Posted on Tuesday, November 25, 2014 in Uncategorized
Almost every week I hear someone say, “she made me…” or “he made me…” as if they could.
Without a doubt we influence one another, but far too often we justify bad attitudes and hurtful responses because of the attitudes and decisions of others.
This week when tempers flare during your holiday gatherings here are three strategies to drop the drama:
1. Choose to use a soft voice.
“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.“ 1
Regardless what the other person chooses you can chose a soft and kind tone in your voice.
2. Choose to not to use hurtful words.
“A hot-tempered person starts fights;
a cool-tempered person stops them.“
Their words do not have power over you, you do.
“Everyone enjoys a fitting reply; it is wonderful
to say the right thing at the right time!” 2
You do not have to hurt the other person back.
And, remember, everyone – even angry and crabby relatives – is lovable, capable and worthwhile.
3. When talking to your “loved ones”, choose to use caring words.
“Kind words heal and help;
cutting words wound and maim.“
Talk the way you wish other people did.
Regardless what the other person chooses you can chose caring words.
1 – Proverbs 15:1
2 – Proverbs 15:18, 23
3 – Proverbs 15:4, MSG