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Apr 17

Two Sources of Self-Esteem: Secular & Christian

Posted on Thursday, April 17, 2014 in Education, Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Spiritual, Values

broken_mirror_4When I think of self esteem I tend to lean one of three ways; three paths my thoughts follow.

1. I focus on my own self-interests, because I am selfish.

2. I focus on the my self-reliance, because I see myself in the mirror.

3. I focus on the tension I feel between my secular education and my spiritual life.

The following essay by Randy Alcorn effectively sets my paths straight.

Two Sources of Self-Esteem: Secular & Christian

Feb 27

My Crossroad

Posted on Thursday, February 27, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

AWhen I am teaching people how to teach the Bible I have had a consistent message: “Pray, pray, pray, and, while maintaining healthy boundaries, teach what God is teaching you.

When you have the choice, teach what God has taught you recently or is teaching you now. It’s fresh.

Since you are teaching what you are learning it will come from you to your audience from the perspective of a learner.

This is important to me because I have fallen into the trap of feeling like I needed to appear to be “the expert” more than I’d like to admit.

Feb 14

Beauty: See it. Believe it. Say it. Stand by it.

Posted on Friday, February 14, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

snow_heartIn this the final slice in a series of posts reflecting on the songs of Bruno Mars we’re examining the virtues of his perspective in his song “Just the Way You Are.”

If you need to catch up a bit:
1. Bruno, What’s On Your Mind?
2. Ruins and Regrets
3. 5 Suggestions 4 Living With A Broken Heart
4. Bonding In The Backseat, Breakup In The Bedroom

Just the Way You Are

On Just The Way You Are Bruno Mars wants the object of his affection to know that he thinks she’s beautiful. I don’t think I’ve met a woman who didn’t want to be thought of as beautiful by her loved ones.

Feb 13

Bonding In The Backseat, Breakup In The Bedroom

Posted on Thursday, February 13, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Values

Bruno3These last few days we’ve been looking at some Bruno Mars songs and lyrics since he was featured on the Super Bowl Halftime Show.

Marriage

Today is Amy and my 320-month wedding anniversary. Yes, I still count months because I treasure our marriage.  MySilentScream is here Inspiring Great Relationships Every Day and I hope to inspire you to treasure marriage, whether it’s yours or not.

In “Marry You” Bruno sings,

Cause it’s a beautiful night,
We’re looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you.

Feb 12

5 Suggestions 4 Living With A Broken Heart

Posted on Wednesday, February 12, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Values

Bruno2In Bruno, What’s On Your Mind? and Ruins and Regrets Bruno Mars described the dangerous relationships he pursued.

Women aren’t the only ones who live with the wounds of a broken heart.

Bruno Mars’ “When I Was Your Man” describes the pain of his own broken heart.

Same bed but it feels just a little bit bigger now
Our song on the radio but it don’t sound the same
When our friends talk about you, all it does is just tear me down
‘Cause my heart breaks a little when I hear your name

Feb 11

Ruins and Regrets

Posted on Tuesday, February 11, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Bruno1In Bruno, What’s On Your Mind? he reveals the kind of relationships he’s pursued.

In Our First Time he goes into more details.

And now now here we are
In this big old empty room
Staring at each other, who’s gonna make the first move?
Been doing our thing for a minute
And now both our hearts are in it
The only place to go, is all the way

His intentions are obvious.
His intents are clear.

Is that alright?
Is that okay?

Just in case she says, “NO!” he answers his own question.

Mar 28

Stop Hiding

Posted on Thursday, March 28, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

alone-62253_640Sunday my friend and pastor Steve Wiens recommended three prayers for Holy Week this year, including: “God, reveal where I’m hidden and help me to see.”

Shame

The shame of a wounded conscience is a trap. It’s a lie that tries to convince us that hopelessly defective: “I am what I am. I cannot change. I am hopeless.”

Shame is the deep feeling of guilt, sadness, and hopelessness that we experience when we become convinced that our shadows, scars and scandals doom us. That past failures, bad habits or poor appearance has made a permanent scar on our self-worth.

Mar 22

Introverts Are A Treasure

Posted on Friday, March 22, 2013 in Education, Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Values

202989_a_helping_handPrompted by my reading of Quiet by Susan Cain, this week we’ve explored introverts and extroverts their distinctive and their qualities. Including:

I Buy Coffee

An Introvert?!?

Introvert’s Confusion

And, Are YOU An Introvert or Extrovert?

Whether you’re a parent, a brother or sister, an aunt, uncle or neighbor, you know children. And, if you’re like me, quiet children can be a mystery.

Today, I’d like to let Susan Cain’s insights on introvert children speak for themselves. Oh, wait – let me say this first – my favorite quote from her about children is: “Don’t just accept your child for who she is; treasure her.”

Mar 21

Are YOU An Introvert or Extrovert?

Posted on Thursday, March 21, 2013 in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

Quiet by Susan Cain_65pAre You An Introvert or Extrovert (And Why Does It Matter)?

Do you ever wonder where you fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum?
Here is the place to assess yourself.

This quiz from Susan Cain’s QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking will help you self-assess.

Jul 21

What Does The Lord Your God Require Of You?

I’m thinking through what this means for me today, tomorrow, and my tomorrows.

What does the Lord your God require of you?
He requires only that you
fear the Lord your God,
and live in a way that pleases him,
and love him
and serve him with all your heart and soul.
- Deuteronomy 10:12, NLT