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Mar 25

Detours

Posted on Wednesday, March 25, 2015 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

395px-Korean_Traffic_sign_(Detour_P-Turn).svg“I don’t know why I’m telling you this…” and the story continues.

Don’t get me wrong, I love their trust. I love your trust.

I’m honored to share your joys and your sorrows. To hear the details of the journey you’re on complete with proud smiles and guilty smirks, pain-filled glances or a losing fight to hold back the tears. Or, sadly, the flat affect from being so worn down by the long list of past pains.

I just wish there weren’t so many detours.

Detours

Mar 10

H.A.L.T.

Posted on Tuesday, March 10, 2015 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values

2008 - 103295-R1-028-12AMy parents have taught dog obedience training classes for forty years. They are well-respected for their expertise throughout Chicagoland.

When they are teaching their students (human and canine) they say “halt” whenever they want progress stopped. At that point the human stops and the canine stops and sits.

Halt as you know, means to stop or pause.  H.A.L.T. is also an acronym that relates to an important decision-making principle.

This is part-8 of the “10 for 25″ series on important lessons I’ve learned at TreeHouse.

H.A.L.T.

Mar 8

Short-Term Benefits, Long-Term Consequences

Posted on Sunday, March 8, 2015 in Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Sports, TreeHouse, Values

Untitled-TrueColor-63Choices, like yours and mine, often make sense at the moment of decision, but too often impulsive decisions come with unexpected consequences. This is part-6 of the “10 for 25″ series on important lessons I’ve learned at TreeHouse.

The Moment Of Decision

I love softball. Several years ago while playing in a softball tournament I was faced with a decision that has affected thousands of people since.

Let me explain.

Mar 7

Why Am I Here?

Posted on Saturday, March 7, 2015 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

MichelleIf you felt overwhelmednot good enough and unqualified you might wonder, “Why am I here?”  That struggle, and the other lessons I’ve learned over the past twenty-five years at TreeHouse are part of this series called “10 for 25.”

Why Am I Here?

When we feel out of place, it helps to find out what we are qualified to contribute. My StrengthsQuest assessment explained, “Your Individualization theme leads you to be intrigued by the unique qualities of each person.” Yes, I am.

“You are impatient with generalizations or “types” because you don’t want to obscure what is special and distinct about each person.” So true!

Mar 5

I Want To Become

Posted on Thursday, March 5, 2015 in Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

150-1Tuesday I began a series called “10 for 25.” It’s a series of ten lessons I have learned in my twenty-five years at TreeHouse. Today: Who do I want to become?

As a child I wanted to be heroic. When I played super-heroes with some of my neighborhood friends. I wanted to be bold like Hawkeye, fly like Nighthawk and have the courage of Captain America. I still love the Avengers, in fact I’m reading issue 150 (see photo) today.

As heroic as I fantasized becoming, I’ve learned that it’s more important to Be Yourself rather than try to be someone you’re not.

Mar 4

Be Yourself

Posted on Wednesday, March 4, 2015 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values

Untitled-TrueColor-47In the movie Batman Begins, Henri Ducard tells Bruce Wayne: You traveled the world now you must journey inwards to what you really fear; it’s inside you there is no turning back…If you make yourself more than just a man, if you devote yourself to an ideal, you become something else entirely. Are you ready to begin?

Beginnings are important. Yesterday I began a series called “10 for 25.” It’s a series of ten lessons I have learned in my twenty-five years at TreeHouse.

B…

Mar 3

Expect the Unexpected

Posted on Tuesday, March 3, 2015 in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

Untitled-TrueColor-23I’m in the midst of a ten-month curriculum re-write and most of my writing time and energy has been focused on that project rather than #mysilentscream. That said, when TreeHouse graciously offered to throw me an “open house” to celebrate my 25th anniversary at TreeHouse I began to think beyond the present and reflect on the past.

In the past twenty-five years I’ve learned an incredible amount about myself, my family, my friends, the staff I serve alongside and the teens and parents that we serve. As I thought about it I decided to think through ten important lessons I learned in those twenty five years. This series is called “10 in 25.”

Jul 31

Finish

Posted on Thursday, July 31, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Spiritual, Values

finishIt’s Chalkboard Week. If you missed one:

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Todays Chalkboard: “I will finish what I sta” (written only once implying the text would be: I will finish what I started)

Bart didn’t and wasn’t likely to finish his list. He was excited. He raced out of the classroom and the school. Too often when you and I don’t finish something we don’t skip away we trip and fall over the pile of unfinished.

Sometimes I feel like a failure.

Jul 17

The Number Is Zero

Posted on Thursday, July 17, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

360px-Earthquake_cracks_near_BexleyI have a friend who read the Bible and his conclusions broke his heart. He read about a God who didn’t fit his paradigm. He read about a God who didn’t do what he thought best. He read about a God who seemed to sit silent through tragedy. His crumbling faith and doubts rippled through him like an earthquake. The chasm led him to abandon his previous love for God.

When people face tragedy, they usually have one of three reactions. They blame God, they turn to God for help or they abandon God.

Jul 3

Mid-Year Freedom Methods

Posted on Thursday, July 3, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

power_of_love_3Freedom is on my mind. In my opinion, freedom is one of our highest values.

And yet, true freedom includes understanding that we do not have the ultimate say, the ultimate choice or the supreme will.

“Responsibility means obligation, and obligation must mean a curtailing of freedom.” 1

Motives

“Humans love freedom like fish love water. They pretty much have to have it. Now, of course, what humans also love is having decent, clean, productive, emotionally rewarding lives. And that (curse that Adam and Eve!) means work. And work (curse that Adam and Eve!) means responsibility.”