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Jul 6

Remember Me, I Want Revenge (Justice).

Posted on Friday, July 6, 2012 in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Remember me, I want revenge.

I had many revenge fantasies when I was in junior high:
– Revenge against the guy who would flip my school books out of my hand.
– Revenge against the guy who would push me down the stairs.
– Revenge against the guy who sat on my chest and pummeled my face.
– Revenge against the guy who stuffed me upside down in the lunchroom trash can.
– Revenge…revenge…revenge…the stories would go on.

I had never been strong, powerful, popular or courageous, so my revenge fantasies were just that.  No way to get back.  No way to gather forces.  And, no, I never told anyone in authority. I should have.

Jan 24

Your Presence Is A Present To The World

Posted on Tuesday, January 24, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

Football players cleaning out their lockers feel it.
Presidential hopefuls reviewing the debates feel it.
American Idols wannabes and coulda-beens feel it.

What is “it”?  Self- pity.  Self-doubt.  The curse of “if only.”

Don’t let self-pity take you down!

You are lovable even when your flaws are exposed.
You are capable even when you make mistakes.
You are worthwhile even when you’re struggling to believe it.

Somewhere there is someone that values you abilities.
Somewhere there is someone that sees your talents.
Somewhere there is someone that needs your skills.

Jan 4

New Years Gift of Ambition

Posted on Wednesday, January 4, 2012 in Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Values

Christmas is over, but the new year is here.
You enjoy Christmas presents, it’s time to enjoy a New years gift.

I don’t believe on New Years resolutions I believe in doing.

Give yourself the gift of ambition.

Dream.
Make plans.
Believe in yourself.
Go for what you want.
Find a way to do it.
Get someone to help you find a way.

What gets in the way?

Do you get distracted from your goal?
Find a reliable accountability partner.

Do you get lazy?
Find a goal with a benefit that is better than your excuses.

Jan 3

Beware Where You Walk In 2012

Posted on Tuesday, January 3, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

Taz, our dog, usually ran into his “dog run” to take care of “his business.” 1

In his last months, despite his best intentions he didn’t always make it. That’s inconvenient, but it’s not a problem when it’s outside, someone notices what’s going on and she or he responds promptly.

On-the-other-hand, it can become a big problem if:
– Inside, not outside, well, hopefully he made it into the kitchen.
– Someone fails to notice, and there is now an unforeseen minefield awaiting.
– Someone fails to respond, and now there the minefield is caused by neglect too.

Jul 29

Self-Esteem Insurance, Part 2 of 2

Posted on Friday, July 29, 2011 in Emotional, Relational, Social

Note: This is Part 2 of a two-part series.  If you have not read Part 1 you can find it here.

What kind of insurance do you value?
What kind of insurance would you like someone to invent?

I would invent foolproof self-esteem insurance. 

Self-esteem insurance would protects us against inevitable emotional pain and loss in case of an “accident”.

A self-esteem accident might include:
When we hurt someone’s feelings, or some else hurts us
When we use hurtful words; or others wound us with their words.
When we wound or are wounded with inconsiderate actions, intentional or not.

Jul 28

Self Esteem Insurance, Part 1 of 2

Posted on Thursday, July 28, 2011 in Emotional, Relational, Social

Intro: I am not a trained or educated expert regarding insurance.

Insurance transfers of the risk of a loss, from one to another, in exchange for payment.

For instance, I carry auto insurance.  Auto insurance protects us against financial loss in case one of the cars we own is involved in a car accident (or similar incident).  We chose an insurance company that we pay a fee in case we have an accident.

There are many kinds of insurance available for consumers.  

Six common types of insurance are:
– Auto insurance
– Health insurance
– Home insurance
– Life insurance
– Property insurance
– Unemployment insurance

May 17

Embrace Your Uniqueness pt 2 of 2

Posted on Tuesday, May 17, 2011 in Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Values

 

How are you feeling?  Maybe you’re doing great; maybe not.  Many times I feel like that swan in the middle: Everyone is heading in one direction except me.

Sometimes it’s hard to keep focused on the best things in life while every message in print or via the media seems to tell me that what I have is not good enough.

Know what I mean?

In my heart I know I’m heading the right way.  For the last several years I have embraced the fact that I am unique.  I may not always get it right, but sometimes it’s great to be different.

May 16

Embrace Your Uniqueness

Posted on Monday, May 16, 2011 in Emotional, Spiritual, Values

 

I’m a mystery. I’m an anomaly.  I’m unique.  I often choose a road that seems different than the roads others travel or think I should travel.

It seems like the greatest psychologists, analysts, and detectives the world has ever know would have a field day with me.

Why do I do what I do?

It’s obvious that we self-reflect when we make mistakes.  Why?  Why?  Wby did I do THAT?

Self-reflection and assessment is common, and normal, at least for mentally healthy people.

May 15

You Are Lovable, Capable & Worthwhile. Embrace Yourself!

Posted on Sunday, May 15, 2011 in Emotional, Values

Embrace Yourself!

Late Spring is a time for renewal.  Everything in my garden is coming alive again.  It’s a great time for reflection and self assessment.  Through the month of June I’m writing about the importance of embracing yourself, the real, the whole you.

Gathering into yourself all the pieces of you.

Embrace Yourself!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Note – No theft nor harm intended.  I’ll gladly give credit to the photographer[s] and owner[s].    I found the photos in this series attached to a file called cool-images4121_pps.

Feb 25

Heroes Arise From The Scandal Of Bad Choices

Posted on Friday, February 25, 2011 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Values

Scandal used to be, scandalous. Bad news prompted bad publicity, which lead to bad consequences.

Someone once said any publicity is good publicity. I think Tiger Woods would disagree.

The scandal of bad choices damages self-worth.

Moses struggled with his self-worth.  He was a murderer; pursued by the civil authorities he fled for his life. He left his princely role, his family, friends, people and nation.  Followed by scandal he fled.

And along came God with an offer to be a hero if he faced his scandal.  Moses protested to God, “Who am I to appear before Pharaoh? Who am I to lead the people of Israel out of Egypt?”