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Feb 2

Pro Bowl Friendships Need Fresh Gameplans

Posted on Thursday, February 2, 2012 in Uncategorized

The Pro Bowl is the NFL’s version of an all-star game. Pro Bowl players are selected by votes from the coaches, players and fans, each of which count for a third of the votes. 

Choosing the best possible players doesn’t guarantee success.  Each player still has the responsibility to perform at his highest level in concert with his fellow teammates.

Game Planning

If you could choose a roster of friends would you have chosen someone like yourself? If you could game plan how you relate to your friends would you make the same choices that you have? If you could game plan how your friends related to you would you make the same choices that they do?

Jan 13

Counting My Blessings

Posted on Friday, January 13, 2012 in Uncategorized

It’s the 13th; the 13th of the month.

It’s FRIDAY the 13th. 

For some of you that conjures up images of Jason Voorhees, and others a superstitious fear of Friday the 13th. 

My Friday the 13ths are neither a horror story, nor unlucky.  Just the opposite! 

Amy & I started going out on Friday the 13th.   
We married on the 13th.
Amy’s birthday is on a 13th.

Today is the 313th 13th that Amy & I have been “going out.”

It’s been 1361 weeks.
It’s been 9527 days.
And, I’m still counting my blessings!

Dec 2

I’m Sorry & Thank you

Posted on Friday, December 2, 2011 in Uncategorized

This week my friend Adam took the time to sincerely, and publicly offer his thanks to people that have helped him through a rough stretch of life.  Almost fifty responses later I appreciate that Adam and those who responded to his gratitude have exposed something missing in society — a cultural shortcoming — sincerity.

Sincerity is missing in our society. 

Far too many people hide their motives in manipulation.

Adam is a caring, compassionate, courageous, but conflicted person whose worse battles in life have been with himself.

Yesterday I reminded all of us about 12 Times to Say “I’m Sorry.

Oct 13

Today is My Wife Amy’s Birthday!

Posted on Thursday, October 13, 2011 in Uncategorized

9493 days ago I met this really cute blond girl in the lobby of her college dorm. A couple months later I was thrilled she agreed to go out with me.  You can read more about our relationship here.

As Amy and I started dating it became clear that she set a benchmark of kindness, humility and thoughtfulness that far exceeded my own.

Amy does not pursue unsolicited attention for her actions, but I watched and wondered, “Could I ever be like her?”

Sep 23

Love Changes Lives

Posted on Friday, September 23, 2011 in Uncategorized

I’m about to speak at my 4th school this week.  Bethel U today.  All week long I’ve been thinking about relationships.  

I’ve seen wonderful, caring, supportive people connecting.  
I’ve seen cold, distant, wounded people avoid connecting.
I’ve seen people laugh, and people cry.

As I’m finishing up this very busy week I’d like to leave you with some relationships advice that I’ve received, believed and adopted into my own life.

This advice is changing me.  I’m grateful for the many of you who are patient with me when I have my “fail” days.

Sep 21

Intimate Friendships

Posted on Wednesday, September 21, 2011 in Uncategorized

Reminder – Yesterday, I offered some tips about “happy friendships” you can find them here.

I’ve spent most of my adult life studying women — insert your joke here.  I’ve read books about femininity, anatomy and physiology, female health, historical Western women values, feminism, menstruation, and mood swings.  In fact, I’m reading a book right now by a woman for teen girls about teen guys. I’m reading it to understand how women view men.

In doing so, I have gained an incredible and valuable understanding that, frankly, many men don’t have.  

Sep 20

Secrets For Happy Friendships

Posted on Tuesday, September 20, 2011 in Uncategorized

Hints For a Happy Friendship 1

Make friends even if you don’t think you need them.
Seek out quiet people. They have a lot to say, if you say something first.
Don’t establish a friendship based on mutual dislikes.
Call if you’re running late.
Look people in the eye when you talk to them.
Be one who says positive things about others.
Learn to tell a good story.
Ask other people about themselves.
Be happy for others in their good fortune.
Make sure your caring includes doing.
Know when to say good-bye.

Sep 9

My Story, Day 9

Posted on Friday, September 9, 2011 in Uncategorized

When I thought about writing about me, and my life, for two weeks I couldn’t imagine what I would write.  As my last post has arrived I feel I’ve run out of time, not run out of things to say.

So I chose three pictures that tell a story about who I am and who I am becoming.


The first picture is my favorite picture of just me.  Really, I could not imagine a picture that better captures my love for fun and willingness to take on challenges.

I’m “butt-surfing” a waterfall, Big Smokey to be specific.

Jun 16

Embrace Awareness Of The Neediness Of Others

Posted on Thursday, June 16, 2011 in Uncategorized

Okay, how cool is that.  I was just thinking about my friend Jonnie & I was about to write about my friend Erica.

They walked into the coffee shop I’m in, together!

Let me explain.

Jonnie and his brother Nate are in the Navy.  Jonnie will soon join Nate in Hawaii.  Nate will be stationed there until he is re-assigned to Guam.

I was thinking about Jonnie because next Spring I will see his smiling face IN Hawaii.


Yeah, I know, right?!?!

We no longer use credit cards, so a “plastic vacation” is not an option.

Jun 15

Embrace Your Loneliness

Posted on Wednesday, June 15, 2011 in Uncategorized

This picture creates many mixed feelings for me; the most evident feeling is loneliness.

The picture reminds me of who I might have become if I never learned to be a friend.

My best friends growing up were our dogs.  My dog was a friendly, patient, German Shepherd named Shawn.

Shawn was the best friend I had, but I needed people-friends too.


Sitting in my basement bedroom was my high school haven.  Posters on the wall, a dog on my bed, clothes on the floor and music in my head.  It was my room.  All mine.