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Aug 1


Posted on Friday, August 1, 2014 in Uncategorized

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Today’s chalkboard: I will not carve gods.

When I was in elementary school I, like most kids, loved field trips. I loved them all, but one of my favorites was to the Field Museum in Chicago.

I loved the giant dinosaur skeleton!

Sex on the Second Level

Jan 9

Our Dream for TreeHouse Support Groups

Posted on Wednesday, January 9, 2013 in Uncategorized

While it’s true that love can happen anywhere, there are standards and expectations that provide an environment in which a healthy community grows.

As I wrote yesterday, “every week as I sit in our TreeHouse support groups I am in awe. Teens find hope amid their hurt, faith amid their fears, and love despite their pangs of loneliness…I wish everyone had a community like that.”

I Wish We Did Too

As my friend Hudson pointed out tonight, the following list is a wish list — Imagine If… — based on hopes and dreams. While some of them are possible, and others are measurable, there are on the list that are almost fantasies; but, still we reach and stretch for more.

Jan 8

Love Can Happen Anywhere

Posted on Tuesday, January 8, 2013 in Uncategorized

Every week as I sit in our TreeHouse support groups I am in awe. Teens find hope amid their hurt, faith amid their fears, and love despite their pangs of loneliness.

I wish everyone had a community like that.

As I tell the teens all the time, this level of communication, this kind of intimacy and this freedom to be flawed or successful without judgement can happen anywhere, at anytime when people have the same vision and similar communication skills.

Love can happen anywhere.

It’s a choice.

Aug 19

Your Love Is Extravagant

Posted on Sunday, August 19, 2012 in Uncategorized

As a followup to yesterday’s post entitled Extravagant Love, here is a wonderful, simple song by Casting Crowns.

Your Love Is Extravagant” 1

Your love is extravagant
Your friendship, it is intimate
I feel like moving to the rhythm of Your grace
Your fragrance is intoxicating in our secret place
Your love is extravagant

Spread wide in the arms of Christ is the love that covers sin
No greater love have I ever known You considered me a friend
Capture my heart again

Spread wide in the arms of Christ is the love that covers sin
No greater love have I ever known; You considered me a friend

Apr 6

Good Friday – I Wanna Know What Love Is

Posted on Friday, April 6, 2012 in Uncategorized

Ask most any child, teen, adult or senior citizen, “What is love?” and their answers will vary. They might not vary so much in the quaity of their experience, but the quantity of their experiences.

Sure, love involves feelings — romanticized by music, literature, and other media, but it’s also so much more.

We all yearn to create and — when we feel like we’re losing it — recreate the “love” what we feel we have lost.

Why do marriage fall apart?
Why do dating relationships between people who “love” one another fail?

They feel like the “love” is lost.

Mar 22

Keep Your Love Alive – True Intimacy Provides Significance and Security

Posted on Tuesday, March 22, 2011 in Uncategorized

True intimacy is far more than physical interaction. Sexuality is not limited to the genitals: it covers a much broader spectrum of caresses, kisses, friendly company and words of affection. It includes a unity of personality, emotions, and our spiritual nature.

Charles Sell suggests that in order for there to be sweet music in our relationship we must keep in mind “if you’re married to a violin, be a bow.” 1

Get to know one another more intimately.

True Intimacy Takes Time

Maintaining an intimate relationship involves renovating and maintaining the romance.

Mar 21

Keep Your Love Alive – True Intimacy

Posted on Monday, March 21, 2011 in Uncategorized

Gary Smalley wrote, “Sharing deep feelings with each other is emotional intercourse, and it’s vital to sexual satisfaction.

Listening to couples talk about their sex lives for the past two decades certainly has validated that statement.

Charlie Shedd interviewed a number of women and asked about their sex life. One woman said, “I always thought that sex begins at breakfast.  A few tender words to start things off would mean so much.  Then perhaps a phone call sometime during the day.  Some endearments exchanged when he comes home and maybe some help with the supper dishes.  Talking things over after the children are in bed.  Exchanging ideas. Discussing what we’ve been doing during the day.  A love pat here and a few kisses at the right time.  I guess I’ve had the wrong idea.  I thought maybe sex could begin at breakfast, build up during the day, and then explode in bed at night!”