We all make decisions; some wise, some not. Each new decision we make cuts a path through the unknown. As we continue to choose similar choices the path to repeated decisions becomes easier. A difficult fresh-cut path now becomes a leisurely stroll through familiar territory.
Eventually once we continue walking the same path over and over and it becomes well-worn path, a road and eventually a four-lane highway with speedy travel to the same destination.
All that sounds fine, unless our path is destructive.
Posted on Thursday, March 13, 2014
in Relational, TreeHouse
When I was just beginning to move from loner to leader I read these words:
“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” 1
They have helped me to remember not to choose as selfishly as I am inclined to be.
I attached the picture on purpose. Bad pictures remind us to laugh at ourselves and not take ourselves too seriously.
I’m thinking a lot about my role as a leader.
Posted on Friday, February 28, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values
Tomorrow is third anniversary of my second lease on life.
Tuesday March 1, 2011 I had a near-death experience.
While driving home – surprise – death came calling.
Death Came Calling
I was sitting at the intersection talking to my friend Jesse waiting to turn at the light. The green arrow lit up.
Time to go.
I started to turn left and stopped for no apparent reason.
My foot slowly rose off the gas pedal, for no apparent reason.
When I am teaching people how to teach the Bible I have had a consistent message: “Pray, pray, pray, and, while maintaining healthy boundaries, teach what God is teaching you.
When you have the choice, teach what God has taught you recently or is teaching you now. It’s fresh.
Since you are teaching what you are learning it will come from you to your audience from the perspective of a learner.”
This is important to me because I have fallen into the trap of feeling like I needed to appear to be “the expert” more than I’d like to admit.
Last week a snowfall dumped ten inches of snow in our yard, driveway and on our streets. Many mysilentscream readers need no explanation, but allow me to explain for the rest. 1
When snow falls in urban areas, especially when snow falls in large amounts during weekdays, life continues. It may continue at a crawl, but people need to get home from school or work. They take the bus home, commute home, or drive home; they need to get home.
And, last week cars, buses, and trucks did what they do; they transported. They also compacted the freshly-fallen snow.
Yesterday I was playing goalie.
The score was tied.
A minute to play.
The broomball was free on the right side.
I checked my angles. I checked my distance from the goal. I felt confident I was close enough to make a play.
I raced up to the ball.
Vivian (pictured in the back row, second from the left), our best goal scorer was near their goal crease. I knew if I got to the ball and made a good pass, that Vivian could win the game for us.
Yesterday I sat in a chair and cheered.
I sat watching the Olympics. I cheered the Olympic skiers working the half-pipe. They were defying gravity, defying discouragement and defying their previous failures.
Yesterday I also sat with several friends. I cheered them on. These friends are working through pain. Like the skiers they were defying gravity, defying discouragement and defying their previous failures.
The skiers were surrounded by fans.
My friends were surrounded by friends.
Circumstances are different but the skiers and my friends have some things in common.
They can fall.
They can fail.
They’ve done it before.
Posted on Friday, February 14, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
In this the final slice in a series of posts reflecting on the songs of Bruno Mars we’re examining the virtues of his perspective in his song “Just the Way You Are.”
If you need to catch up a bit:
1. Bruno, What’s On Your Mind?
2. Ruins and Regrets
3. 5 Suggestions 4 Living With A Broken Heart
4. Bonding In The Backseat, Breakup In The Bedroom
Just the Way You Are
On Just The Way You Are Bruno Mars wants the object of his affection to know that he thinks she’s beautiful. I don’t think I’ve met a woman who didn’t want to be thought of as beautiful by her loved ones.
Posted on Thursday, February 13, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Values
These last few days we’ve been looking at some Bruno Mars songs and lyrics since he was featured on the Super Bowl Halftime Show.
Today is Amy and my 320-month wedding anniversary. Yes, I still count months because I treasure our marriage. MySilentScream is here Inspiring Great Relationships Every Day and I hope to inspire you to treasure marriage, whether it’s yours or not.
In “Marry You” Bruno sings,
Cause it’s a beautiful night,
We’re looking for something dumb to do.
Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you.
Posted on Wednesday, February 12, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Music, Relational, Social, Values
In Bruno, What’s On Your Mind? and Ruins and Regrets Bruno Mars described the dangerous relationships he pursued.
Women aren’t the only ones who live with the wounds of a broken heart.
Bruno Mars’ “When I Was Your Man” describes the pain of his own broken heart.
Same bed but it feels just a little bit bigger now
Our song on the radio but it don’t sound the same
When our friends talk about you, all it does is just tear me down
‘Cause my heart breaks a little when I hear your name