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Feb 13

Bonding In The Backseat, Breakup In The Bedroom

Posted on Thursday, February 13, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Values

Bruno3These last few days we’ve been looking at some Bruno Mars songs and lyrics since he was featured on the Super Bowl Halftime Show.


Today is Amy and my 320-month wedding anniversary. Yes, I still count months because I treasure our marriage.  MySilentScream is here Inspiring Great Relationships Every Day and I hope to inspire you to treasure marriage, whether it’s yours or not.

In “Marry You” Bruno sings,

Cause it’s a beautiful night,
We’re looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you.

Feb 12

5 Suggestions 4 Living With A Broken Heart

Posted on Wednesday, February 12, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Values

Bruno2In Bruno, What’s On Your Mind? and Ruins and Regrets Bruno Mars described the dangerous relationships he pursued.

Women aren’t the only ones who live with the wounds of a broken heart.

Bruno Mars’ “When I Was Your Man” describes the pain of his own broken heart.

Same bed but it feels just a little bit bigger now
Our song on the radio but it don’t sound the same
When our friends talk about you, all it does is just tear me down
‘Cause my heart breaks a little when I hear your name

Feb 11

Ruins and Regrets

Posted on Tuesday, February 11, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Bruno1In Bruno, What’s On Your Mind? he reveals the kind of relationships he’s pursued.

In Our First Time he goes into more details.

And now now here we are
In this big old empty room
Staring at each other, who’s gonna make the first move?
Been doing our thing for a minute
And now both our hearts are in it
The only place to go, is all the way

His intentions are obvious.
His intents are clear.

Is that alright?
Is that okay?

Just in case she says, “NO!” he answers his own question.

Nov 8

Life’s Tests

Posted on Friday, November 8, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

tired_lost_sportmanClear shot at an eight-point buck, missed.
Perfect moment for a first kiss, interrupted.
Business plan, rejected.
Cleaned the house, not good enough.
Sincere proposal, denied.
Studied hard, failed.
Doctor’s report, bad news.
Ran your best race, lost.

Life is filled with disappointments.
Life is filled with happiness-crushing hassles.

But that’s not the end of the story.

Despite our circumstances and doubts Happiness IS possiblefor all of us.

Sometimes, the pursuit of happiness involves a change of mind, a new perspective, a reversal of direction. Sometimes it’s a mind-altering mysteries like, “great pain can become great possibilities and you can “pray your pain out.”

Nov 7

Pray Your Pain Out

Posted on Thursday, November 7, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

LightningWe’re all looking for happiness, and despite our doubts Happiness IS possiblefor all of us.

Sometimes, the pursuit of happiness involves a change of mind, a new perspective, a reversal of direction. Sometimes it’s a mind-altering mystery like, “Great pain can become great possibilities.”

Pray Your Pain Out

There are many reasons I have chosen to follow Jesus Christ, but one of the nearest and dearest reasons is that despite my sins, shortcomings, and slanderous rants God has not blown me up with a bolt of lightning. Not that God ever threatened to do so, but you know sometimes I just think I deserved it.

Nov 6

The Reverse Game

Posted on Wednesday, November 6, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

half empty half full -141361_640We’re all looking for happiness. Fortunately, as I explained Monday, Happiness IS possible for all of us.

Sometimes, we discussed yesterday, the pursuit of happiness involves a change of mind, a new perspective, a reversal of direction.

The life of a man named Joseph was certainly challenging. He was someone whose life, heart and soul was challenged at every turn.

Great Pain Can Become Great Possibilities

Joseph, the eleventh of twelve brothers, was disliked by his older brothers. He lacked tact. He lacked humility. Despite his flaws, as God has done many times, God uses the unlikely to do the extraordinary. 

Nov 5


Posted on Tuesday, November 5, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, Values

A-ReverseOne of my favorite wedding dances is the Cha-Cha Slide. It’s an easy to follow song with an accompanying dance. The song includes the instructions: Reverse-Reverse.

Last night I had written “The Reverse Game” for this morning – I’m smiling even as I type this – but (pun-intended) God reversed my course. Spending time with God can be like that, a dance. God has the lead and we’re trying to follow along.

In my dance with God one of my daily routines includes reading my Bible. I often include one of several daily devotionals I own. This morning I read Sarah Young’s Jesus Calling entry and it seemed a perfect followup to yesterday’s Happiness IS Possible.

Nov 3

You’ll Get Through This by Max Lucado

Posted on Sunday, November 3, 2013 in Emotional, Reviews, Spiritual, Values

Book.940.coverI read widely; because of the nature of my profession I read widely about pain and suffering. Some books are a blessing and others add to the burden.

Too often they contain secular philosophies that minimize or deny our divine connections. Others have psychologies that reduce our pain to warm-fuzzy banality. Worse yet are religious books that create empty lists of rules that either explain our pain as a consequence that can be blighted by good deeds or ones that explain it away in eternal language removed from the reality of real life.

Sep 11

We ARE Loved

Posted on Wednesday, September 11, 2013 in Emotional, Music, Spiritual, Values

Some people always seem to have a song running through their minds, I almost never do. This morning I woke up to this playing in my mind

He Loves Us

It’s such good news for me.

Mysilentscream had been silent for a while for two reasons:
- I’d been very busy
- I’d been very sad and angry (I’ll tell you more another day)
But, God has been cracking through the crust of my crap.
I’m blessed and grateful for it.

The words keep echoing in my mind:

May 6

My Ignorance Appalls Me

Posted on Monday, May 6, 2013 in Emotional, Intellectual, Social, Spiritual, Values

disaster-strikes-daily-newspaper-headline-thumb26031290I’m re-reading Christopher Wright’s book, The God I Don’t Understand.

It’s a deep book about evil, suffering, and other complex subjects.

Wright explains, “we cannot and must not go on to assume or affirm is that the actual people who suffer the effects of natural events like earthquakes, tsunamis, volcanoes, hurricanes, floods, and so on … are worse sinners, and therefore stand more under God’s judgment, than those who are fortunate enough to live somewhere else than where the disaster struck.