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Mar 8

Short-Term Benefits, Long-Term Consequences

Posted on Sunday, March 8, 2015 in Uncategorized

Untitled-TrueColor-63Choices, like yours and mine, often make sense at the moment of decision, but too often impulsive decisions come with unexpected consequences. This is part-6 of the “10 for 25” series on important lessons I’ve learned at TreeHouse.

The Moment Of Decision

I love softball. Several years ago while playing in a softball tournament I was faced with a decision that has affected thousands of people since.

Let me explain.

Jul 23


Posted on Wednesday, July 23, 2014 in Uncategorized

BiancaRamirezandfriendTo paraphrase a great quote: “Good people inspire themselves; great people inspire others.” 

I love that my life is filled with people like my friend Bianca. Her courage, determination and resolve inspires me to be better at what I do.

Thanks to Bianca, and all the rest of you who don’t settle and want more

You can read more about Bianca’s courage and TreeHouse’s contribution to her life here.

Dec 7

Choices Often Make Sense … At The Time

Posted on Friday, December 7, 2012 in Uncategorized

What do you do when you have one agenda, and someone else has another, but you’re supposed to be “on the same page”?

Your parent may be right.
Your parent may be wrong.
Your teen may be realistic.
Your teen may be deluded.

One principle helps me make sense of other people — even very smart people — who make stupid choices.

The principle: Most people do what they believe makes sense.

This weekend teens  will:
– Lie to their parents about where they are going
– Lie to their parents about what they will be doing
– Lie to their parents about where they will spend the night
– Lie to their parents about who they will be with

Apr 4

Wednesday Wounds

Posted on Wednesday, April 4, 2012 in Uncategorized

Tuesday, yeah, that’s when things didn’t go so well!

I’ve led hundreds and hundreds of support groups. They’re a regular part of my schedule and one of the joys of my week. Most nights are great.

That night something was weird at TreeHouse!

It Started Bad

Several teens were mad at me. Why?  My responsibility was to create a safe, supportive atmosphere.  Support groups with eight teens are common.  That night teens split up into a group of eight, a group of twelve, and a group of five.  

May 13

Helping The Hopeless

Posted on Friday, May 13, 2011 in Uncategorized

QUESTION: My friend/daughter/son/lover feels hopeless and wishes he/she was dead. What can I do?


1 – If you believe that this is an emergency: Call 911

2 – If you think that there is immediate risk:
Have they thought about suicide recently?
Does he/she have a plan?
Does he/she have the means immediately accessible to carry out their plan there?
Is there anyone else in the home (or wherever their location)?
Call 911

3 – If you feel concerned and want to offer helpful help, here’s help:

May 12

Help For The Hopeless

Posted on Thursday, May 12, 2011 in Uncategorized


QUESTION: I feel hopeless. I wish I were dead. No one cares. What can I do?

OUR REPLY: “I would call Love Lines at 612-379-1199 or the Suicide Prevention Center 612-347-2222 they specialize in helping people with suicidal thoughts 24/7/365.

May 11

Wounding Yourself After Being Wounded

Posted on Wednesday, May 11, 2011 in Uncategorized


THE QUESTION: Our son’s girlfriend broke up with him about a year ago. He doesn’t show any signs moving on with his life. He cuts on his arm. It looks so awful. He doesn’t date. What can I do with him?

OUR REPLY: “The breakup of a relationship is almost always very painful to at least one partner, and you did the right thing by looking for help. God does care very deeply about your son, and God doesn’t want him to spend the rest of his life believing something about himself that isn’t true. He has a right to grieve. He will get through this painful time. Remind him that you care and that he does not have to go through his grief alone.”

May 10

Relapse, Slipping, Backsliding & Other Backbreakers

Posted on Tuesday, May 10, 2011 in Uncategorized

I’m Afraid Of A Relapse!

THE QUESTION: Last week, my daughter was released to go home from the psych ward. After she got depressed, she cut herself. I was afraid that she’d try to commit suicide. How do I know he/she won’t slide back into this again?

OUR REPLY: “Don’t focus on what might happen (but probably won’t); focus instead on things that affirm your future and guide your eyes toward hopefulness. You can both set and achieve short-term goals and remember to focus your attention on the positive things that you have in your lives.”

May 9

Living Afraid. “They Will All…”

Posted on Monday, May 9, 2011 in Uncategorized

May 3rd I quoted Randy Alcorn, “You are a special creation of a good and all powerful God. You are the climax of his creation, the magnum opus of the greatest artist in the universe. You are created in His image, with capacities to think, feel, and worship that set you above all other life forms. You differ from the animals not simply in degree, but in kind.

Not only is your kind unique, but you are unique among your kind. God has masterminded the exact combination of DNA and chromosomes that constitute your genetic code, making you as different from all others as every snowflake differs from the rest.”

May 6

I Can’t & Other Lies

Posted on Friday, May 6, 2011 in Uncategorized

Why do cutters cut?  There are many reasons.  Many cutters have a fear of stopping.  They feel incapable of dealing with deeper forms of pain without cutting.

Shana Schutte, writing for Focus On The Family, quoted her college roommate, “People who haven’t cut can’t understand how it can make you feel better… but it does. It’s like bursting a huge bubble,” she said. “You feel like you are going to explode and you don’t know what to do with the emotional pain. When you cut, there is a kind of release or freedom in it. Then, it’s like an emotional high. You release all this pain that’s been building and building. Like any addiction, it’s a coping mechanism.”