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Aug 9

A Poem of Hope by Chris Whitford

Posted on Friday, August 9, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

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We’re gonna finish this week on mysilentscream with an insightful poem by Chris Whitford.

Hope licked its salty lips
And hung close as we both kissed

The lovely hearts of the amazing people

The hearts I keep close to me
In case the hope goes right through me

The hope of TreeHouse is an amazing thing
So don’t give up hope, no, don’t give up heart
Don’t leave this love in shards
Because the hate will eat you alive

But together we can strive
And be the best we can be
They even see the best in me

Aug 8

Hope: What You Want

Posted on Thursday, August 8, 2013 in Emotional, Music, Relational, Social, Values

Evanescence_What_You_Want_single_coverartAs you begin reading today, give Evanescence’s song “What You Want” a listen.

I asked some friends at TreeHouse, “What line stands out? Why that one?”

My friends Erin, Gabe, and Kelly liked:

Do what you, what you want
If you have a dream for better

Erin and Gabe agreed, “I like doing what I want.” Kelly added, “If you want to do something, don’t let people hold you back from doing something good.”

Chris liked:

Stand and face the unknown (got to remember who you really are)

Aug 7

Chameleon

Posted on Wednesday, August 7, 2013 in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERADo you know someone who really works hard at being someone else?

We all do.
Maybe it’s me.
Maybe it’s you.

I have been that person.

When I was in high school I sometimes felt desperate for friends. When I was included – even for a moment – I would try to blend in.

One night I had a guy tell me, “you’re like a chameleon.”

It was true.
I tried to fit in.
I would even try to talk and act like others.

The truth is, I seldom was really accepted.
Not by them.
And not by me.

Apr 10

I’m NOT Cool

Posted on Wednesday, April 10, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

1I’m not cool, and I’m cool with that.

I wasted a lot of energy when I was younger worrying about being cool. It’s way more fun to forget about that, and just be yourself.

(Tears filled my eyes as I typed that.)

The less I cared about being cool and the more I decide to become the kind of person I admired the more I like myself.

Jan 13

Our first 13 of 2013

Posted on Sunday, January 13, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values


For some people the number 13 is synonymous with bad luck and

13 makes them pause, hesitate, and even back away.

It’s considered unlucky to have:
– 13 guests at a dinner party
– a 13th floor in a building 
– a wedding on the 13th of the month
– or to buy a house on the 13th of the month

Aug 27

How To Make Your School Year Easier

Posted on Monday, August 27, 2012 in Education, How To, Intellectual, Values

On behalf of my son Josh, and all students starting school this week and next, allow me to remind you of these excellent suggestions:

Ask questions, it will help you in the long run. 

Be yourself, you will be more popular that way.

Check for toilet paper when you enter the stall.

Don’t procrastinate; there won’t be time later.

Get good sleep, each night, it makes school easier.

If you fall asleep in class, expect your teacher to embarrass you.

Oct 3

Music Shame

Posted on Monday, October 3, 2011 in Emotional, Relational, Spiritual

I am rhythmically challenged.

I am rhythm deprived, I know it, if you know me well, and you know it too.

Many of you have made fun of me to my face; probably as payback for some mischief I perpetuated.

What’s it look like to be rhythm deprived?

While everyone else rocks to the music, I’m hunting for the beat.
While everyone else is caught up in the groove, I’m wondering which way to move.

When I clap, I follow.
When I tap, I wonder; “How soon will I lose the beat?”
When I dance, I count and watch others.

Jun 27

Don’t Live In Fear Embrace Some Limits

Posted on Monday, June 27, 2011 in How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Limits Drain Me

Actually that title was just a clever word play.  The truth is some limits drain me, other limits free me.

Let me tell you about my drain problem.

Our washing machine drains into a tub in our laundry room.  A couple days ago we discovered the sink that the wash machine drained into was stopped up. After we whined, tried to assign blame and avoided the problem we began to conquer our drain problem.

After two days later we finally conquered it.  Now our basement looks like this photo.

Jun 14

Embrace Your Need For Safety

Posted on Tuesday, June 14, 2011 in Relational, Social, Values

Yesterday my wife Amy & I celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary.

Thinking back to when I asked Amy’s dad Ron for permission to marry his youngest daughter I can only imagine his thoughts.  Having had three children already married lessened the shock, but it’s a huge risk to say “You have my blessing” to a relative stranger.

I never asked, but I imagine he must have though many things including:

“She’s our baby!?!”

Yes, Amy is their youngest child and a dearly beloved daughter.  in fact, Amy’s name means “Beloved” and she is and was the beloved daughter of Ron & Rose Fayas.