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Jan 30

Need a Jump-Start? Let Go Of Judgments

Posted on Thursday, January 30, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

boy13777990034qk36It’s freezing cold in Minnesota this week. Many cars lay dead needing a jump-start.

Many of us need a jump-start in our cold heart.  My suggestion: Let go of judgments.

“One of the best changes I’ve made to help me be happier,” wrote Leo Babauta, “is learning to see judging other people as a red flag.” Yesterday we highlighted Leo’s insightful post Letting Go of Judging People.

I know I’m imperfect, I’m flawed. I’m a sinner. I have no right to judge anyone, but I still judge others far too often.

Jan 28

Frigid Temps Gracious Hearts

Posted on Tuesday, January 28, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

1392583_car_tracks_in_snowTwo stories.
Car related.

My friend Lois posted on Facebook, “we slid off the road, over a curb, and got stuck in a snowbank on a sidewalk.”

Here’s the “Good stuff…passengers fine, car fine.” That’s real good news.

With health and safety not an issue Lois continued with what she called “awesome stuff.”

Frigid Temps Gracious Hearts

Once they assessed their circumstances they called their neighbor with a “monster truck.” These are the days everyone wished they knew a neighbor with a monster truck.

Better yet, Monster-truck Neighbor has a good heart. He said he’d “be right over.”

Jan 2

Mouths Speak, Eyes Talk

Posted on Thursday, January 2, 2014 in Relational, Social, Values

eye-close-up-1386149-mI worked with Cheryl, and Wes is a close friend to our family, but I’d only met Amber (Cheryl’s daughter) a couple times.

When Amber first spoke to me about her relationship with Paul and invited me to officiate their wedding I had a blend of feelings. The list was long and enmeshed, but my feelings could best be summarized with these three questions:
Do they know what “love” is?
– Do they share the same definition?
– Do they love one another with that love?

Aug 3

Watch Your Words Diligently

Posted on Saturday, August 3, 2013 in Relational

JesusCallingA few years ago my wife introduced me to Sarah Young’s writing. In 2004 Thomas Nelson published Jesus Calling.

Jesus Calling is a book of daily inspiration written from the perspective of Jesus Christ speaking to the reader. My wife likes it so much she has given away several copies.

Eventually her enthusiasm led me to download a copy.

I’m not a daily Jesus Calling reader, but I’m almost never disappointed when I take the time to read Sarah’s writing. Today in particular her words challenged me and my sense of humor.

Watch Your Words Diligently

Jul 23

Kindness Heals

Posted on Tuesday, July 23, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Peanut_Butter_TextureWhen I was a child I began my love for peanut butter sandwiches.

I at a LOT of peanut butter sandwiches.

Since we didn’t have enough fruit preserves to keep up with my voracious peanut butter sandwich consumption rate, I looked for alternatives.

Peanut Butter and maple syrup was too wet.
Peanut Butter and butter was not sweet enough.
Peanut Butter and apple sauce was yummy.
Peanut Butter and honey was my favorite.

I ate hundreds and hundreds of peanut butter and honey sandwiches. The peanut butter was tasty and nutritious and the light honey coating was just sweet enough to add to the deliciousness.

Jun 27

You Get Me

Posted on Thursday, June 27, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

teenage_brother_and_sisterI spend a lot of time with loud, laughing teenagers. I love their energy. I love their whimsy. I love their willingness to have fun.

Have you ever been in a store, library or restaurant and noticed a group of teens gathered near you who were louder than anyone else?

Maybe they were aware of how loud they were.
Maybe they were not.

I also spend a fair amount of time with “socially awkward” teens. Some are more awkward than others:
– They ask questions at inopportune times:
“Can we go to McDonalds now?”

– They uninhibitedly comment, assess and judge:
“Scott, you’re an xxxhole.”

– They uninhibitedly say what most people would not:
“I like (masturbating).”

May 28

While Sitting In A Coffee Shop

Posted on Tuesday, May 28, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

CoffeeBeansHere are some coffee beans. I’ll miss them.

“While sitting in a coffee shop” won’t be in my vocabulary for a couple of weeks.

For the next few weeks I’m taking my son Josh’s challenge – and joining a couple family and friends – who are assessing their intact.

Portion-size is by-far my biggest problem, but foregoing caffeine is part of the challenge.

May 17

Is Grace Happening To You?

Posted on Friday, May 17, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

jesus_in_the_gardenIs grace happening to you?
Is grace happening in you?
Is grace happening through you?

I’ve been stuck emotionally and spiritually more than I’d like to admit. Raise your hand if you can relate? Okay, we’re all “not alone.” But, let’s not stay stuck!

Looking to take a step forward in your life?

Want your actions to more closely match your intentions?

Me too!

Each of the themes below links to a previous mysilentscream post that has been helpful to readers looking to make a change. 1

Love – Tired of empty expressions of “love”?

Apr 24

Brave by Josh Groban

Posted on Wednesday, April 24, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

boston-marathon-mobility-impaired-athlete-competing-his-way-hopkinton-to-massachusetts-usa-april-30448392While watching footage of the recent Boston Marathon, I, like you, felt shock and awe watching brave people run toward the scared and injured. I felt humbled by their bravery. Josh Groban wrote a wonderful song about being brave.

Josh Groban – Brave

Wake up, wake up, the sun cannot wait for long
Reach out, reach out before it fades away
You will find the warmth when you surrender
Smile into the fear and let it play

Apr 23

False Alarms by Josh Groban

Posted on Tuesday, April 23, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

clock-69184_640Josh Groban’s song False Alarms is about a dating relationship, but the feelings he’s feeling can also apply to other relationships where there have been hurt feelings.

False Alarms

Far across this red horizon
I am walking down the line
I am picking up the pieces
That this storm has left behind

After all the clouds are fallen
I would breach the battered ground
Turn your darkness into light love
Turn your silence into sound

But I can’t cage you in my arms
When my heart is jumping forward
To avoid your false alarms
And you can’t tell me not to stay
When I opened up your window
And I watched you fly away