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Jan 12

Too Many

Posted on Monday, January 12, 2015 in Emotional, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

44toomanyI’ve found myself dissatisfied with my house recently. My wife and I have been watching HGTV home remodeling shows streaming on Netflix.

I usually love my house, but when I see some of the marvelous modifications the designers and artisans create I wonder, “why not me too”?

I wonder, why not me? Is it…

Low priority?

And, that’s just my house.

Those same questions apply to my level of fitness, my clutter, my incomplete projects and my unfulfilled dreams. If I settle for what I have – without working for what could be – I’ll never improve on what is.

Dec 31


Posted on Wednesday, December 31, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values

construction-410029-m2014 has been a busy year. Sometimes it’s felt like this picture, a pile of rubble that caution-tape couldn’t hold back.

That said, I feel very blessed; #mysilentscream was again blessed by thousands of readers in more than eighty countries.

I had no idea what 2014 would contain. At the dawn of 2014 I’d never…
– heard of ISIS
– expected $2 a gallon gas prices

Jun 9

Go Team!

Posted on Monday, June 9, 2014 in How To, Relational, Social, Values

Go Team“Spring Cleaning.”

What came to mind when you saw those words?

A celebration of the end of winter, a chore you dread, attacking chaos, creating order, an invitation to newness or a time to prep for a garage sale, or something else?

Maybe spring cleaning was just something other people did.

Bringing spring cleaning into our family culture is one of my wife’s wonderful contributions to our “team.” As Amy describes it, spring cleaning goes beyond the daily and weekly routines to deep clean.

Spring Cleaning

Nov 21

Destination: Dowling Ave

Posted on Thursday, November 21, 2013 in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Values

0839_i94_wb_nearexit228As a twelve-grader I was, I was a “survivor.

I survived, not in a life-and-death manner that some do today, but as an endurance test.

Spanish class was my least favorite class, so it was there that I tested my endurance the most.

Since I was already watching the clock, I decided to see how long I could hold my breath. “Go!”
– More than 45 seconds
– A minute
– 75 … 90 … 100 seconds
I was silently feeling so proud when I finally made it to two minutes.
The best I ever did in high school was 2:04. I was so proud, and breathless.

Nov 13

Shared Passion

Posted on Wednesday, November 13, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Values

A-BuenoSunday I wrote about the passion of Dick Butkus Hall of Fame football player. I want to have a clear passion for life. I admire those who do.

Last night I wrote an email to a VP from a prestigious restaurant chain on behalf of a friend.

I work at the Brooklyn Park TreeHouse. I’ve been part of TreeHouse since the 1980s and few of my TreeHouse alumni have been as passionate and enthusiastic about his career plans as Fernando Bueno.

Dec 1

The Blessed Church by Robert Morris

Posted on Saturday, December 1, 2012 in Relational, Reviews, Social, Spiritual, Values

In The Blessed Church, subtitled “The Simple Secret to Growing the Church You Love”, Pastor Robert Morris commends readers to believe a healthy church is possible.

Morris provides practical wisdom he has learned throughout his ministry years, particularly principles and practices from his time serving with Gateway Church.


“Without a doubt, my vision for Gateway Church crystallized, expanded, and deepened over the years, but from the very beginning there were three key things I was determined that, with God’s grace and supernatural empowerment, we would do as a church. The following were the central goals of my vision:

Nov 13

Fess Up!

Posted on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, Values

This weekend at Anika’s baby dedication we shared parenting advice with the new parents Angi & Aaron.

My wife Amy said, “If you mess up, fess up.” 

She elaborated, “when you make mistakes admit them.”

Unfortunately, Amy learned that lesson from my…umm…from me.

You see, I’ve had to fess up a lot.

When I Mismanage My Life I Neglect My Highest Priorities

When I have mismanaged my life it’s my wife and God who get cheated. Sadly, I take for granted those who love me the most. I haven’t rejected my faith in God, I’ve just gotten so busy that I have not included God in my thoughts, feelings and plans as often as I would prefer.

Nov 12

Benchmarks For The Rest Of My Days

Posted on Monday, November 12, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

This weekend with a flurry of activity, a wonderful conversation-filled open house, and, as my friend Julia remarked, “the social media Birthday bandwagon”, I turned fifty.

Then, yesterday I became godfather to cute little Anika.   

It was a busy, but great weekend.

Today, I’m fifty years and two days old.

The celebrations are over, now what am I going to do with the rest of my days?

What Now?

Even as I typed that I have tears in my eyes.

Aug 30

Goals, Fears & FACE IT

Posted on Thursday, August 30, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

If you’re like most people I know, you’ve wanted to get some things done this summer.
Good intentions, but the followup through fell through.

You might be asking, “What can I do about my procrastinating?”
To that I might ask, “Why are you procrastinating now?”

Yesterday I introduced a helpful exercise I’m calling “Face It” or F.A.C.E. I.T.

F – Find something that you know you’re procrastinating with
A – Ask yourself, “Why am I procrastinating with this?”
C – Challenge your reasons to feel your feelings & find the facts
E – Examine your reasons: What do you feel strongest?

Aug 29

Face It

Posted on Wednesday, August 29, 2012 in Education, Emotional, Financial, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Yesterday, I exposed a few reasons why we procrastinate including:

We feel overwhelmed.
We overestimate the amount of time needed.
We would rather be doing something else.
We think if we wait long, the task will go away.
We fear failure.
We fear success.
We enjoy the last-minute adrenaline rush.

What’s beneath those reasons?

There are many factors, here are a few:

Christopher procrastinates signing up for football because he’s afraid to have all the lies he’s told about his abilities exposed.