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Mar 11

Lent?

Posted on Tuesday, March 11, 2014 in Emotional, Music, Relational, Spiritual, Values

CopFlashingLightsI’ve heard police sirens ringing throughout my neighborhood most of the night and into the morning. I’m not sure what’s going on, but I’m concerned.

Sirens and flashing lights are intended:
– To get our attention
– To shift our focus
– To warn of fast-moving emergency vehicles
– To notify that there is danger ahead
– That there are delays ahead
– That there are unusual circumstances ahead
– To alert us to a change
– To create an others-awareness

Sirens and flashing lights go off in my head sometimes.

Sirens and Lights

Oct 22

Poof

Posted on Tuesday, October 22, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

bloody-hand-printMost mornings my brain is awash in busy-thoughts. Today it’s calm.
In my brain played “Nothing But The Blood” by Robert Lowry.

I love this song because it reminds me of the freedom God’s forgiveness brings me.

What can wash away my sin?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus:

Despite my sins (spiritual and moral shortcomings) God’s grace offers a clean re-start.

What can make me whole again?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus.

I know my sins damage my sense of self.

Oh! precious is the flow
That makes me white as snow;

Jun 26

Enemies of Empathy

Posted on Wednesday, June 26, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

1064361_golf_ball “Fore!”

Golfers yell “fore” when he or she hits a shot that might strike another golfer on the course. In fact, it is every golfer’s responsibility to watch carefully after hitting a shot to make sure another golfer is not in danger.

“Fore!”

Unfortunately, I’ve had to shout “Fore!” more than once.
Sometimes it’s just a warning.
Other times it’s imminent danger.

To me and you: “Fore!” “My friends, watch out!” 1

Watch Out?

I’ve spent the last year thinking through myself. I am trying to notice, to watch:
– What am I doing?
– Why am I doing it?
– Who’s watching?
– Am I living and acting like someone I would admire?

Jun 16

Fathers Day Wisdom

Posted on Sunday, June 16, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

SYJCMy wife and millions of other people read Sarah Young’s Jesus Calling or Jesus Calling Devotional Bible every day. While doing so their faiths have been strengthened and their lives transformed.

Jesus Calling was written as if Jesus Christ was calling you for a chat. Today’s essay contains wise and thoughtful advice for each of us to consider this Father’s Day.

STAY ON THE HIGH ROAD WITH ME. 1

“Many voices clamor for your attention, trying to divert you to another path. But I have called you to walk ever so closely with Me, soaking in My Presence, living in My Peace. This is My unique design for you, planned before the world began.

Feb 20

Rebuilding After Relationship-Rot

Posted on Wednesday, February 20, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

crumbling_brickworkBad foundations in relationships lead to relationship-rot.

A bad start to a relationship does not have to be a deal-breaker, but it usually is.

Why does it happen that way?

Because broken people break people, and hurting people hurt people.

– When people assume others will abandon them, they choose not to invest.
– When people assume others are suspicious, they choose not to trust.
– When people assume others will take rather than give, they selfishly protect.
– When people assume others are means to an end: “Greed meets a need.”

That sounds so fatalistic, but it’s not.

Feb 19

Dating Drama – Unstable Foundations

Posted on Tuesday, February 19, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

Broken_wall_texturesOften times when people contact me about their relationship problems it’s because their relationships were built on unstable foundations.

Let me explain, relationships, like buildings, need a firm and solid foundation including:
– Honesty
– Respect
– Kindness
– Thoughtfulness

Unfortunately, many relationships begin just the opposite:
– Dishonesty
– Suspicion
– Selfishness
– Greed

Oh, I know that sounds harsh, but it’s true. Consider these four examples:

Example 1 – Because of deep-seated fears rooted after the loss of her mother at a young add she guards herself with dishonesty.

Nov 27

Splash!

Posted on Tuesday, November 27, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

As I was approaching fifty years old I sought the wisdom of my elders. I sought out men and women older than I was to learn lessons on life that they had been learning.

Last Monday I began a series entitled A Treasure Chest Of Wisdom, including:

1. Don’t Hold Grudges
2. Take Care Of Your Health.
3. Compassion Makes Sense and Giving Is Better Than Taking
4. Greed Gains Momentum

5. Gratitude Leads To Contentment
6. Contentment Leads To Generosity

Everyone Splashes.  Splash Blessings.

Aug 1

Chains That Lock Us Down

Posted on Wednesday, August 1, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Today begins a three-part series on chains that lock us down. 

By that I mean that:

They shackle us to selfishness
They clamp our compassion
They fasten our desire to offer forgiveness
They latch us to loneliness
They padlock our potential

Today’s two chains poison us:

Gotta Be My Way – If we spend all our time demanding that others think and sound like we do we’ll never really learn, much less embrace, what they think.

Drama Dragger – Trying to drag others into our emotional slop so they will make us feel better never works for long.

Feb 17

Love or Lust?!?

Posted on Friday, February 17, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Run — flee the evil desires of youth; run away; run away from infantile indulgence; run from temptations that capture young people; run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts — instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.”  1

Okay, yeah love is the obvious choice, but why does the choice STILL have to be so [expletive] hard!

 

1 – 2 Timothy 2:22

Oct 14

Shame Solution – Shun Selfishness

Posted on Friday, October 14, 2011 in Financial, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Yesterday was my wife Amy’s birthday

Amy is one of the most caring and unselfish people I know.  She is often a benchmark of selflessness.  More than once I thought I should wear a W>W>A>D> bracelet to remind me to ask myself, “What Would Amy Do?”, in order to overcome some of my natural selfishness.

What is one way that I can intentionally give up some of my selfishness today?

I try to have high moral standards, but I think that question is a fair question to ask every day.

My selfishness unintentionally compromises the health of my relationships.