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Jun 17

A Fair Question

Posted on Tuesday, June 17, 2014 in Education, Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

1157727_beggar_in_udaipurI’m watching a television show this week called, “An Idiot Abroad.” It’s an odd and somewhat awkward travel show “hosted” – I use that word loosely – by Karl Pilkington.

In the first three episodes Karl travels to China, India, Israel and Jordan. He visits tourist centers and rural outposts while assigned by the show’s producers to visit The 7 Wonders of the World.


While traveling Karl comments freely on his personal inconveniences. He talks at length about his troublesome circumstances and his feelings.

Apr 16

You Are Always …

Posted on Wednesday, April 16, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

DollarAs my friend Mandy reminded us yesterday, like a dollar that’s seen better days, you’re value never changes.

Though this dollar has been folded and crumpled up, stomped down, torn off and snotted-on, it’s still just as valuable; it’s a dollar.

Even though you may have been unplanned, felt unwanted, been abused or discarded, felt unprotected or abandoned, misrepresented or misunderstood, you’re still just as valuable; you’re a unique, irreplaceable, invaluable, never-gonna-be-repeated human being.

No one could ever offer your unique perspective, you’re unique history, your unique combination of gifts and talents; you are absolutely irreplaceable.

Oct 1

Daily Decisions

Posted on Monday, October 1, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Last night after my wife Amy finished celebrating her Green Bay Packers victory we started prepping dinner. While making dinner The Simpsons came on.

If you don’t know, most Simpsons episodes begins with an opening sequence of several short clips including Bart Simpson satisfying a consequence by writing a phrase on the classroom chalkboard.

Known as the chalkboard gag, Wikipedia explains, “the chalkboard gag is a running visual joke that occurs during the opening credits of many episodes. In this gag, Bart Simpson is writing a unique phrase on the chalkboard repeatedly; when the school bell rings, he immediately stops writing and runs out of the classroom.” 1

Apr 3

Trampled-On Tuesday

Posted on Tuesday, April 3, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

I’ve been confronted by several people that I respect recently. Whether I want it to or not, confrontation can tear at, or even trample, my self-identity.

One person suggested that I sounded like I thought that I knew more than other people and “if only they knew what I knew then they would be okay.”  I hate when I’ve been condescending. 

I’ve also been confronted that I seem intimidated around people who are wealthier than me; and they are right.

Self-Doubt Sunday

May 5

Overcoming The Fear Of Being Exposed

Posted on Thursday, May 5, 2011 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

Overcoming the fear of being exposed is one of the keys to breaking the bondage of the tricks and lies about cutting.

The Fear Of Exposure Perverts Our Thinking

“Psychologist Larry Crabb says that the primary motivation for all of our social behavior is a fear that if others really knew us as we are, they would reject us in disgust. This fear of exposure is rooted in our sense of the ugliness of our fallen natures as they have been perverted and corrupted by sin. Satan delights in inflaming this fear…”

Mar 24

Keep Your Love Alive – 10 Proven Steps

Posted on Thursday, March 24, 2011 in Emotional, Relational, Social, TreeHouse

True intimacy provides significance and security.

Significance is “a purpose for living which will give me a real and lasting impact on my world and a purpose which I am completely adequate to accomplish.”

Security comes from unconditional love, at TreeHouse we call it “love without strings.”.  “People need that kind of love.  We need, really need, to be loved as we are, loved at our worst.  We need to regard ourselves as worthwhile.  In order to do so, we must not only be significant but also be secure in the unconditional love of another person.”

Mar 22

Keep Your Love Alive – True Intimacy Provides Significance and Security

Posted on Tuesday, March 22, 2011 in Beyond Whatever Promos, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

True intimacy is far more than physical interaction. Sexuality is not limited to the genitals: it covers a much broader spectrum of caresses, kisses, friendly company and words of affection. It includes a unity of personality, emotions, and our spiritual nature.

Charles Sell suggests that in order for there to be sweet music in our relationship we must keep in mind “if you’re married to a violin, be a bow.” 1

Get to know one another more intimately.

True Intimacy Takes Time

Maintaining an intimate relationship involves renovating and maintaining the romance.