Posted on Wednesday, March 25, 2015 in Uncategorized
“I don’t know why I’m telling you this…” and the story continues.
Don’t get me wrong, I love their trust. I love your trust.
I’m honored to share your joys and your sorrows. To hear the details of the journey you’re on complete with proud smiles and guilty smirks, pain-filled glances or a losing fight to hold back the tears. Or, sadly, the flat affect from being so worn down by the long list of past pains.
I just wish there weren’t so many detours.
Posted on Monday, March 9, 2015 in Uncategorized
This is a picture of my friends Tiffany and Barry. I’ll see Barry next month. I last saw Tif in 1991.
Tiffany, Kris, Jenny, Eric, Rajjon, Adam, John, Beng, and Tyler, all TreeHouse teens. All gone. Way too soon.
Life Is Short
This is post is part of a series entitled “10 for 25.” It’s about ten lessons – most of them hard lessons to learn – that I’ve learned over my twenty-five years at TreeHouse.
Life is short. Our time with loved ones is never guaranteed.
Posted on Tuesday, May 13, 2014 in Uncategorized
I went to a funeral last week.
I looked around.
I captured the moment.
I saw the faces that filled the spaces.
The grief was clear.
The sadness is tender.
The care was genuine.
The affection was deep.
The appreciation was sincere.
I saw regret wash over some faces.
Maybe for Vern; the dear man who passed away. Maybe, or more likely, for words never spoken to others.
It’s true, “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.” 1
So, on their behalf, and for each of us, here are two words of wisdom:
Posted on Monday, March 17, 2014 in Uncategorized
This is a 1996 picture of our son Josh, our daughter Shannon and our dog Taz.
Taz was a miniature schnauzer; a little dog with a big-dog personality. Taz was fun and funny.
Taz loved people. Taz would find his ball and set it into your lap. He was inviting you to play with him.
Taz loved to play fetch.
Taz learned to flip his head and open his mouth at the same time.
In doing so, he could throw his ball back to you!
Posted on Thursday, March 6, 2014 in Uncategorized
Last night I sat with a group of men, young and old; a forty-year spread among them. Teens, college students and, as I like to call them, “grownups” sat together.
I told them the story of “my crossroad.” I then asked them, “When was a time when things didn’t work out the way wanted them to?”
After a moment, one brave guy replied, “When I went to college. It was much different than high school. All my friends were gone.” Another guy listened, and added, “My first day as a teacher I almost threw up. Literally I almost threw up. I was so anxious.”
Posted on Wednesday, March 5, 2014 in Uncategorized
“Sometimes I just wanna choke somebody,” he said.
Exasperated with his friend, he was beside himself. “Why does he do such stupid things?” he asked no one. “What’s he thinking?” he continued.
I imagine the friends of this young man may have thought the same thing.
Somethings just don’t seem to make sense but all we wanna hear is something that does make sense. Unfortunately, too often we’re not really listening.
Listening Before Speaking
Posted on Tuesday, March 4, 2014 in Uncategorized
Yesterday I introduced you to the woman who cried alone.
She wept alone.
She didn’t choose to be alone.
She simply was alone.
The grocery store was full of alone people. Most did not choose to be alone. Some did.
Some were not alone; they were with family, friends, co-workers and colleagues.
They were with people in person.
And “with” people on their phones.
But that woman cried alone.
Until people stopped being alone.
And they started being together.
Together, No Longer Alone
Posted on Monday, March 3, 2014 in Uncategorized
She wept alone.
Her cries muffled.
Muffled, but not muted.
Restricted, but not restrained.
She Wept Alone
There between the snack crackers and the cookies, she wept.
I heard her.
She heard her.
And, she heard her too.
A guy looked back and walked on.
Another woman peered over her shoulder. She barely hesitated.
Countless people in the grocery aisles, on their phones, passed by – without a glance – as she wept. Maybe they couldn’t hear? Maybe they couldn’t stop? Maybe they couldn’t care!
She Wept, Alone
Posted on Thursday, February 27, 2014 in Uncategorized
When I am teaching people how to teach the Bible I have had a consistent message: “Pray, pray, pray, and, while maintaining healthy boundaries, teach what God is teaching you.
When you have the choice, teach what God has taught you recently or is teaching you now. It’s fresh.
Since you are teaching what you are learning it will come from you to your audience from the perspective of a learner.”
This is important to me because I have fallen into the trap of feeling like I needed to appear to be “the expert” more than I’d like to admit.
Posted on Thursday, February 13, 2014 in Uncategorized
These last few days we’ve been looking at some Bruno Mars songs and lyrics since he was featured on the Super Bowl Halftime Show.
Today is Amy and my 320-month wedding anniversary. Yes, I still count months because I treasure our marriage. MySilentScream is here Inspiring Great Relationships Every Day and I hope to inspire you to treasure marriage, whether it’s yours or not.
In “Marry You” Bruno sings,
Cause it’s a beautiful night,
We’re looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you.