Posted on Wednesday, January 16, 2013
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Need a jump-start for your character?
Forgive Yourself and Forgive Others.
There are three common possibilities after conflict occurs:
– Conflict escalates
– Conflict goes underground
– Conflict is resolved constructively
So often when we screw up we respond one of three ways:
– Deflect or Deny
– Deal with it
Fortunately, our perspective does not limit God’s perspective.
The truth is, “Despite how I see myself, God sees me as blameless and holy because of what Christ did on the cross. It’s hard to imagine, but God has completely forgiven me. When I confess anything that I have done wrong, He is more than willing to forgive and cleanse me from sin, no matter how many mistakes I make.” 1
“Remember, change takes time, but if you accept the truth of what God says, and seek professional help, you will discover better coping and life skills.” 2
“By moderating your reaction to challenging people and situations — reading them correctly — you learn to moderate your “flight or fight” response into more socially acceptable responses.” 3
I have found that forgiveness frees me.
I’m not unusual in that sense, most people I know who genuinely forgive others feel more freedom in their relationships. I think that’s how God designed us.
5 Helpful Strategies I Use To Help Me Forgive
Before you speak, listen.
Before you write, think.
Before you assume, investigate.
Before you give up, try again.
Before you attack, remember your flaws.
I’ve found this can work with both how I treat myself and how I treat others.
1 & 2 – From focusonthefamily.com
3 – From Emotional Intelligence For Dummies by Steven J. Stein.