Posted on Tuesday, June 25, 2013
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
My first year at TreeHouse was challenging. During that first year I quickly realized that despite an excellent education, wise mentors and patient supervision that I was unprepared.
– Unprepared for the pain I would see
– Unprepared for the emotions people would express
– Unprepared for the evil “loved ones” would perpetrate
– Unprepared for the diverse values, motives and philosophies of life
People, caring about people, is challenging.
Every emotionally healthy person can learn empathy. We can all develop what google.com called our “ability to understand and share the feelings of another.” 1
Almost every day someone asks me to help them with a relationship concern.
– What’s her problem?
– What can I do?
– What’s he thinking?
– How should I explain…
Most people are looking for a solution.
I’ve found one. I’ve found empathy improves all of my relationships.
According to brittanica.com empathy is “the ability to imagine oneself in another’s place and understand the other’s feelings, desires, ideas, and actions.” 1
My wife and I traveled to California recently to see our friends Jill & Eric Lacher.
They drove the forty-five minutes from San Jose to Oakland to sit in rush hour traffic to pick us from the airport. Rather than be frustrated and relieved to see us, their smiles beamed from inside their car.
Hugs abounded and smiles continued as we entered the car heading to San Jose.
We exchanged small talk and stories.
We listened and laughed.