RSS Feed
Jul 1

Dishonesty: A Cultural Problem

Posted on Monday, July 1, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

1209081_city_people_at_sunset“Lying is a cooperative act…We’re against lying, but we’re covertly for it, in ways that our society has sanctioned for centuries and centuries.” That quote from Pamela Meyer validates my belief that honesty is counter-cultural.

Honesty is a culturally threatening; few people make it a constant choice. Lying is so prevalent that it’s counter-cultural to choose to be honest.

“On a given day, studies show that you may be lied to anywhere from 10 to 200 times. Now granted, many of those are white lies.”

“White lies”? Lying is so common we even have designations for lies.

Mar 6

Secrets: Our Hiding

Posted on Wednesday, March 6, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

hidenseekSecrets, we all have them.
Secrets, we all guard them.
Secrets, we all fear their exposure.

Yesterday I mentioned Josh Groban’s song Hidden Away.

If you haven’t had a chance to hear it, give it a listen. He opens the song with:

“Over mountains and sky blue seas
On great circles will you watch for me?
The sweetest feeling I’ve got inside
I just can’t wait to get lost in your eyes
And all these words that you meant to say
Held in silence day after day
Words of kindness that our poor hearts crave
Please don’t keep them hidden away”

Jan 10

Just Faking It

Posted on Thursday, January 10, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

This past weekend I was in a conversation with a group of people about when they received their first pair of glasses. I received my first pair of glasses in second grade. I couldn’t read the blackboard in school very well.

One person said third grade.
Another said fifth grade.
A fourth person said, “in junior high.”

“Really?”, I asked.
He added, “Well, I needed them years before, but I was just faking it.”

Just Faking It

Ah, just faking it.

Too often we fake reality wishing it was different, when it’s not.

Aug 3

Admit Your Weaknesses, Part 1 of 2

Posted on Wednesday, August 3, 2011 in Social, Spiritual, Values

Recently I’ve written about the value of self-esteem insurance.  Access your strengths first.  Admit your weaknesses second.

Bad Habit, Deep Roots

Friday while helping friends move I saw Marla’s Caribbean Cuisine.  I wanted a menu.

For no apparent reason when I pulled into the parking lot I thought to myself, “I’ll just say I just moved into the neighborhood. They’ll gladly give me a takeout menu.”

It made no sense.
– If they had takeout menus, they would gladly give me one.
– If they did not, saying I was new to the neighborhood would not create one.