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Apr 24

Pay Attention

Posted on Thursday, April 24, 2014 in Relational, Values

toiletpaperThis is one of those times maybe I should have checked with someone else before I hit the “Publish” button, but frankly I think it fits my theme so comment your complaints if you need to.

This week we’re discussing Blind Spots. We all have them. Misguided thinking, bad decisions and the like. Often times other people can see our blind spots but we either ignore, deny, or dismiss them.

In the Blind Spots sub-category of “Preventable things I wish didn’t happen to me” I offer the following. I neither assume the following to be factual nor fictional; either way they serve as a warning to those of us who don’t always “pay attention.”

Apr 23

Hypocrisy

Posted on Wednesday, April 23, 2014 in Relational, Values

Cat - Beware of dogMost people have blind spots. I do. You do.

This week on mysilentscream.com we’re looking at a few common blind spots.

The classic blind spot is the justification, “Do as I say, not as I do.” The person or persons believe that the rules should apply to other people.

That must be how, as one woman pointed out, “There are countries that enforce strict ‘puritanical’ laws – no drinking, no parties, no intermingling males and females etc. Yet, members of the ruling class have their lavish parties, lots of alcohol and women etc etc. Is that hypocritical?” 1

Apr 22

Blind Spots

Posted on Tuesday, April 22, 2014 in Relational

Blindspot_three_cars_illus“BEEEEEP!” screamed someone’s car horn.
“Was that directed at me?” I asked myself.
It happened again last week.
I had done nothing wrong.
I hate when someone honks their horn at me rudely.

On the other hand, sometimes I’m in the wrong.

More than once, despite my best intentions I try to drive my car into an open traffic lane only to have someone wisely interrupt me with a well-deserved warning, “BEEEEEP!”

I was the rude one. I did not properly consider the possibility of a blind spot.

Blind Spots

Oct 2

Honestly Corrupted

Posted on Wednesday, October 2, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Values

Corruption Challenged

Why do people feel compelled to tell their friends that they like their ugly shirt? That “their hair is so cute”? That they enjoy a song that they’ve never heard? Or, watched a movie they’ve never seen?

Why?

I believe that it’s all boils down to a fear of rejection. Too often we are held in bondage by fear; that if we are honest that people will reject us.

I have found that people like and trust me more since I chose to always be honest than when I tried to say what I thought that they wanted me to say.

Aug 20

Comic Book Failure

Posted on Tuesday, August 20, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Justice League106Yesterday I explained that I began reading comic books when I was ten years old. Then for more than twenty years I didn’t read a single issue.

So when I resumed reading comic books initially it was to both revisit some special childhood memories and then to complete some stories with unresolved cliffhangers.

Little did I know that as I read I’d find meaningful lessons. For example, the comic book depicted here.

We’re Not Alone

Justice League was a team-based comic book series that faced only the biggest most challenging challenges. Their membership combined some of the greatest heroes in the DC Comic universe.

Aug 9

A Poem of Hope by Chris Whitford

Posted on Friday, August 9, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

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We’re gonna finish this week on mysilentscream with an insightful poem by Chris Whitford.

Hope licked its salty lips
And hung close as we both kissed

The lovely hearts of the amazing people

The hearts I keep close to me
In case the hope goes right through me

The hope of TreeHouse is an amazing thing
So don’t give up hope, no, don’t give up heart
Don’t leave this love in shards
Because the hate will eat you alive

But together we can strive
And be the best we can be
They even see the best in me

Aug 8

Hope: What You Want

Posted on Thursday, August 8, 2013 in Emotional, Music, Relational, Social, Values

Evanescence_What_You_Want_single_coverartAs you begin reading today, give Evanescence’s song “What You Want” a listen.

I asked some friends at TreeHouse, “What line stands out? Why that one?”

My friends Erin, Gabe, and Kelly liked:

Do what you, what you want
If you have a dream for better

Erin and Gabe agreed, “I like doing what I want.” Kelly added, “If you want to do something, don’t let people hold you back from doing something good.”

Chris liked:

Stand and face the unknown (got to remember who you really are)

Aug 7

Chameleon

Posted on Wednesday, August 7, 2013 in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERADo you know someone who really works hard at being someone else?

We all do.
Maybe it’s me.
Maybe it’s you.

I have been that person.

When I was in high school I sometimes felt desperate for friends. When I was included – even for a moment – I would try to blend in.

One night I had a guy tell me, “you’re like a chameleon.”

It was true.
I tried to fit in.
I would even try to talk and act like others.

The truth is, I seldom was really accepted.
Not by them.
And not by me.

Mar 6

Secrets: Our Hiding

Posted on Wednesday, March 6, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

hidenseekSecrets, we all have them.
Secrets, we all guard them.
Secrets, we all fear their exposure.

Yesterday I mentioned Josh Groban’s song Hidden Away.

If you haven’t had a chance to hear it, give it a listen. He opens the song with:

“Over mountains and sky blue seas
On great circles will you watch for me?
The sweetest feeling I’ve got inside
I just can’t wait to get lost in your eyes
And all these words that you meant to say
Held in silence day after day
Words of kindness that our poor hearts crave
Please don’t keep them hidden away”

Mar 5

Secrets Hidden Away

Posted on Tuesday, March 5, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values

SecretsSecrets, we all have them.
Secrets, we all guard them.
Secrets, we all fear their exposure.

This sweet song by Josh Groban describes one person’s challenge to help another feel safe enough to share those secrets.

Josh GrobanHidden Away

“Over mountains and sky blue seas
On great circles will you watch for me?
The sweetest feeling I’ve got inside
I just can’t wait to get lost in your eyes
And all these words that you meant to say
Held in silence day after day
Words of kindness that our poor hearts crave
Please don’t keep them hidden away