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Apr 30

Protect Yourself from Blind Spots

Posted on Wednesday, April 30, 2014 in Uncategorized

heart-beachLast night I was reading a book called, “Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome.”  Not because I had any inclinations to have an affair – I don’t – but because there is “grass” and I don’t want to ever think that it’s “greener.” So reading about how her marriage is overcoming her affair and “How to Grow Affair-Proof Hedges Around Your Marriage” appeals to me.

“Blind Spots” led to her affair. “Blind Spots” led to the breakdown of their marriage.

We all have blind spots in our life; misguided thinking, bad decisions and the like. Often times other people can see our blind spots but we either ignore, deny, or dismiss them.

Jan 3

58 Years and Counting

Posted on Friday, January 3, 2014 in Uncategorized

IMG_0025Amy and I were college students the first time I met her parents, Ron and Rose. Like almost all guys I was nervous meeting “her parents.” Through our conversations and over dinner with Amy’s brother Bryan I found that they were like Amy: friendly and kind, they love to laugh and they cared deeply about God.

That was 1985.

A couple years later on June 13 those same two parents gave us their blessing as Amy were married.

So, when Ron and Rose wanted to renew their wedding vows on their fiftieth (50th!) anniversary I was blessed to be invited to officiate their ceremony.

Jun 14

The First Day of the 2nd 25 Years

Posted on Thursday, June 14, 2012 in Uncategorized

Last night my wife and I renewed our wedding vows in front of many, many friends old and new.  1

Today is the first day of our second twenty-five years and my first day with my new vows in place.

New vows?
What did I promise?
This is what I said:

Twenty-five years ago I repeated traditional vows that I hoped to keep:

I, Scott, take you Amy, to be my wife
To have and to hold
From this day forward
For better, or for worse
For richer or for poorer
In sickness and in health
To love and to cherish until we are parted by death
As God is my witness,
I give you my promise

Jun 13

Happy 25th Anniversary to US!

Posted on Wednesday, June 13, 2012 in Uncategorized

June 13, 1986 

She was way, way out of my league.
She was kind, thoughtful, sweet, talented, listened to me, and she liked me.
As far as I could tell, she loved me.
Oh, and she was HOT!
I was clueless what love entailed, but I knew I wanted to love Amy.
I also knew I didn’t want to live without her.
Not that I couldn’t live without her, but I didn’t want to.
So, on one knee, in the living room of the house she lived in I proposed.
She laughed, thinking I was kidding.
I wasn’t. I had no ring because I didn’t want to choose the wrong one.
Then we embraced.

Jun 12

The Vows We Keep

Posted on Tuesday, June 12, 2012 in Uncategorized

On our 10th Anniversary we renewed our wedding vows.

In 1997 we renewed our wedding vows — not that we were a mess and needed a restart, but — because ten years into our marriage, we were adults, “grown ups”, who had a better idea what we were doing and we wanted to be positive role models.

During our wedding we repeated vows I don’t recall and hope that we kept.  At our 10th we wrote these vows, planning the keep them.  And, aside from moments of selfishness, my inclinations to be a workaholic, and an occasional crabby day, we’re still keeping them.  These vows help us keep on track toward our goal of a lifelong happy marriage.

Sep 2

My Story, Day 4

Posted on Friday, September 2, 2011 in Uncategorized

To recap, I had lost faith, given up hope and my solutions I chose left me feeling guilty, dirty and foolish.

Any one of my miserable days, lonely nights or stupid decisions could have been life-altering, but it was a conversation with an equally lost friend that changed my life.

My Journey

Fortunately, since I was seven, a guy named Steve Schesvold, cared about me.

Steve invited me to join him in church.

Mar 17

Keep Your Love Alive – Power Under Control

Posted on Thursday, March 17, 2011 in Uncategorized

“Love never fails.” These words are two thousand years old and yet they are as important today as they were then.

What is love?  “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails…”  [1 Corinthians 13:4-8]