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Jan 24

4 Answers 2 Anxiety

Posted on Friday, January 24, 2014 in Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

alone-96856_640If you asked me if I struggled with anxiety, most days I would say “no.” If you asked me if I was listening to myself enough to know, I’d probably shrug my shoulders. Usually self-reflection takes a back-seat to busyness.

The Burden & Blessing of Busyness

On Wednesday TreeHouse (my employer) committed a day to “fasting and prayer.” My busyness was set aside. 1

My tendency to be a busyness-burdened workaholic comes from a mashup of my strengths and my fears. According to “Strengths Finder” my strengths (#2-5) include Activator, Learner, Ideation, and Achiever. I like to learn, think through what I’ve learned and put what I’m learning to use, but the fear of rejection cries out “You’re stupid and lazy”; it’s subtle, but it’s relentless.

Jan 14

Deep Desire

Posted on Tuesday, January 14, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

prayer file5131258260195“Desire is not merely a simple wish; it is a deep seated craving; an intense longing … it’s so important that one might say, almost, that desire is an absolute essential of prayer.” 1

Desire precedes prayer, accompanies it, and is followed by it. Desire goes before prayer, and by it, it’s created and intensified.

Prayer is the expression of desire.

Prayer comes out into the open.
Desire is silent.
Prayer is heard; desire, unheard.

Prayer – listening to, learning from and expressing our longings to God – is throughout the Scriptures.

Jan 10

Unleashing the Hidden Power of Adversity

Posted on Friday, January 10, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sports, Values

BreesDrew Brees had been unemployed, experienced a career-threatening injury, and was filled with self-doubt. Sundays he’s an NFL football player. Here are the insights he gained. 1

Perspective

“From my perspective, it’s when the rug gets pulled out from under you that you really find your calling in life. Those defining moments don’t have to be tragedies. When they’re viewed through the lens of God’s plans, they can be ‘points of purpose’ in your life.”

Jan 7

19 Proven Relationship Tips from Lizzy & Bueno

Posted on Tuesday, January 7, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

Lizzy and Bueno 20140107_15pI’ve spent more than twenty years “Inspiring Great Relationships Every Day.” I enjoy when I can pass on something I am learning, but many times in those conversations it was me who was the learner.

Today was no different.

Today I sat down with my friends Lizzy and Bueno. We laughed. We told stories. We love gardening so we exchanged seeds. And we talked.

In a world desperate for positive role models, over the past three years Lizzy and Bueno have been role models of what a healthy relationship looks like.

Jan 6

3 Cures For The Chills

Posted on Monday, January 6, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

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If you think this winter is cold, you’re right.

But, be glad you’re not in Antarctica.

NationalGeographic.com reported that on August 10, 2010 scientists “measured the most frigid temperature ever recorded … about -136°F (-93°C) — colder than dry ice.”

Chilly Relationships

Spend any time in a mall and you’ll see freezing temperatures, indoors.

You’ll see frustrated and impatient men. You’ll see angry and frustrated women. People who’d say they love one another, but kindle coldness. The heat of their romance has formed a chill.

Dec 30

28 on 30

Posted on Monday, December 30, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social

7648_nThanks to Lance and Rachel, this weekend I had the privilege of officiating my 28th wedding. It’s not something I pursue – and I often turn down opportunities to officiate weddings – but getting to know couples on a deeper level and investing in their marriage is an incredible privilege.

As mysilentscream.com closes out 2013 and we head into 2014 I am excited to share helpful help that I have learned from incredible couples.

Whether you’re single or dating, married or harried, divorced or dilemma-filled, widowed or winsome in your disdain for commitment, I believe that you’ll find something of value.

Dec 2

Holiday Rest Intentions

Posted on Monday, December 2, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Spiritual, Sports, Values

half empty half full -141361_640I’m not very good at relaxing.

Like many of you I had some time off of work for the Thanksgiving weekend. Unfortunately, even while I was “relaxing” I was not particularly restful.
– I read for work.
– I studied health and nutrition.
– Felt frustrated with the Chicago Bears.
– I followed my fantasy football players.
I was not particularly “rest-full.”

Is Rest Possible?

I know I’m not “good” at resting, but I know that it’s possible.

Nov 27

Black Friday? Don’t Add Debt! The Total Money Makeover: Classic Edition By Dave Ramsey

Posted on Wednesday, November 27, 2013 in Financial, How To, Reviews, Values

A-Ramsey“A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness.” Those words attract me, but also make me ask, “Really?”

In his Introduction Dave Ramsey explains, “Over all these years, The Total Money Makeover has given HOPE to millions of families. This book has given them hope to win, and that hope has caused them to take action and claim ultimate victory over their financial struggles and worries—and to actually win!”

Nov 20

12th Graders And Finals

Posted on Wednesday, November 20, 2013 in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

a reader book-1191434-mIt’s nearly Finals Week for many students. As Finals week approaches Seniors in high school typically have one of four responses. They might be Soakers, Succumbers, those who are Saddened and those who are Survivors.

Soakers – They soak it all in knowing that it can be a year of highlights they will enjoy for life

Succumbers – They succumb to “senioritis” and bide their time until graduation when they can take their next steps.

Saddened – They feel regret knowing that most of their classmates will graduate, but they will not– whether because circumstances within their control, or circumstances that they could not.

Nov 8

Life’s Tests

Posted on Friday, November 8, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

tired_lost_sportmanClear shot at an eight-point buck, missed.
Perfect moment for a first kiss, interrupted.
Business plan, rejected.
Cleaned the house, not good enough.
Sincere proposal, denied.
Studied hard, failed.
Doctor’s report, bad news.
Ran your best race, lost.

Life is filled with disappointments.
Life is filled with happiness-crushing hassles.

But that’s not the end of the story.

Despite our circumstances and doubts Happiness IS possiblefor all of us.

Sometimes, the pursuit of happiness involves a change of mind, a new perspective, a reversal of direction. Sometimes it’s a mind-altering mysteries like, “great pain can become great possibilities and you can “pray your pain out.”