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Oct 22

Poof

Posted on Tuesday, October 22, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

bloody-hand-printMost mornings my brain is awash in busy-thoughts. Today it’s calm.
In my brain played “Nothing But The Blood” by Robert Lowry.

I love this song because it reminds me of the freedom God’s forgiveness brings me.

What can wash away my sin?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus:

Despite my sins (spiritual and moral shortcomings) God’s grace offers a clean re-start.

What can make me whole again?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus.

I know my sins damage my sense of self.

Oh! precious is the flow
That makes me white as snow;

Jun 28

6 Ways To Help People Who Messed Up

Posted on Friday, June 28, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

536498_mother_and_sonEvery time we choose to show empathy we bless the other person with respect and we bless ourselves with self-respect.

Show empathy to those who mess up.

6 Ways To Help People Who Messed Up

1. Help her or him to realize what they have done.

2. Don’t make things worse by supporting their error or giving them excuses.

3. Listen for what is behind what they have done.

4. Tell them the truth.
– Locate The Trouble Spots.
– Try to assess what has gone wrong.
– Ask yourself, “How did we get into this mess?”
– Apologize When You’re Wrong.
– It is foolish to let pride and insecurity keep us from repairing and restoring.

Jun 4

Desperate

Posted on Tuesday, June 4, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

myself___1Desperately scared he cried out for God’s help. His girlfriend was pregnant. That wasn’t the plan. This boy cried like a man.

Jesus taught that “blessed are the poor in spirit” – the spiritually poor – because those who recognize they are spiritually helpless are actually ready for good news. 1

God blesses those who realize their need for him. We’re blessed when we’re at the end of our rope.
– No excuses.
– No minimizing.
– No justifications.
A heart that honestly regrets the past, is welcomed and transformed by God.

Jan 16

Need A Jump-Start? Try Forgiveness.

Posted on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Need a jump-start for your character?

Try forgiveness.

Forgive Yourself and Forgive Others.

There are three common possibilities after conflict occurs:
– Conflict escalates
– Conflict goes underground
– Conflict is resolved constructively

So often when we screw up we respond one of three ways:
– Defend
– Deflect or Deny
– Deal with it

Fortunately, our perspective does not limit God’s perspective.

Jan 7

Welcome To The Family

Posted on Monday, January 7, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

I have some friends who are choosing to start a new or refreshed relationship with God.

Those decisions made me think of these wise works:

“To live as God’s child is to know, at this very instant, that you are loved by your Maker
– NOT because you try to please God and succeed,
– OR fail to please God and apologize,
– BUT because God wants to be your Father. Nothing more.

All your efforts to win God’s affection are unnecessary.
All your fears of losing God’s affection are needless.

Dec 20

28 Questions – Are You A Great Friend?

Posted on Thursday, December 20, 2012 in Relational

I believe almost all mysilentscream readers want to have good friends, and be a good friend.

Last week I spent time with my two longest-term best friends, Steve and Murph. While spending time in and easy conversation with old friends I was reminded what a treasure they are to me.

I also was reminded how often I take them and our friendships for granted.

I hope that you have less regrets in your friendships. Maybe this assessment will help you evaluate how good of a friend you are. As you take it I hope that you
– Feel encouraged that you have some helpful friendship skills
– Find some strategies that aren’t helping you or your friends

Nov 18

Wild Grace by Max Lucado and James Lund

Posted on Sunday, November 18, 2012 in Reviews, Spiritual, Values

The text of Wild Grace was adapted from Max Lucado’s book Grace. Gray boxes behind the text indicate places where new words and stories were added by James Lund specifically for our teen readers. 

If you read my review of Grace you know I enjoyed it.  I was interested in finding out how Lund adapted Lucado’s book for teens.

I Liked

Lund expands on Lucado adding, “One dictionary definition of “grace” is “unmerited divine assistance.” Sounds simple enough— God giving us something we don’t deserve. But do we really get grace? And even if we do, does it have anything to do with our lives?”

Nov 17

Grace by Max Lucado

Posted on Saturday, November 17, 2012 in Reviews, Spiritual, Values

I follow Max Lucado on Twitter. 

When I read tweets like these I began to be excited to read his most recent book Grace.


“To discover grace is to discover God’s utter devotion to you, his stubborn resolve to give you a cleansing, healing love”

“Your identity is not in possessions, talents or accomplishments. Nor are you defined by divorce, debt or dumb choices.”

“Mercy pardons us. Grace empowers us.”

I love what I read in the tweets.
I assumed that they were quotes.
I assumed wrong.

Despite that, I love the book.

Nov 13

Fess Up!

Posted on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, Values

This weekend at Anika’s baby dedication we shared parenting advice with the new parents Angi & Aaron.

My wife Amy said, “If you screw up, fess up.” 

She elaborated, “when you make mistakes admit them.”

Unfortunately, Amy learned that lesson from my…umm…from me.

You see, I’ve had to fess up a lot.

When I Mismanage My Life I Neglect My Highest Priorities

When I have mismanaged my life it’s my wife and God who get cheated. Sadly, I take for granted those who love me the most. I haven’t rejected my faith in God, I’ve just gotten so busy that I have not included God in my thoughts, feelings and plans as often as I would prefer.

Nov 12

Benchmarks For The Rest Of My Days

Posted on Monday, November 12, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

This weekend with a flurry of activity, a wonderful conversation-filled open house, and, as my friend Julia remarked, “the social media Birthday bandwagon”, I turned fifty.

Then, yesterday I became godfather to cute little Anika.   

It was a busy, but great weekend.

Today, I’m fifty years and two days old.

The celebrations are over, now what am I going to do with the rest of my days?

What Now?

Even as I typed that I have tears in my eyes.