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Jun 6

Moving On From Mistakes

Posted on Friday, June 6, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

hand-70508_640I can’t.
I won’t.

Never again.
It was a mistake.

“We all have times when we find it difficult to avoid making too much of our mistakes and perceived failures. But how do you not take rejection personally? How do you not feel like your world is crashing down around you?” 1

Moving On From Mistakes

Alice Boyes on PsychCentral identified seven ways to avoid personalizing errors and rejection. I commend her insights and I think you will too.  Note: Tips 1-3 were discussed yesterday.

Jun 5

Coping With “Unworthy”

Posted on Thursday, June 5, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

hammer02Most of us like to be chosen.
But, it feels almost offensive to be chosen when we feel unworthy.
The key is when we feel unworthy, not to settle for it.

Feeling unworthy is a vicious trap.

One of the keys to breaking free is separating truth from lies, fact from fiction and real from imagined.

Losing your job will not defeat you, believing it’s useless to try again will.

Losing your health will not defeat you, believing you’re useless will.

Failing in school will not defeat you, believing it’s hopeless will.

Jun 4

Rejecting Acceptance

Posted on Wednesday, June 4, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

girl help 1377798978mjnfxIt’s nice to be chosen.

To be chosen as a teammate.
To be hired as a colleague.
To be honored with a scholarship.
To be selected for a role in a play.
To be invited to join a small group.

It’s nice to be chosen, unless it isn’t.

It isn’t nice to be chosen,
when needy people demand our attention.

It isn’t nice to be chosen,
when you know you’re misunderstood.

It isn’t nice to be chosen
by a manipulative person.

It isn’t nice to be chosen,
as a crush by the wrong person.

Jan 10

Just Faking It

Posted on Thursday, January 10, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

This past weekend I was in a conversation with a group of people about when they received their first pair of glasses. I received my first pair of glasses in second grade. I couldn’t read the blackboard in school very well.

One person said third grade.
Another said fifth grade.
A fourth person said, “in junior high.”

“Really?”, I asked.
He added, “Well, I needed them years before, but I was just faking it.”

Just Faking It

Ah, just faking it.

Too often we fake reality wishing it was different, when it’s not.