Posted on Tuesday, October 22, 2013
in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Most mornings my brain is awash in busy-thoughts. Today it’s calm.
In my brain played “Nothing But The Blood” by Robert Lowry.
I love this song because it reminds me of the freedom God’s forgiveness brings me.
What can wash away my sin?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus:
Despite my sins (spiritual and moral shortcomings) God’s grace offers a clean re-start.
What can make me whole again?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus.
I know my sins damage my sense of self.
Oh! precious is the flow
That makes me white as snow;
We’re gonna finish this week on mysilentscream with an insightful poem by Chris Whitford.
Hope licked its salty lips
And hung close as we both kissed
The lovely hearts of the amazing people
The hearts I keep close to me
In case the hope goes right through me
The hope of TreeHouse is an amazing thing
So don’t give up hope, no, don’t give up heart
Don’t leave this love in shards
Because the hate will eat you alive
But together we can strive
And be the best we can be
They even see the best in me
Posted on Thursday, August 8, 2013
in Emotional, Music, Relational, Social, Values
As you begin reading today, give Evanescence’s song “What You Want” a listen.
I asked some friends at TreeHouse, “What line stands out? Why that one?”
My friends Erin, Gabe, and Kelly liked:
Do what you, what you want
If you have a dream for better
Erin and Gabe agreed, “I like doing what I want.” Kelly added, “If you want to do something, don’t let people hold you back from doing something good.”
Stand and face the unknown (got to remember who you really are)
Posted on Wednesday, August 7, 2013
in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values
Do you know someone who really works hard at being someone else?
We all do.
Maybe it’s me.
Maybe it’s you.
I have been that person.
When I was in high school I sometimes felt desperate for friends. When I was included – even for a moment – I would try to blend in.
One night I had a guy tell me, “you’re like a chameleon.”
It was true.
I tried to fit in.
I would even try to talk and act like others.
The truth is, I seldom was really accepted.
Not by them.
And not by me.
Posted on Thursday, August 1, 2013
in Emotional, How To, Social, Spiritual, Values
I’ll be in water, on water and underwater today.
The fear of drowning is one of my fears. It probably always has been a fear, but childhood bullying certainly made it worse. Sometimes I’m not even aware that I’m thinking about it.
Fear will try to stop us.
Doubts will try to stop us.
We’ll be tempted to duck responsibilities.
We’ll be tempted to from taking chances.
We’ll be tempted to lay low and avoid risks.
Fear has paralyzed many people from
– attempting great accomplishments
– facing great questions
– embracing great opportunities
– joining great adventures
– creating something new
– sharing gifts with others
Posted on Wednesday, June 26, 2013
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Golfers yell “fore” when he or she hits a shot that might strike another golfer on the course. In fact, it is every golfer’s responsibility to watch carefully after hitting a shot to make sure another golfer is not in danger.
Unfortunately, I’ve had to shout ”Fore!” more than once.
Sometimes it’s just a warning.
Other times it’s imminent danger.
To me and you: “Fore!” “My friends, watch out!” 1
I’ve spent the last year thinking through myself. I am trying to notice, to watch:
– What am I doing?
– Why am I doing it?
– Who’s watching?
– Am I living and acting like someone I would admire?
Posted on Wednesday, April 10, 2013
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
I’m not cool, and I’m cool with that.
I wasted a lot of energy when I was younger worrying about being cool. It’s way more fun to forget about that, and just be yourself.
(Tears filled my eyes as I typed that.)
The less I cared about being cool and the more I decide to become the kind of person I admired the more I like myself.
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Posted on Friday, April 5, 2013
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I gave out my cell phone number to a new friend this week.
As soon as I shared my number I felt obligated to explain a few things:
– I don’t answer very often
– I don’t text back very quickly
– I don’t answer when I’m busy
– I don’t respond to people who call or text repeatedly
A few years ago I decided it was easier to explain this list of annoyances when I share my number than to have to make apologies.
Posted on Tuesday, April 2, 2013
in Emotional, How To, Social, TreeHouse, Values
Recently I sat among a group of people all of whom respected one another. We share some common goals. We share some common hopes and dreams. While we were discussing those goals and hopes and dreams, one person spoke up.
The room of people turned.
We looked and listened.
She is well-respected.
She is respect-worthy.
She has a very respected legacy.
She is a leader among leaders.
And, in this group of people:
When she spoke people listened.
When she led people followed.
When she thought out-loud people agreed.
And, when she had a misguided suggestion there was buy-in.
Posted on Thursday, March 28, 2013
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Sunday my friend and pastor Steve Wiens recommended three prayers for Holy Week this year, including: “God, reveal where I’m hidden and help me to see.”
The shame of a wounded conscience is a trap. It’s a lie that tries to convince us that hopelessly defective: “I am what I am. I cannot change. I am hopeless.”
Shame is the deep feeling of guilt, sadness, and hopelessness that we experience when we become convinced that our shadows, scars and scandals doom us. That past failures, bad habits or poor appearance has made a permanent scar on our self-worth.