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Feb 23

How To Protect Yourself If You’re A Man

Posted on Saturday, February 23, 2013 in Uncategorized

40290_without_face___2Within twenty-four hours of publishing the two Dating Disaster “Date Rape” posts I took a phone call from a very scared family member whose loved one had just been served papers accusing him of rape.

This is not an isolated concern.

The possibility of date rape or an accusation of date rape is a real threat, for the safety of women, and for men. Let’s review:

Her Story
His Story

How To Protect Yourself If You’re A Man 1

It can be confusing to be a guy out there navigating the treacherous waters of the dating scene.

Feb 23

How To Protect Yourself If You’re A Woman

Posted on Saturday, February 23, 2013 in Uncategorized

210060_beauty_of_sadnessWithin twenty-four hours of publishing the two Dating Disaster “Date Rape” posts I took a phone call from a very scared family member whose loved one had just been served papers accusing him of rape.

This is not an isolated concern.

The possibility of date rape or an accusation of date rape is a real threat, for the safety of women, and for men. Let’s review:

Her Story
His Story

How To Protect Yourself If You’re A Woman 1

Feb 19

Dating Drama – Unstable Foundations

Posted on Tuesday, February 19, 2013 in Uncategorized

Broken_wall_texturesOften times when people contact me about their relationship problems it’s because their relationships were built on unstable foundations.

Let me explain, relationships, like buildings, need a firm and solid foundation including:
– Honesty
– Respect
– Kindness
– Thoughtfulness

Unfortunately, many relationships begin just the opposite:
– Dishonesty
– Suspicion
– Selfishness
– Greed

Oh, I know that sounds harsh, but it’s true. Consider these four examples:

Example 1 – Because of deep-seated fears rooted after the loss of her mother at a young add she guards herself with dishonesty.

Feb 18

Dating Drama – Betrayed & Broken-Hearted

Posted on Monday, February 18, 2013 in Uncategorized

broken_heart_picLast Friday began a series that will run all week called Dating Drama.  Whether you’re dating or not, you know someone who is.  This might be a chance for you to contribute, comment and encourage those who are.

Some people have great relationships, some not.

Friday night my boyfriend texted me. He dumped me; by TEXT!

When I asked him for an explanation, his reply was, “What are you talking about? I didn’t break up with you.” Apparently, he had meant the text for someone else. He was breaking up with another girlfriend (that I didn’t know about).

Feb 13

Saying No

Posted on Wednesday, February 13, 2013 in Uncategorized

NOFor many of us, “No” is the first word that we spoke.

And, we heard it throughout our childhood:
“No, you can’t do that.”
“No, you’re not old enough.”
“No, you’re not big enough.”

As we got older people used “No” as a weapon:
“No, you’re not pretty enough.”
“No, you’re not smart enough.”
“No, you’re not good enough.”

“No” can protect.
“No” can push away.

Push-Away Politely

Scenarios: You are – asked out, flirted with, asked to dance, offered a drink, etc. – by someone you’re not interested in. What can you do?

Feb 12

Off Limits – Flirting With The Taken

Posted on Tuesday, February 12, 2013 in Uncategorized

You know what I’m talking about here, but let’s go there.

He’s a friendly guy, but when he’s dating someone he seems extra friendly.

The truth is he’s feeling safe and self-confident because his current relationship is boosting his self-esteem, but he doesn’t know that, he just feels like “every girl likes him.”

And, you’re one of them.

It starts with a smile. Another.
A longer look.

He gets your number.
You had his # for a while, but never texted him: Off Limits

He texted: Hey! (Guys can be so bold, hah!)
You reply.
Back and forth, just the news, and then:

Feb 11

Not Dating? GREAT!

Posted on Monday, February 11, 2013 in Uncategorized

It’s Valentines Day week and I have news for you: If you’re single and not dating there is nothing, nothing, nothing wrong with you!

Stop feeling defective.
Stop feeling incomplete.
Stop feeling not-good-enough.

You were created, born, and are now and always, lovable, capable and worthwhile.

This week I want to bless you and remind of of those realities.

I also want to give you – dating or not – some FREE fun ideas to share with a friend or friends.

Active Choices

Feb 1

Lessons from Lachers – Love

Posted on Friday, February 1, 2013 in Uncategorized

During our visit with Eric and Jill Lacher we marveled at their love.

Though they have similar hearts and values, they began their relationships with very different strategies for living out those values.

During our visit they shared with us that the wisdom of Emerson Eggerichs has helped them to grow deeper in love and express it more effectively to one another. On their behalf and to our benefit here’s some of what they learned.

How Does a Husband Spell Love to His Wife?

Nov 14

Toxic Turmoil Meet Twitter

Posted on Wednesday, November 14, 2012 in Uncategorized

He’s so hot! 

She’s so hot!

I would do anything to keep him.

I would do anything to get her.

She doesn’t know what she’s getting into.

He doesn’t know what he’s tearing down.

Ladies – Stop settling. He wants what u have more than u want what he’s offering. Hold back. When he steps back & he will, STEP AWAY #wise

Guys – When you find out she’s got her V-card (virgin), she’s not a condom to use & toss. Listen 2 ur conscience! #choosewisely #notuse

Hold Onto Your Conscience

Nov 2

I Wanna Be A Hero!

Posted on Friday, November 2, 2012 in Uncategorized

I’m turning 50.  I’ve thought about it all year.

I’ve interviewed dozens of people over fifty to talk with them about their lives.  I’ve asked many questions, and sought many answers.  Mostly I’ve listened.  As I’ve listened I’ve heard some wonderful tales about remarkable people.

I’m not yet fifty — it’s just days away — but I thought I’d lead you through my journey, and maybe you’ll learn a thing or two that will help you on your journey.

I Wanna Be A Hero

Over and over again I daydreamed of being a hero.