Posted on Thursday, April 19, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Taxes are due this week. Tax preparers prepare tax returns, but what’s a best friend to do with a drunk best friend?
Let me explain. 1
Desean loved his friends. He’s got several friends. Not all of his friends get along together.
One night, a Wednesday night, Desean and Chris stayed out late. Chris had been with Desean and some of his other friends, but when they started talking about getting drunk Chris “remembered” homework he wanted to get done. He left hoping Desean would join him. He didn’t.
Desean’s mom and sister trusted Desean; and they trusted Chris.
When Desean was late coming home, who did Desean’s sister start calling? Chris. But, Chris wasn’t answering his cell phone. Chris hadn’t decided what he was going to say, so rather than be tempted to lie he didn’t say anything.
Texts to Chris were ignored too.
Small But Powerful
Water is called the “universal solvent” because it dissolves more substances than any other liquid. This means that wherever water goes, either through the ground or through our bodies, it takes along valuable chemicals, minerals, and nutrients, or it can take away impurities and toxins.
There is some fascinating science behind that, simply speaking water molecules tend to attract each other, making water kind of “sticky.” 2
While they are small together these water molecules have great power.
And so do we.
Scared But Persistent
Chris didn’t want Desean mad at him, but he also didn’t want to lose his friend to stupid choices. Chris also didn’t want to lose Desean to “stupid people” who cared less about Desean than he did. They were best friends. Desean and Chris cared deeply about one another.
“I’ve got your back!”, they would say, but what does that look like when your best friend is messing up?
Paul told the Galatians to care deeply about others.
“Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s burdens…” 3
Gently and humbly? When we’re scared? Yes.
– Gentle is possible when we remember how we would like to be treated when we’ve messed up.
– Humbly is possible when we remember that we’ve also messed up.
Like water we can share the burdens of others. Stick by your friends who are messing up unless it becomes unsafe for you. Loyal friends are “sticky” friends who stick around to help sweep away impurities and toxins from their friends lives.
1 – You can read what the mom and dad could do too.
2 – Science: Simply speaking it’s just a couple of hydrogen atoms attached to one side of the oxygen atom, resulting in a water molecule having a positive charge on the side where the hydrogen atoms are and a negative charge on the other side, where the oxygen atom is.
Since opposite electrical charges attract, water molecules tend to attract each other, making water kind of “sticky.” Hydrogen atoms — with their positive charge — attracts the oxygen side (negative charge) of a different water molecule.
3 – Gal. 6:1-2, NLT