Delighted By The Disappointing Silence Of An Absent Dad
Buoyed By The Blessings Of Being Bullied
Encouraged And Empowered By An Eating Disorder
Today if we turn to CNN, Fox News, Yahoo or Reuters, those are three headlines we will never read. And, if we did, they would only be news because of the absurd unlikeliness of the headline being true.
Last night some friends gathered and shared their stories. Our friends Kyle, Emma and Ellie stepped forward, up from the darkened rows of their seats and into the spotlight. In the glow of the stage lights surrounded by friends, fans and flawed people like them they spoke.
Posted on Tuesday, October 28, 2014
in Emotional, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual
“Just save me … from all that I am.”
“Save me” is a phrase I can relate to, both in a theological sense, but also to be saved from the consequences of misdeeds, misguided decisions, relational disappointments and circumstantial despair.
“Just save me … from all that I am” is a plea of the broken. Like a displaced broken bone that needs to be reset, repentance – as I’ve heard Ruth Haley Barton say – is a “death that needs to happen.”
Posted on Friday, October 3, 2014
in Music, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values
I spent hours this week listening to and reading the lyrics of the current Billboard Hot 100. Musicians are often viewed as spokespersons of their generation.
For the cynics among us, it’s not all bad news.
At TreeHouse every week we remind our teens that “you’re not alone” because so many people – young and old – feel like they are the only one dealing with those feelings and thoughts. So it’s good news that two of the most popular songs have self-affirming messages.
Meghan Trainor “All About That Bass”
Posted on Thursday, October 2, 2014
in Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
I spent hours today listening to and reading the lyrics of the current Billboard Hot 100. Every generation has it’s spokespersons. Musicians are often viewed as spokespersons of their generation. I was looking for insight and wisdom.
What I found were some very common themes.
Today I’ll share these.
Lessons From The Top
Life has no meaning.
Life is short; play and party hard.
Don’t waste time searching for meaning. Life is random and painful; get high or suffer through it.
Payback and revenge make wrongs right.
I can find meaning through fun, fame, cars, jewelry, etc.
Posted on Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Parents in pain.
What can we do?
Every child I’ve met wants to be affirmed that they are lovable, capable and worthwhile.
We can start there.
12 Ways To Encourage A Child (Ages 0-118)
“You Are Lovable!”: Give attention to their character.
– Who they are has greater value than what they achieve.
– Accept mistakes; show grace.
– Bad decisions, poor choices and mistakes can be great teachers.
– Offer unconditional love. Trust can be conditional, love cannot.
“You Are Capable!”
Posted on Tuesday, August 26, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
He could hear the yelling from the neighbors’ house every night.
Shouts of anger.
Shouts of pain.
Shouts of passion.
“Was there any gain?”
The Cost of Turmoil
Teens, families, friendships and all kinds of relationships suffer because of the lack of peaceful conflict resolution skills. Conflicts arise, those involved feel hurt, disappointed, afraid or frustrated, and it quickly turns into anger. Anger often erupts in retaliation or brutal honesty. Alienation increases, relationships are broken, and scars are formed.
I have a friend learning to overcome her addiction. She’s at Hazelden looking for hope and skills. Last month Robin Williams was doing the same thing.
Sadly, yesterday the news spread that he’d given up his search.
…parents give up
…the tempted give in
…spouses give up
…students drop out
…employers lessen expectations
…lovers give in
…lonely people lower standards
…people give up.
Too often people
…feel all alone
In my experience people feel hope-less far more often than they need to.
Posted on Friday, July 4, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, Values
Today is Independence Day.
Could This Be Your Independence Day?
Excursus: This day is special for another reason, it’s Amy & Phil Hatcher’s wedding anniversary. Congrats you two!
Independence is on my mind.
Independence for you. Independence for me.
True independence. As my friend Jenny Dwyer said, is “Nothing missing. Nothing broken.”
My prayers are for you who, like me, need some more independence from our baggage:
- My friends who are trapped in their time-wasters.
- My friends who are caught in the trap of coping by cutting.
It’s heartbreaking to see people in pain. It’s perplexing to hear of loved ones who hurt one another.
Most people try to help not hurt. Most people look for solutions not problems, but too often the solutions slam one another.
“Good people” gossip.
“Kind-hearted” people talk behind backs.
“Loving” people SCREAM angrily!
Foolish, hurtful solutions to initiate change.
“And so, each of us must give an account to God for what we do…Yes, each of us will give a personal account to God.” 1
Posted on Sunday, June 15, 2014
in Reviews, Spiritual, Values
I had been interested in reading The Red Sea Rules by Robert J. Morgan for quite some time. Subtitled, “10 God-Given Strategies for Difficult Times” I was looking for helpful help.
The author suggests, “take a deep breath and recall this deeper secret of the Christian life: when you are in a difficult place, realize that the Lord either placed you there or allowed you to be there, for reasons perhaps known for now only to Himself. The same God who led you in will lead you out.”
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