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Aug 8

Hope: What You Want

Posted on Thursday, August 8, 2013 in Emotional, Music, Relational, Social, Values

Evanescence_What_You_Want_single_coverartAs you begin reading today, give Evanescence’s song “What You Want” a listen.

I asked some friends at TreeHouse, “What line stands out? Why that one?”

My friends Erin, Gabe, and Kelly liked:

Do what you, what you want
If you have a dream for better

Erin and Gabe agreed, “I like doing what I want.” Kelly added, “If you want to do something, don’t let people hold you back from doing something good.”

Chris liked:

Stand and face the unknown (got to remember who you really are)

Aug 7

Chameleon

Posted on Wednesday, August 7, 2013 in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERADo you know someone who really works hard at being someone else?

We all do.
Maybe it’s me.
Maybe it’s you.

I have been that person.

When I was in high school I sometimes felt desperate for friends. When I was included – even for a moment – I would try to blend in.

One night I had a guy tell me, “you’re like a chameleon.”

It was true.
I tried to fit in.
I would even try to talk and act like others.

The truth is, I seldom was really accepted.
Not by them.
And not by me.

May 1

You Raise Me Up by Josh Groban

Posted on Wednesday, May 1, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual

343653_a_helping_handI love Josh Groban’s song You Raise Me Up
Give it a listen:

When I am down and, oh my soul, so weary;
When troubles come and my heart burdened be;
Then, I am still and wait here in the silence,
Until you come and sit awhile with me.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up… To more than I can be.

Apr 11

Seed To Sow

Posted on Thursday, April 11, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Amy Anika & Scott @ baby dedication_85pToday’s insightful guest post comes from our friend Angi of peepsarecool fame. Angi and her husband Aaron have a beautiful daughter Anika. I’m her proud godfather.

Hey – Angi’s work friends – pass this around. She shares my thoughts with you, please share her insights with others!

Here’s Angi:

Today I put in an “old school” CD, and brought Anika to child care. It was Michael W. Smith’s Go West Young Man.

The song that I was blessed with was “Seed to Sow.” 1

I sang to Anika and then sang to myself on the way to the bus stop.

Nov 21

Compassion & Generosity

Posted on Wednesday, November 21, 2012 in Emotional, Financial, Relational, Social, Values

As I was approaching fifty years old I sought the wisdom of my elders. I sought out men and women older than I was to learn lessons on life that they had been learning.

Monday I began a series entitled A Treasure Chest Of Wisdom. 

The first lesson the wise would teach us is Don’t Hold Grudges
The second lesson was Take Care Of Your Health.

Compassion Makes Sense

Compassion is more important than pleasure. Many people intentionally blind themselves to the needs of others. When I didn’t listen to my mom my mom would call it “selective listening.”

Nov 19

A Treasure Chest Of Wisdom – Don’t Hold Grudges

Posted on Monday, November 19, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

As I was approaching fifty years old I sought the wisdom of my elders.  I sought out men and women older than I was to learn lessons on life that they had been learning.

I would ask: 

I know that you have spent your career with men and women older than yourself. In that time you have listened and learned as they’ve talked about their lives and their values. You have gathered insights and wisdom from their successes and their failures.

This year I’m turning 50 and I’m starting to feel middle-aged. I don’t know how old you are, but I know you’ve learned from those older than us.

Sep 24

Duck The Drama

Posted on Monday, September 24, 2012 in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

There is never a shortage of drama.
There is always some fool who feels the need to “start something.”

Someone near you today filled with anger, impatience, and frustration from their weekend will probably spill it onto you. Avoid the obvious emotional reaction. Skip the “That was stupid” regret you’ll have later. Instead, duck the drama?

How?

Three Tips To Help You Duck The Drama

Lay Low – Don’t cause drama. It comes back to bite most people.
Take It Slow – Don’t jump to conclusions when people bring drama to you.
Say No! – Don’t repeat gossip.

Jul 30

Job Hunting? Discover The Magic Of These Skills – UPDATED

Posted on Monday, July 30, 2012 in Education, Emotional, Financial, How To, Relational, Social, Values

“I can’t get a job.  I’ve looked everywhere!”

“They won’t call me back.”

“They just hate (fill in the blank)!”

Finding a job is difficult.  I’m not certain what the answer is, but I do have some time-tested suggestions for teens and adults who want to step ahead in the marketplace:

Seven Communication Skills That We Need

Jul 27

7 Reasons To Avoid Giving Advice

Posted on Friday, July 27, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

In my fourth in a series on helping our child, lover or friend open up today we’re examining our tendency to give advice.

Maybe it’s just my problem,

Maybe I’m the only one reading these words who thinks “I know” better, who knows “what’s going on”, who can “see more clearly” than anyone else can, and who realized “what this is going to lead to”, but, probably not.

Jul 26

Parents, Lovers and Friends, Ask Questions!

Posted on Thursday, July 26, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Values

Monday I warned you about 9 Consequences Of Not Listening.

Yesterday I introduced you to 8 Benefits Of Asking Questions Instead Of Demanding To Be Heard.

Today let me expand on those 8 benefits for parents, lovers and friends.

Note – While I color-coded for parents, lovers and friends, the suggestions are not exclusively for those groups.

Questions help us understand the problem from another perspective.
Parents – You’ll take a step back from your worry-place.
Lovers – You’ll maintain your commitment to togetherness.
Friends – You’ll contribute to the brainstorming.