Posted on Tuesday, November 13, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, Values
This weekend at Anika’s baby dedication we shared parenting advice with the new parents Angi & Aaron.
My wife Amy said, “If you mess up, fess up.”
She elaborated, “when you make mistakes admit them.”
Unfortunately, Amy learned that lesson from my…umm…from me.
You see, I’ve had to fess up a lot.
When I Mismanage My Life I Neglect My Highest Priorities
When I have mismanaged my life it’s my wife and God who get cheated. Sadly, I take for granted those who love me the most. I haven’t rejected my faith in God, I’ve just gotten so busy that I have not included God in my thoughts, feelings and plans as often as I would prefer.
Subtitled, “Discovering The Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle”, Michael John Cusick begins with an abrupt and compelling question, “What’s Better than Porn?” He spends the majority of the rest of the book answering that question.
“You and I were created to fly. But something has gone terribly wrong…Adam and Eve lost their innocence and…barely a day goes by that I don’t hear a story about a man losing his (innocence) in exchange for pornography…(and) the losses are devastating.”
Last night I was relaxing while listening to Jack Johnson’s “En Concert.” He’s the kind of artist that helps me relax and feel less alone in my feelings — without prompting me to wallow in them.
His song, “Symbol In My Driveway”, off the On and On album proclaims:
I’ve got a light bulb full of anger
And I can switch it on and off
And, in my best moments, I can shut off my anger; assuring that I neither stuff nor hide my anger.
Shut Off Our Anger
Posted on Saturday, July 21, 2012
in Beyond Whatever Promos, Emotional, Financial, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
I’m thinking through what this means for me today, tomorrow, and my tomorrows.
What does the Lord your God require of you?
He requires only that you
fear the Lord your God,
and live in a way that pleases him,
and love him
and serve him with all your heart and soul.
- Deuteronomy 10:12, NLT
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Posted on Wednesday, May 30, 2012
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Did you have a busy Memorial Day weekend?
Did you have a hard time cranking it back up yesterday at work or school?
I was late to my first two meetings as I tried to resume my weekday timeliness.
So what can you do when stress levels rise?
A few years ago Elisha Goldstein on psychcentral.com offered four simple, helpful stress relieving tips.
Next time you find your mind racing with stress, try the acronym S.T.O.P.
S – Stop what you are doing, put things down for a minute.
Posted on Wednesday, May 23, 2012
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This week I’ve written about three people I admire, Gerry and Julie Andersen, and Lance Berkman. They each have accomplishments that many people would envy.
Rather than envy I examine what helps someone become a success and look for ways to apply similar principles in my own life.
Today I was reminded of these seven strategies an unknown author suggested for a balanced life. As I have sought to embrace these strategies as disciplines I have found more balance in my life. Perhaps if you practice these strategies you’ll experience more balance too.
A Balanced Life
Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2012
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Yesterday was Valentines Day. Yesterday was also the anniversary of the legend of the green hippo. If you don’t know that story or want another opportunity to laugh at me, feel free to read it again in Sex, Lies & the Truth – Pt 3 of 3 – The Truth.
I’m trying to grow up, grow more appreciative, take my Valentine less for granted, show the love I think of, feel the love that lives within and follow her example of generosity.
I worked a fourteen-hour day yesterday, but I still got a couple things right.
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4 Things I Got Right This Valentines Day
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Posted on Tuesday, January 31, 2012
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
Pro Bowl, all-star quality, friendships are hard work. This week I’m sharing five strategies that will improve your relationships and deepen their commitment.
Yesterday we addressed how important it is to:
Locate The Trouble Spot
Look back. Try to assess what has gone wrong.
Where did the misunderstanding or conflict begin?
Then, as often as needed, apologize.
Apologize When You’re Wrong
All of us mess up. It is foolish to let pride and insecurity keep us from admitting it and trying to patch up the relationship. You might have One Republic’s song “Apologize” running through your head:
Posted on Wednesday, January 4, 2012
in Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Values
Christmas is over, but the new year is here.
You enjoy Christmas presents, it’s time to enjoy a New years gift.
I don’t believe on New Years resolutions I believe in doing.
Give yourself the gift of ambition.
Believe in yourself.
Go for what you want.
Find a way to do it.
Get someone to help you find a way.
What gets in the way?
Do you get distracted from your goal?
Find a reliable accountability partner.
Do you get lazy?
Find a goal with a benefit that is better than your excuses.
Posted on Friday, October 14, 2011
in Financial, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Yesterday was my wife Amy’s birthday.
Amy is one of the most caring and unselfish people I know. She is often a benchmark of selflessness. More than once I thought I should wear a W>W>A>D> bracelet to remind me to ask myself, “What Would Amy Do?”, in order to overcome some of my natural selfishness.
What is one way that I can intentionally give up some of my selfishness today?
I try to have high moral standards, but I think that question is a fair question to ask every day.
My selfishness unintentionally compromises the health of my relationships.