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Nov 21

Destination: Dowling Ave

Posted on Thursday, November 21, 2013 in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Values

0839_i94_wb_nearexit228As a twelve-grader I was, I was a “survivor.

I survived, not in a life-and-death manner that some do today, but as an endurance test.

Spanish class was my least favorite class, so it was there that I tested my endurance the most.

Since I was already watching the clock, I decided to see how long I could hold my breath. “Go!”
– More than 45 seconds
– A minute
– 75 … 90 … 100 seconds
I was silently feeling so proud when I finally made it to two minutes.
The best I ever did in high school was 2:04. I was so proud, and breathless.

Aug 20

Comic Book Failure

Posted on Tuesday, August 20, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Justice League106Yesterday I explained that I began reading comic books when I was ten years old. Then for more than twenty years I didn’t read a single issue.

So when I resumed reading comic books initially it was to both revisit some special childhood memories and then to complete some stories with unresolved cliffhangers.

Little did I know that as I read I’d find meaningful lessons. For example, the comic book depicted here.

We’re Not Alone

Justice League was a team-based comic book series that faced only the biggest most challenging challenges. Their membership combined some of the greatest heroes in the DC Comic universe.

Nov 9

Turning 50: Alone, But Not

Posted on Friday, November 9, 2012 in Beyond Whatever Promos, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

I’m turning 50 this week. 

I’m not yet fifty — it’s just one day away — but I thought I’d lead you through my journey, and maybe you’ll learn a thing or two that will help you on your journey.

Alone, But Not

You know how it is when you feel less alone when someone else can understand your pain?

There are days when I live like a practical atheist. 

Not that I don’t care about God, but that I don’t even think about God.

Sep 28

Hiding

Posted on Friday, September 28, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Dating difficulties drag us down.  Whether it’s crying our way through a painful breakup, dealing with being dumped, or coping with the obvious sense  that we’ve blundered, blown it and need to move on, they all drag us down.

Dragged Down

Maybe you don’t have dating drama.  Maybe you’re jealous of the cute girl in the next cubicle, the muscular guy in the seat next to you, or the smart girl who always has the right answer.

Maybe you’re an unemployed NFL referee whose mistakes were played over and over on national TV. 

Sep 23

Make Life Better

Posted on Sunday, September 23, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

Why Come To TreeHouse?

You’ll learn you’re not alone in dealing with any issue.
You’ll learn how to support someone else in need.
You’ll realize you’re lovable, capable and worthwhile.

At TreeHouse you will always be listened to and what you say matters to others.

Mentoring at TreeHouse Makes Life Better

Decrease at-risk behavior – 98% reduce at least one at-risk behavior
Build healthy relationships with God, self & others – 81% choose to
Graduate High School – 24% more likely to graduate than their peers
Pursue an educational or vocational track for their future – 93% choose to

Sep 7

Mercy! Count the Cost!

Posted on Friday, September 7, 2012 in Education, Emotional, Financial, How To, Intellectual, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

This week I’m responding to Ken Davis’ call to be “fully alive.” Fully alive people are characterized by many things including meaningful friendships, courageously overcoming fear, and a determination to course corrections when they fail.

We all fail.  Failure is painful.

Pain is part of the price of living.
– Love is painful.
– Relationships are painful.
– Failing is painful.

If we choose to move forward in our quest to live fully alive, we will fall, it will hurt . . . and it will be worth it.

Be prepared to pay the price. Change costs.  Progress can be painful.

Sep 6

Fail Quickly

Posted on Thursday, September 6, 2012 in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, Values

I had just thrown an interception. In my opinion, throwing an interception was letting my team down. I failed to complete the pass. I failed to help my teammate Madison. She could have caught a good pass, but I threw it where she couldn’t catch it. 

“Other Scott” happily grabbed it. 

“Other Scott” won the game’s MVP award, but I — this Scott — let my team down. I hate when I let my team down.

Fortunately, I was not alone.

God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control.” 1

Aug 30

Goals, Fears & FACE IT

Posted on Thursday, August 30, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

If you’re like most people I know, you’ve wanted to get some things done this summer.
Good intentions, but the followup through fell through.

You might be asking, “What can I do about my procrastinating?”
To that I might ask, “Why are you procrastinating now?”

Yesterday I introduced a helpful exercise I’m calling “Face It” or F.A.C.E. I.T.

F – Find something that you know you’re procrastinating with
A – Ask yourself, “Why am I procrastinating with this?”
C – Challenge your reasons to feel your feelings & find the facts
E – Examine your reasons: What do you feel strongest?

Aug 29

Face It

Posted on Wednesday, August 29, 2012 in Education, Emotional, Financial, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Yesterday, I exposed a few reasons why we procrastinate including:

We feel overwhelmed.
We overestimate the amount of time needed.
We would rather be doing something else.
We think if we wait long, the task will go away.
We fear failure.
We fear success.
We enjoy the last-minute adrenaline rush.

What’s beneath those reasons?

There are many factors, here are a few:

Christopher procrastinates signing up for football because he’s afraid to have all the lies he’s told about his abilities exposed.

Jul 31

I Hate When…

Posted on Tuesday, July 31, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

I’m wrestling with myself, because…

I hate when I mess up.
I hate when I let down my guard.
I hate when I lower my standards.
I hate when I try to wiggle out.
I hate when I rationalize my choices.
I hate when I justify my behavior.
I hate when I make excuses.
I hate when I settle.
I hate when I plot stupid stuff.
I hate when I hide my failures.