Choices, like yours and mine, often make sense at the moment of decision, but too often impulsive decisions come with unexpected consequences. This is part-6 of the “10 for 25” series on important lessons I’ve learned at TreeHouse.
The Moment Of Decision
I love softball. Several years ago while playing in a softball tournament I was faced with a decision that has affected thousands of people since.
Let me explain.
Posted on Friday, April 5, 2013
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values
I gave out my cell phone number to a new friend this week.
As soon as I shared my number I felt obligated to explain a few things:
– I don’t answer very often
– I don’t text back very quickly
– I don’t answer when I’m busy
– I don’t respond to people who call or text repeatedly
A few years ago I decided it was easier to explain this list of annoyances when I share my number than to have to make apologies.
Posted on Thursday, April 4, 2013
in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
All us us have to cope with the challenges of peer pressure. When we face peer pressure situations it helps to understand our motives.
Often we don’t let down the internal pressure because we feel that the expectations of others don’t let us — or at least that’s what we think.
We assume “making people happy” is a sign of being a good friend, when it really drives us to a dangerous place and perpetuates unreasonable expectations.
You have choices.
I have choices.
We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.
Posted on Friday, December 7, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values
What do you do when you have one agenda, and someone else has another, but you’re supposed to be “on the same page”?
Your parent may be right.
Your parent may be wrong.
Your teen may be realistic.
Your teen may be deluded.
One principle helps me make sense of other people — even very smart people — who make stupid choices.
The principle: Most people do what they believe makes sense.
This weekend teens will:
– Lie to their parents about where they are going
– Lie to their parents about what they will be doing
– Lie to their parents about where they will spend the night
– Lie to their parents about who they will be with
What God Did To Win Your Heart.
It’s a captivating subtitle: What God Did To Win Your Heart.
Lucado’s challenge is to personalize the life and death of Christ.
Lucado explains that Jesus’ proclamation “I did it just for you.” is his resounding, enduring and personalized message.
Lucado makes the case that the trial, judgment, and execution was not happenstance. “Knowing his last deeds would be forever pondered, don’t you think he chose them carefully? Deliberately? Of course he did. There were no accidents that day.”
Proclaiming to the end, “I did it for you. I did it all for you.”
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He Chose the Nails: What God Did To Win Your Heart by Max Lucado
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Posted on Thursday, April 19, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Taxes are due this week. Tax preparers prepare tax returns, but what’s a best friend to do with a drunk best friend?
Let me explain. 1
Desean loved his friends. He’s got several friends. Not all of his friends get along together.
One night, a Wednesday night, Desean and Chris stayed out late. Chris had been with Desean and some of his other friends, but when they started talking about getting drunk Chris “remembered” homework he wanted to get done. He left hoping Desean would join him. He didn’t.
Desean’s mom and sister trusted Desean; and they trusted Chris.
Posted on Wednesday, January 11, 2012
in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Social, Values
Broomball In A Blizzard
The snow fell relentlessly. By the end of the game the ice on the rink was covered by inches of snow.
My friend Matt Benson, pictured here, was playing goalie during this Spring storm. He lay in goal on a comfy layer of fresh snow.
He’s safe but more than once while playing broomball I’ve been bruised and bloodied, but on this particular day I felt nearly invincible.
Snow fell while we raced across the ice. The falling snow made falling on the ice a far safer venture than usual.
I’ve read a couple of Stephen Arterburn books. Since I believe that Healing is a Choice I chose to give tHealing is a Choice a read.
The author explores 10 choices that he believes we need to make if we are to experience genuine and lasting healing.
1. The Choice to Connect your life
Lie – All I need to heal is just God and me.
2. The Choice to Feel your life
Lie – Real Christians should have peace in all circumstances
3. The Choice to Investigate Your Life in Search of Truth
Lie – It does no good to look back or look inside
Posted on Tuesday, December 27, 2011
in Emotional, How To, Social, Spiritual, Values
New Year Old Problems
She looked like a model. She walked like a model; but the look at her eyes was different.
I felt sad when I looked in her eyes. They looked empty. Dark and vacant, they “felt” empty. Worse still she felt worthless; like the empty packaging of unwrapped presents.
She felt like trash. She lived trashy.
Filled with beauty and potential. When she was born her family had such high hopes. We wanted so much more for her than she was now facing.
What happened? Where did she go wrong?
Posted on Monday, December 12, 2011
in Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Values
Life is filled with risks.
Should I buy this present?
Should I give this panhandler money?
Should I invest in this mutual fund?
Should I buy this house?
Should I choose this school?
Should I leave this job?
Should I ask her out?
Should I say “yes”?!?
What gamble are you always willing to take?
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