church.

That said, Murrow’s title was compelling.  Here’s what I learned.

Here are his chapter titles and my brief summaries:


1. Perfectly Designed – The church needs a re-design to open doors to men.
2. Yes, There Really Is a Gender Gap – And, it’s increasing worldwide
3. Men: Who Needs ’Em? – We do they bring balance, energy and drive
4. Who Are the Missing Men? – They’re getting “results” somewhere.
5. The Masculinity Bank – A typical man won’t do something he believes is feminine.
6. The Two Jesuses – We’re taught God’s meekness we no longer fear his wrath.


7. Victoria’s Secret…When We Lost the Men – When the church culture feminized.
8. The Christian-Industrial Complex – Has softened Jesus’ image.
9. Men and Contemporary Worship –  Men need songs they can sing in the right key.
10. Twelve Things Men Fear About Church – (This list is poignant & funny.)
11. The Stars vs. the Scrubs – Men need to feel they offer a valuable contribution.
12. Check Your Testosterone at the Door – Feminine vocabulary is used more.
13. How Churches Feminize over Time – We need to reassert a kingdom model.
14. How Churches Drive Boys Away from the Faith – “Sit still.  Be quiet”


15. The Battle to Reengage Men – Give men attention and contribution, and they respond.
16. Why Megachurches Are Mega – Men have prominent, conspicuous roles.
17. Pastors and Men – Male pastors need to connect with other men.
18. Teaching and Men – Like Jesus keep it concise, visual, and interactive.
19. Getting the Big Story Right – The gospel is equal parts demanding mission and personal relationship.
20. What About Women? – Women pastors and leaders, become students of men.
21. Young Men and Faith – WANTED: spiritually healthy male role models
22. Men, Prayer, and a Few Other Things – Men change when they minister to others—and when they allow others to minister to them.
23. How Men Minister to Others – Offer principles to help men feel needed again.
24. How to Minister to Men – Build a band of brothers who build up one another.
25. A Church for Everyone – Develop Christian communities for men.

I highly recommend this book for Christian communities who want to see some of their blind-spots and for those who want to have a positive impact in their transforming their micro-culture.

In the forward the author wrote, “I’ve trimmed this revision down to fighting weight. Why Men was my first book, and I didn’t know if there was going to be another one. So I packed it with too much verbiage and a few rabbit trails. I’ve completely reorganized this new edition, adding the latest findings and examples from churches that are turning the tide. And I’ve created the most requested feature—a chapter-by-chapter group discussion guide.”  

That’s the kind of honest-to-guys (and gals) talk this book includes.

The guide is available free from the author’s website, in three versions (6wk, 12wk, 24wk versions).  I highly recommend the discussion guides found on:


Disclosure: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 […] “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Bring on the comments

  1. Robert G. Ingersoll: “The true civilization is where every man gives to every other every right that he claims for himself.”

  2. hi!!!

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