“Love you gorgeous, I’ll be in there in ten minutes.”
It’s 2:00 A.M. I just said that as Amy woke from her late night nap and staggered off to bed. I’ve said similar things hundreds of times.
Schedules: Since we were married 27 years ago today I have gone to sleep second 98% of the time. Often times I am last to sleep and first one awake. We have almost always had different schedules.
Posted on Friday, February 14, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
In this the final slice in a series of posts reflecting on the songs of Bruno Mars we’re examining the virtues of his perspective in his song “Just the Way You Are.”
If you need to catch up a bit:
1. Bruno, What’s On Your Mind?
2. Ruins and Regrets
3. 5 Suggestions 4 Living With A Broken Heart
4. Bonding In The Backseat, Breakup In The Bedroom
Just the Way You Are
On Just The Way You Are Bruno Mars wants the object of his affection to know that he thinks she’s beautiful. I don’t think I’ve met a woman who didn’t want to be thought of as beautiful by her loved ones.
I’ve spent more than twenty years “Inspiring Great Relationships Every Day.” I enjoy when I can pass on something I am learning, but many times in those conversations it was me who was the learner.
Today was no different.
Today I sat down with my friends Lizzy and Bueno. We laughed. We told stories. We love gardening so we exchanged seeds. And we talked.
In a world desperate for positive role models, over the past three years Lizzy and Bueno have been role models of what a healthy relationship looks like.
Amy and I were college students the first time I met her parents, Ron and Rose. Like almost all guys I was nervous meeting “her parents.” Through our conversations and over dinner with Amy’s brother Bryan I found that they were like Amy: friendly and kind, they love to laugh and they cared deeply about God.
That was 1985.
A couple years later on June 13 those same two parents gave us their blessing as Amy were married.
So, when Ron and Rose wanted to renew their wedding vows on their fiftieth (50th!) anniversary I was blessed to be invited to officiate their ceremony.
Posted on Thursday, January 2, 2014
in Relational, Social, Values
I worked with Cheryl, and Wes is a close friend to our family, but I’d only met Amber (Cheryl’s daughter) a couple times.
When Amber first spoke to me about her relationship with Paul and invited me to officiate their wedding I had a blend of feelings. The list was long and enmeshed, but my feelings could best be summarized with these three questions:
– Do they know what “love” is?
– Do they share the same definition?
– Do they love one another with that love?
Love is invincible facing danger and death.
Passion laughs at the terrors of hell.
The fire of love stops at nothing—
it sweeps everything before it.
Flood waters can’t drown love,
torrents of rain can’t put it out. 1
My friends Ashley and Jesse are getting married today!
Their relationship is years in the making.
Their infatuation has faded, but they still look at each other so sweetly.
Their infatuation has faded, but they still want to make one another happy.
How can they build on that kind of love?
How can you build on the love you have?
Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Yesterday was Valentines Day. Yesterday was also the anniversary of the legend of the green hippo. If you don’t know that story or want another opportunity to laugh at me, feel free to read it again in Sex, Lies & the Truth – Pt 3 of 3 – The Truth.
I’m trying to grow up, grow more appreciative, take my Valentine less for granted, show the love I think of, feel the love that lives within and follow her example of generosity.
I worked a fourteen-hour day yesterday, but I still got a couple things right.
This is a preview of
4 Things I Got Right This Valentines Day
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Posted on Tuesday, February 14, 2012
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
“The passion of love bursting into flame is more powerful than death,
stronger than the grave. Love cannot be drowned by oceans or floods;
it cannot be bought, no matter what is offered.” 1
I wish I loved, and loved my Valentine more like that!
8 Things I Wish I Did For My Valentine
Posted on Saturday, February 19, 2011
in Just For Laughs, Relational, Social, Values
Guest post by Amy Volltrauer
The Legend of the Hippo Pillow
A little set up.
I am a traditionalist and had been looking forward to when I had a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day and what special gift he would give. So needless to say, I had expectations.
Scott on the other hand is a non-traditionalist and hates having to live up to the expectations put on him by marketing, etc. And we didn’t know each other well enough yet to know these things about each other.
Hence the story.
This is a preview of
Sex, Lies & the Truth – Pt 3 of 3 – The Truth
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