Posted on Friday, March 6, 2015 in Uncategorized
I took a left turn into an unfamiliar parking lot. I pulled into an open parking spot. With some uncertainty I stepped out of our car.
I walked around the landscaped wall. Turning right I entered what appeared to be the backyard with a very well designed wood deck positioned to my left. Seeing a door into the building I turned the corner.
Smiling in front of me was fourteen year old AnnMarie. (Pictured on the left next to Rachel)
AnnMarie walked directly up to me and asked, “Hi! Who the @#$% are you?” That was my introduction to TreeHouse.
Posted on Tuesday, November 25, 2014 in Uncategorized
Almost every week I hear someone say, “she made me…” or “he made me…” as if they could.
Without a doubt we influence one another, but far too often we justify bad attitudes and hurtful responses because of the attitudes and decisions of others.
This week when tempers flare during your holiday gatherings here are three strategies to drop the drama:
1. Choose to use a soft voice.
“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.“ 1
Regardless what the other person chooses you can chose a soft and kind tone in your voice.
Posted on Wednesday, August 27, 2014 in Uncategorized
Parents in pain.
What can we do?
Every child I’ve met wants to be affirmed that they are lovable, capable and worthwhile.
We can start there.
12 Ways To Encourage A Child (Ages 0-118)
“You Are Lovable!”: Give attention to their character.
– Who they are has greater value than what they achieve.
– Accept mistakes; show grace.
– Bad decisions, poor choices and mistakes can be great teachers.
– Offer unconditional love. Trust can be conditional, love cannot.
“You Are Capable!”
Posted on Tuesday, August 26, 2014 in Uncategorized
He could hear the yelling from the neighbors’ house every night.
Shouts of anger.
Shouts of pain.
Shouts of passion.
“Was there any gain?”
The Cost of Turmoil
Teens, families, friendships and all kinds of relationships suffer because of the lack of peaceful conflict resolution skills. Conflicts arise, those involved feel hurt, disappointed, afraid or frustrated, and it quickly turns into anger. Anger often erupts in retaliation or brutal honesty. Alienation increases, relationships are broken, and scars are formed.
Posted on Monday, August 25, 2014 in Uncategorized
If every time you looked in the mirror you saw someone different looking at you at would add to your stress too.
The process of adolescence is complex and unpredictable. The young person experiences physical changes that catapult their childish frame into that of an adult. The intellect intensifies to form logical patterns of thinking and begins to formulate future plans. The teen also struggles to form an identity separate from that of a child or a mature adult. Meanwhile, the teen is faced with issues of morality and must make critical decisions about sex, drugs, and other social behaviors.
Posted on Friday, June 20, 2014 in Uncategorized
It’s heartbreaking to see people in pain. It’s perplexing to hear of loved ones who hurt one another.
Most people try to help not hurt. Most people look for solutions not problems, but too often the solutions slam one another.
“Good people” gossip.
“Kind-hearted” people talk behind backs.
“Loving” people SCREAM angrily!
Foolish, hurtful solutions to initiate change.
“And so, each of us must give an account to God for what we do…Yes, each of us will give a personal account to God.” 1
Posted on Friday, June 13, 2014 in Uncategorized
“Love you gorgeous, I’ll be in there in ten minutes.”
It’s 2:00 A.M. I just said that as Amy woke from her late night nap and staggered off to bed. I’ve said similar things hundreds of times.
Schedules: Since we were married 27 years ago today I have gone to sleep second 98% of the time. Often times I am last to sleep and first one awake. We have almost always had different schedules.
Posted on Thursday, June 12, 2014 in Uncategorized
Yesterday I would have screamed, “Don’t Act Like A Jerk!” if I wasn’t so aware of my tone of voice.
My tone of voice and the underlying thoughts and feelings have tripped me up more than I’d like to admit. Before I got around to admitting it, in this post, I asked: What should you be seeing in your own life? What do you let stand in the way of seeing it?
Hopefully you’ll think about that a while, but in the meantime with an honest assessment in hand, I’ll tell you how I’m dealing with my contribution to the turmoil I tend to create.
Posted on Wednesday, June 11, 2014 in Uncategorized
What are you adding to your team? We all have something to add, but are we contributing and aware that we are?
We all have our quirks. In a team setting, how do your quirks add value and how do they add drama?
Unfortunately, too often those quirks can make us look like jerks if we let them.
Wow, do I hate those words. Not because someone doesn’t have a right to say them. Nor that they shouldn’t say them to me, but now, because they brought it up, I have to take an honest look at myself.
Posted on Tuesday, June 10, 2014 in Uncategorized
Sunday our Spring Cleaning Team tackled our home. Amy is detail-oriented. Josh is an innovative thinker and a hard worker. Shannon is a team player with a great attitude. I work long and hard.
That all sounds like a great productive team, but it takes some work to cope with each person’s unique style.