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Apr 5

Clear Expectations

Posted on Friday, April 5, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

ahugI gave out my cell phone number to a new friend this week.

As soon as I shared my number I felt obligated to explain a few things:
– I don’t answer very often
– I don’t text back very quickly
– I don’t answer when I’m busy
– I don’t respond to people who call or text repeatedly

A few years ago I decided it was easier to explain this list of annoyances when I share my number than to have to make apologies.

Apr 4

Unhealthy Expectations And Choices

Posted on Thursday, April 4, 2013 in Education, Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

aschoolAll us us have to cope with the challenges of peer pressure. When we face peer pressure situations it helps to understand our motives.

Often we don’t let down the internal pressure because we feel that the expectations of others don’t let us — or at least that’s what we think.

We assume “making people happy” is a sign of being a good friend, when it really drives us to a dangerous place and perpetuates unreasonable expectations.

You have choices.
I have choices.

Choices

We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.

Dec 7

Choices Often Make Sense … At The Time

Posted on Friday, December 7, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

What do you do when you have one agenda, and someone else has another, but you’re supposed to be “on the same page”?

Your parent may be right.
Your parent may be wrong.
Your teen may be realistic.
Your teen may be deluded.

One principle helps me make sense of other people — even very smart people — who make stupid choices.

The principle: Most people do what they believe makes sense.

This weekend teens  will:
– Lie to their parents about where they are going
– Lie to their parents about what they will be doing
– Lie to their parents about where they will spend the night
– Lie to their parents about who they will be with

Apr 22

He Chose the Nails: What God Did To Win Your Heart by Max Lucado

Posted on Sunday, April 22, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Reviews, Social, Spiritual, Values

What God Did To Win Your Heart.

It’s a captivating subtitle: What God Did To Win Your Heart.

Lucado’s challenge is to personalize the life and death of Christ.  
Lucado explains that Jesus’ proclamation “I did it just for you.” is his resounding, enduring and personalized message.

Lucado makes the case that the trial, judgment, and execution was not happenstance.  “Knowing his last deeds would be forever pondered, don’t you think he chose them carefully? Deliberately? Of course he did. There were no accidents that day.”

Proclaiming to the end, “I did it for you. I did it all for you.”

Apr 19

What’s a Best Friend to Do?

Posted on Thursday, April 19, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Taxes are due this week.  Tax preparers prepare tax returns, but what’s a best friend to do with a drunk best friend?

Let me explain. 1

Desean loved his friends.  He’s got several friends.  Not all of his friends get along together.

One night, a Wednesday night, Desean and Chris stayed out late.  Chris had been with Desean and some of his other friends, but when they started talking about getting drunk Chris “remembered” homework he wanted to get done.  He left hoping Desean would join him.  He didn’t.

Desean’s mom and sister trusted Desean; and they trusted Chris.

Jan 11

Broomball & Blizzards

Posted on Wednesday, January 11, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Social, Values

Broomball In A Blizzard

The snow fell relentlessly. By the end of the game the ice on the rink was covered by inches of snow.

My friend Matt Benson, pictured here, was playing goalie during this Spring storm. He lay in goal on a comfy layer of fresh snow.

He’s safe but more than once while playing broomball I’ve been bruised and bloodied, but on this particular day I felt nearly invincible.

Snow fell while we raced across the ice. The falling snow made falling on the ice a far safer venture than usual.

Jan 8

Healing is a Choice by Stephen Arterburn

Posted on Sunday, January 8, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Reviews, Social, Spiritual

I’ve read a couple of Stephen Arterburn books. Since I believe that Healing is a Choice I chose to give tHealing is a Choice a read.

The author explores 10 choices that he believes we need to make if we are to experience genuine and lasting healing.

1. The Choice to Connect your life
Lie – All I need to heal is just God and me.

2. The Choice to Feel your life
Lie – Real Christians should have peace in all circumstances

3. The Choice to Investigate Your Life in Search of Truth
Lie – It does no good to look back or look inside

Dec 27

New Year Old Problems

Posted on Tuesday, December 27, 2011 in Emotional, How To, Social, Spiritual, Values

New Year Old Problems

She looked like a model.  She walked like a model; but the look at her eyes was different.

I felt sad when I looked in her eyes. They looked empty.  Dark and vacant, they “felt” empty.  Worse still she felt worthless; like the empty packaging of unwrapped presents.

She felt like trash.  She lived trashy.

Filled with beauty and potential.  When she was born her family had such high hopes. We wanted so much more for her than she was now facing.

What happened?  Where did she go wrong?

Dec 12

What gamble are you always willing to take?

Posted on Monday, December 12, 2011 in Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Values

Life is filled with risks.

Should I buy this present?
Should I give this panhandler money?
Should I invest in this mutual fund?
Should I buy this house?
Should I choose this school?
Should I leave this job?
Should I ask her out?
Should I say “yes”?!?

What gamble are you always willing to take?

Mar 19

Keep Your Love Alive – Move Mountains

Posted on Saturday, March 19, 2011 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Do you see a challenge ahead that seems HUGE?

Are you uncertain of what to do first to change the way you’ve done things?

Forming a habit can be easy, but many times it’s a significant change in perspective.

Jesus Christ challenged his listeners with perspective changing, mind-altering, statements.

Jesus told them. “I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.”  [Matthew 17:20]