Posted on Monday, April 6, 2015 in Uncategorized
Years ago some friends and I rented snowshoes and drove into A-Basin (Arapahoe Basin) in Colorado. When we arrived we strapped on our snowshoes.
Though we were all about the same size with the same size snowshoe, no one seemed to have any trouble, except me. For some reason I kept dropping through the snow-pack. I kept getting stuck.
The worst was when I had one leg plunged deep into the snow all the way to my groin and the other flat on the ground. While trying to extricate my left leg my right leg plunged through the snow nearly reaching the depth of the other. I howled something impolite as I realized that I was now going to dig myself out of the snow while wearing my snowshoes.
Posted on Tuesday, November 25, 2014 in Uncategorized
Almost every week I hear someone say, “she made me…” or “he made me…” as if they could.
Without a doubt we influence one another, but far too often we justify bad attitudes and hurtful responses because of the attitudes and decisions of others.
This week when tempers flare during your holiday gatherings here are three strategies to drop the drama:
1. Choose to use a soft voice.
“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.“ 1
Regardless what the other person chooses you can chose a soft and kind tone in your voice.
Posted on Thursday, July 31, 2014 in Uncategorized
It’s Chalkboard Week. If you missed one:
Todays Chalkboard: “I will finish what I sta” (written only once implying the text would be: I will finish what I started)
Bart didn’t and wasn’t likely to finish his list. He was excited. He raced out of the classroom and the school. Too often when you and I don’t finish something we don’t skip away we trip and fall over the pile of unfinished.
Sometimes I feel like a failure.
Posted on Monday, June 23, 2014 in Uncategorized
I SCREAMED on Father’s Day.
More than once.
Honestly, it was shocking to me.
And, I was the screamer.
We we having fun as a fam playing tennis.
I know how I play tennis.
But, I haven’t played in a while.
My knowledge and my skills didn’t jive.
One miss-hit led to another and another.
I’m screamed at myself, because…
Posted on Thursday, October 31, 2013 in Uncategorized
This week I’m focusing on five listening moments.
Monday was Listening to Understand
Tuesday was Listen Deeply
Wednesday was Listen Beneath The Surface
Too often I thought I knew what someone was going to say. Too often I’ve made wrong assumptions, flawed judgments and drawn the wrong conclusions. I’m well intentioned, but I unfortunately T.R.I.P. and stumble and hurt others.
The acronym T.R.I.P. is a warning to me to be a better listener; maybe it will help you too.
T – Listen Tenderly
R – Listen Respectfully
I – Listen to avoid Ignorance
P – Listen, be Patient
Posted on Tuesday, October 29, 2013 in Uncategorized
A year and a half ago I wrote the very popular 9 Consequences Of Not Listening.
This week I’d like to highlight five listening moments.
Monday was Listening to Understand
Listening, really listening, makes a huge difference in our relationships.
– We hear more of what’s being said
– We quiet our need to be in control
– The speaker feels more lovable as we pay attention
– We assure the speaker feels worthwhile as we listen
– Our self-respect grows as we commend ourselves as capable listeners
Posted on Friday, August 9, 2013 in Uncategorized
We’re gonna finish this week on mysilentscream with an insightful poem by Chris Whitford.
Hope licked its salty lips
And hung close as we both kissed
The lovely hearts of the amazing people
The hearts I keep close to me
In case the hope goes right through me
The hope of TreeHouse is an amazing thing
So don’t give up hope, no, don’t give up heart
Don’t leave this love in shards
Because the hate will eat you alive
But together we can strive
And be the best we can be
They even see the best in me
Posted on Thursday, August 8, 2013 in Uncategorized
As you begin reading today, give Evanescence’s song “What You Want” a listen.
I asked some friends at TreeHouse, “What line stands out? Why that one?”
My friends Erin, Gabe, and Kelly liked:
Do what you, what you want
If you have a dream for better
Erin and Gabe agreed, “I like doing what I want.” Kelly added, “If you want to do something, don’t let people hold you back from doing something good.”
Stand and face the unknown (got to remember who you really are)
Posted on Wednesday, August 7, 2013 in Uncategorized
Do you know someone who really works hard at being someone else?
We all do.
Maybe it’s me.
Maybe it’s you.
I have been that person.
When I was in high school I sometimes felt desperate for friends. When I was included – even for a moment – I would try to blend in.
One night I had a guy tell me, “you’re like a chameleon.”
It was true.
I tried to fit in.
I would even try to talk and act like others.
The truth is, I seldom was really accepted.
Not by them.
And not by me.
Posted on Saturday, August 3, 2013 in Uncategorized
A few years ago my wife introduced me to Sarah Young’s writing. In 2004 Thomas Nelson published Jesus Calling.
Jesus Calling is a book of daily inspiration written from the perspective of Jesus Christ speaking to the reader. My wife likes it so much she has given away several copies.
Eventually her enthusiasm led me to download a copy.
I’m not a daily Jesus Calling reader, but I’m almost never disappointed when I take the time to read Sarah’s writing. Today in particular her words challenged me and my sense of humor.
Watch Your Words Diligently