On our 10th Anniversary we renewed our wedding vows.
In 1997 we renewed our wedding vows — not that we were a mess and needed a restart, but — because ten years into our marriage, we were adults, “grown ups”, who had a better idea what we were doing and we wanted to be positive role models.
During our wedding we repeated vows I don’t recall and hope that we kept. At our 10th we wrote these vows, planning the keep them. And, aside from moments of selfishness, my inclinations to be a workaholic, and an occasional crabby day, we’re still keeping them. These vows help us keep on track toward our goal of a lifelong happy marriage.
1. We share a commitment to Jesus Christ as our primary authority and higher power. God helps us to be less selfish.
2. We pray regularly together and separately for each other.
3. We made a “for better or worse” commitment to each other, not only to the marriage certificate.
4. We are committed to following family goals and rules like:
* We want to be each other’s best friend
* We say what we need & don’t assume the other knows
* We try to help the other person get their needs met
* When the other person doesn’t respond to my need, repeat it
* We share everything that the other would like to share
* We need to build relationships with other people too
* Friendships are important, but sex is exclusive–us, alone
* We realize that the other will make mistakes and needs our help to make better decisions.
5. We are committed to quantity and quality time together.
6. No one comes between us, not even our kids.
7. We help each other to be the very best person that they can be, sometimes at the expense of our own selfish preferences.
8. We have clear responsibilities and help the other out when they need help.
9. When we are angry we try to resolve it within a day. No more than two.