Posted on Saturday, June 23, 2012
“Whoever does not have a good father should procure one.”
I love that quote.
– Do you wish that you had a trustworthy father figure? Find one.
– Do you wish that you had an affirming father figure? Find one.
– Do you wish that you had a playful father figure? Find one.
– Do you wish that you had a wise father figure? Find one.
If I was looking for a father figure I would look in a good church. Honest. Regardless what you’ve heard, there are many good people in good churches who are making a positive difference in the world.
When did your parents say nice things to you and about you? How did you feel? Or, sadly, maybe you can’t think of a time when you parents gave you positive attention.
Robert McGee wrote, “Every rejection reminded me that as a child I had never experienced the love from my father that I wanted–that I deserved.”
“When father/child relationships become seriously distorted, children lose perspective. They cease to feel valued and valuable. Having learned that more is required than merely being, children soon turn to doing by trying to behave in a way that pleases the parent.”
Posted on Thursday, June 21, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values
Because the trajectory of our lives is affected by our relationship with our fathers it must be examined. When our relationship with our dad has left wounds and scars, our “father hunger” needs attention.
Try to be honest, do you feel a sense of loss when you think of your relationship with your father? If so, how do you cope with that loss?
Grief, Loss & Father Hunger
Susan Berger is a researcher studying the grief and loss of others:
– She interviewed hundreds of people
– She studied how they have been able to move on after the death of a loved one.
Posted on Wednesday, June 20, 2012
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual
Monday I proposed that what comes to mind when we think of our dad, our father, and our father figures, contributes to the trajectory of our lives.
Yesterday I supported my opinion that “father hunger” affects us deeply. Many people have a void inside them that is due to “father hunger,” and this disguised hunger has had great impact on the way they live.
I finished by asking four questions:
How hungry am I?
How hungry are you?
Do you know someone starving?
How would we know?
Emotional Signs of Father Hunger
Posted on Tuesday, June 19, 2012
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
Yesterday I proposed that what comes to mind when we think of our dad, our father, and our father figures, contributes to the trajectory of our lives.
Here are four philosophical perspectives that supportive my position.
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.
– Sigmund Freud
Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk.
– Carl Jung
The child supplies the power but the parents have to do the steering.
– Benjamin Spock