It was a mistake.
“We all have times when we find it difficult to avoid making too much of our mistakes and perceived failures. But how do you not take rejection personally? How do you not feel like your world is crashing down around you?” 1
Moving On From Mistakes
Alice Boyes on PsychCentral identified seven ways to avoid personalizing errors and rejection. I commend her insights and I think you will too. Note: Tips 1-3 were discussed yesterday.
Posted on Thursday, June 5, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values
Most of us like to be chosen.
But, it feels almost offensive to be chosen when we feel unworthy.
The key is when we feel unworthy, not to settle for it.
Feeling unworthy is a vicious trap.
One of the keys to breaking free is separating truth from lies, fact from fiction and real from imagined.
Losing your job will not defeat you, believing it’s useless to try again will.
Losing your health will not defeat you, believing you’re useless will.
Failing in school will not defeat you, believing it’s hopeless will.
Yesterday I was playing goalie.
The score was tied.
A minute to play.
The broomball was free on the right side.
I checked my angles. I checked my distance from the goal. I felt confident I was close enough to make a play.
I raced up to the ball.
Vivian (pictured in the back row, second from the left), our best goal scorer was near their goal crease. I knew if I got to the ball and made a good pass, that Vivian could win the game for us.
Yesterday I sat in a chair and cheered.
I sat watching the Olympics. I cheered the Olympic skiers working the half-pipe. They were defying gravity, defying discouragement and defying their previous failures.
Yesterday I also sat with several friends. I cheered them on. These friends are working through pain. Like the skiers they were defying gravity, defying discouragement and defying their previous failures.
The skiers were surrounded by fans.
My friends were surrounded by friends.
Circumstances are different but the skiers and my friends have some things in common.
They can fall.
They can fail.
They’ve done it before.
Posted on Thursday, November 21, 2013
in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Values
As a twelve-grader I was, I was a “survivor.“
I survived, not in a life-and-death manner that some do today, but as an endurance test.
Spanish class was my least favorite class, so it was there that I tested my endurance the most.
Since I was already watching the clock, I decided to see how long I could hold my breath. “Go!”
– More than 45 seconds
– A minute
– 75 … 90 … 100 seconds
I was silently feeling so proud when I finally made it to two minutes.
The best I ever did in high school was 2:04. I was so proud, and breathless.
Posted on Monday, October 21, 2013
Genuine beliefs are made obvious by what people do. We always live up to our beliefs–or down to them, as the case may be.
~ Dallas Williard
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Posted on Tuesday, August 20, 2013
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Yesterday I explained that I began reading comic books when I was ten years old. Then for more than twenty years I didn’t read a single issue.
So when I resumed reading comic books initially it was to both revisit some special childhood memories and then to complete some stories with unresolved cliffhangers.
Little did I know that as I read I’d find meaningful lessons. For example, the comic book depicted here.
We’re Not Alone
Justice League was a team-based comic book series that faced only the biggest most challenging challenges. Their membership combined some of the greatest heroes in the DC Comic universe.
I always look for heroes to admire.
Helen Keller, and those who cared for Helen, especially Anne Sullivan are people worthy of admiration.
Helen Keller was not born blind and deaf; it was not until she was 19 months old that she contracted an illness which left her deaf and blind.
I read this quote from Helen Keller and felt inspired.
I want to say to those who are trying to learn to speak and those who are teaching them: Be of good cheer.
Do not think of today’s failures, but of the success that may come tomorrow.
Posted on Friday, December 7, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values
What do you do when you have one agenda, and someone else has another, but you’re supposed to be “on the same page”?
Your parent may be right.
Your parent may be wrong.
Your teen may be realistic.
Your teen may be deluded.
One principle helps me make sense of other people — even very smart people — who make stupid choices.
The principle: Most people do what they believe makes sense.
This weekend teens will:
– Lie to their parents about where they are going
– Lie to their parents about what they will be doing
– Lie to their parents about where they will spend the night
– Lie to their parents about who they will be with
Posted on Tuesday, November 13, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, Values
This weekend at Anika’s baby dedication we shared parenting advice with the new parents Angi & Aaron.
My wife Amy said, “If you mess up, fess up.”
She elaborated, “when you make mistakes admit them.”
Unfortunately, Amy learned that lesson from my…umm…from me.
You see, I’ve had to fess up a lot.
When I Mismanage My Life I Neglect My Highest Priorities
When I have mismanaged my life it’s my wife and God who get cheated. Sadly, I take for granted those who love me the most. I haven’t rejected my faith in God, I’ve just gotten so busy that I have not included God in my thoughts, feelings and plans as often as I would prefer.