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May 13

Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late

Posted on Tuesday, May 13, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

stained_glass_crossI went to a funeral last week.
I looked around.
I captured the moment.

I saw the faces that filled the spaces.

The grief was clear.
The sadness is tender.
The care was genuine.
The affection was deep.
The appreciation was sincere.

I saw regret wash over some faces.

Maybe for Vern; the dear man who passed away. Maybe, or more likely, for words never spoken to others.

It’s true, “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.” 1

So, on their behalf, and for each of us, here are two words of wisdom:

May 7

Leaving A Legacy

Posted on Wednesday, May 7, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

hingabeI had a nightmare and woke suddenly. I’m not, as parents say, “a good sleeper” to start with; add a nightmare and I might not fall back to sleep. I really didn’t.

I lay awake sleeplessly thinking about the funeral I was about to attend. I had the theme of leaving a legacy running through my sleep-deprived brain.

Finally, since I was awake, I started to read. I opened up The Deeper Life: Satisfying the 8 Vital Longings of Your Soul by Daniel Henderson. Wow, it was perfect.

Longings

Apr 11

Just Jesus by Walter Wink

Posted on Friday, April 11, 2014 in Reviews, Spiritual, Values

JustJesusAs a well-read person I knew embarrassingly little about Walter Wink before I read this book. He’s a fascinating man. I wish that I had known him personally.

Reading “Just Jesus”, the final book by Walter Wink, was an introduction to a fascinating man who made public his joys and sorrows, successes and “my struggle to become human.” This book is a quick read. There are stories and discourses in short chapters, poems, and prayers.

I loved reading several chapters; my favorites were:

Feb 28

Death Came Calling

Posted on Friday, February 28, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

A-Tombstone.svgTomorrow is third anniversary of my second lease on life.

Tuesday March 1, 2011 I had a near-death experience.

While driving home – surprise – death came calling.

Death Came Calling

I was sitting at the intersection talking to my friend Jesse waiting to turn at the light. The green arrow lit up.

Time to go.

I started to turn left and stopped for no apparent reason.

My foot slowly rose off the gas pedal, for no apparent reason.

Suddenly…ZOOOOM!!!

Aug 17

What Now?

Posted on Friday, August 17, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

If you’re like me, this has been a thought-provoking week.

The reader-response to this week’s mysilentscream.com had me thinking long and hard about the depth of our drama, the taste of our of trauma, and the deep pit in which some of our hidden pain resides.

Next week we’ll take a look at how to deal with our anger.

As this week concludes this ancient song — known as Psalm 51 — continues to echo through my mind as a prayer to God for help. 1

Have mercy on me, O God, because of your unfailing love.

Aug 16

Warning: Anger Can Become Toxic

Posted on Thursday, August 16, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

Monday I began this dialogue with Olympics: Judge & Jury, and continued it yesterday with “Caution – We don’t know the whole story.

One gracious reader read and replied, “I was raped by a guy when I was 22 I would judge him and say he needs help…because he did. (He victimized) 5 other women…but he is and was aware of what he was doing so I wouldn’t feel sympathy.”

As someone who has never experienced a rape I cannot begin to grasp the depth of how that would affect a victim, all I can say is “Wow, thank you you for your humble willingness to add your perspective to our dialogue.”

Apr 7

Nearing Home: Life, Faith, and Finishing Well by Billy Graham

Posted on Saturday, April 7, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Reviews, Social, Spiritual, Values

I’m forty-nine years old. I don’t feel old, but I don’t feel young either.

I spend my life encouraging others to live their life well.  Mysilentscream.com exists — through stories, some tips, and some Scriptures — to inspire you to live well. 

As I’m nearing fifty I’m looking for “older” people to inspire me to live the rest of my life well too.  Billy Graham’s book Nearing Home: Life, Faith, and Finishing Well seemed like a good fit.

Billy Graham’s book is honest, vulnerable, and inspiring.

Mar 7

Drowning Man Saved!

Posted on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Values

When I was thirteen I was held underwater by a gym-class bullies.  As much as I struggled and fought to break free I couldn’t.  I wrote about my experience with the fear of drowning here

It’s been more than twenty-five years since that day, and yet, even in the beauty of Hawaii last week I was afraid of drowning.  Fear runs deep in many of us.  Maybe your not afraid of drowning in water, maybe your fear is drowning in:
– Debt
– Despair
– Disappointment
– Failure
– The Ocean of Bad Relationships
– The Sea of Doubt
– Your Fears About Your Uncertain Future

Jan 25

Jesus Showed Me The New Jerusalem by Jimmy Cooper

Posted on Wednesday, January 25, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Values

My friend Jimmy Cooper has one of those experiences that you want, and don’t want to have. I’ll let him explain. 1

 On January 19th, 2012 -  I was with my wife Christiane in our apartment in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma. We had been out on a date and we had just gotten home. Actually, I guess we had been home for an hour or so and it was pretty late at night, about 1:30am. I started having an overwhelming feeling that I needed to lie down. It was out of the blue and I couldn’t fight it, so I lay down in bed and closed my eyes. I wasn’t feeling well and it came on so quickly, I just had to close my eyes.