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Feb 20

Score!

Posted on Thursday, February 20, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, TreeHouse, Values

photo 1Yesterday I was playing goalie.

The score was tied.
A minute to play.

The broomball was free on the right side.

I checked my angles. I checked my distance from the goal. I felt confident I was close enough to make a play.

I raced up to the ball.

Vivian (pictured in the back row, second from the left), our best goal scorer was near their goal crease. I knew if I got to the ball and made a good pass, that Vivian could win the game for us.

Feb 19

5 Gold Medal Good Ideas

Posted on Wednesday, February 19, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, TreeHouse, Values

mens-ski-halfpipe-1392760999349-master495Yesterday I sat in a chair and cheered.

I sat watching the Olympics. I cheered the Olympic skiers working the half-pipe. They were defying gravity, defying discouragement and defying their previous failures.

Yesterday I also sat with several friends. I cheered them on. These friends are working through pain. Like the skiers they were defying gravity, defying discouragement and defying their previous failures.

The skiers were surrounded by fans.
My friends were surrounded by friends.

Circumstances are different but the skiers and my friends have some things in common.
They can fall.
They can fail.
They’ve done it before.

Nov 21

Destination: Dowling Ave

Posted on Thursday, November 21, 2013 in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Values

0839_i94_wb_nearexit228As a twelve-grader I was, I was a “survivor.

I survived, not in a life-and-death manner that some do today, but as an endurance test.

Spanish class was my least favorite class, so it was there that I tested my endurance the most.

Since I was already watching the clock, I decided to see how long I could hold my breath. “Go!”
– More than 45 seconds
– A minute
– 75 … 90 … 100 seconds
I was silently feeling so proud when I finally made it to two minutes.
The best I ever did in high school was 2:04. I was so proud, and breathless.

Oct 21

Proof

Posted on Monday, October 21, 2013 in Values

Genuine beliefs are made obvious by what people do. We always live up to our beliefs–or down to them, as the case may be.

~ Dallas Williard

Aug 20

Comic Book Failure

Posted on Tuesday, August 20, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Justice League106Yesterday I explained that I began reading comic books when I was ten years old. Then for more than twenty years I didn’t read a single issue.

So when I resumed reading comic books initially it was to both revisit some special childhood memories and then to complete some stories with unresolved cliffhangers.

Little did I know that as I read I’d find meaningful lessons. For example, the comic book depicted here.

We’re Not Alone

Justice League was a team-based comic book series that faced only the biggest most challenging challenges. Their membership combined some of the greatest heroes in the DC Comic universe.

Feb 10

Helen Keller

Posted on Sunday, February 10, 2013 in Education, Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

I always look for heroes to admire.

Helen Keller, and those who cared for Helen, especially Anne Sullivan are people worthy of admiration.

Helen Keller was not born blind and deaf; it was not until she was 19 months old that she contracted an illness which left her deaf and blind.

I read this quote from Helen Keller and felt inspired.

I want to say to those who are trying to learn to speak and those who are teaching them: Be of good cheer.

Do not think of today’s failures, but of the success that may come tomorrow.

Dec 7

Choices Often Make Sense … At The Time

Posted on Friday, December 7, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

What do you do when you have one agenda, and someone else has another, but you’re supposed to be “on the same page”?

Your parent may be right.
Your parent may be wrong.
Your teen may be realistic.
Your teen may be deluded.

One principle helps me make sense of other people — even very smart people — who make stupid choices.

The principle: Most people do what they believe makes sense.

This weekend teens  will:
– Lie to their parents about where they are going
– Lie to their parents about what they will be doing
– Lie to their parents about where they will spend the night
– Lie to their parents about who they will be with

Nov 13

Fess Up!

Posted on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, Values

This weekend at Anika’s baby dedication we shared parenting advice with the new parents Angi & Aaron.

My wife Amy said, “If you screw up, fess up.” 

She elaborated, “when you make mistakes admit them.”

Unfortunately, Amy learned that lesson from my…umm…from me.

You see, I’ve had to fess up a lot.

When I Mismanage My Life I Neglect My Highest Priorities

When I have mismanaged my life it’s my wife and God who get cheated. Sadly, I take for granted those who love me the most. I haven’t rejected my faith in God, I’ve just gotten so busy that I have not included God in my thoughts, feelings and plans as often as I would prefer.

Nov 12

Benchmarks For The Rest Of My Days

Posted on Monday, November 12, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

This weekend with a flurry of activity, a wonderful conversation-filled open house, and, as my friend Julia remarked, “the social media Birthday bandwagon”, I turned fifty.

Then, yesterday I became godfather to cute little Anika.   

It was a busy, but great weekend.

Today, I’m fifty years and two days old.

The celebrations are over, now what am I going to do with the rest of my days?

What Now?

Even as I typed that I have tears in my eyes.

Aug 31

7 Success Tips

Posted on Friday, August 31, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Sometimes I feel like a failure.

Whether it’s feeling overwhelmed, “I don’t have enough money”, “there’s not enough time”, or just being lazy, a fear of failure or the fear of success, or the classic “I’ll get to it later”, sometimes things just don’t get done.

What else can go wrong?

So many things, including:
– Unexpected car repairs: ~$600
– Two computers that stopped working
– Late for work
– Misplaced paperwork
And, that’s just in the last three days

How Can We Fight Back?

Here’s a formula I’m using: