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Mar 8

Secrets & “As If”

Posted on Friday, March 8, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

shadow_of_a_friendWe’re examining the power of secrets this week. If you missed the first few, here they are: Hidden Away, Our Hiding and Secrets & Hiding.

Let’s admit two things:
1. I hide my secrets
2. You hide your secrets

While we might protect our secrets for good reasons, sometimes we don’t. Not only that, but sometimes our secrets are the very thing that holds us back from making hope-filled, positive decisions in life.

We stay “stuck.” Stuck in place. Stuck and not making positive changes in our lives.

Mar 7

Secrets & Hiding

Posted on Thursday, March 7, 2013 in Emotional, Financial, How To, Relational, Social, Values

file000596286033We’re examining the power of secrets this week. If you missed the first two, here they are: Hidden Away and Our Hiding

I hide.
You hide.
They hide.

Why Do We All Hide?

“There is one thing”, explains Stephen Covey, “that is common to every individual, relationship, team, family, organization, nation, economy and civilization throughout the world — one thing which, if removed, will destroy the most powerful government, the most successful business, the most thriving economy, the most influential leadership, the greatest friendship, the strongest character, the deepest love.”

Any guesses?

Jan 15

It’s Time For A Jump-Start

Posted on Tuesday, January 15, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Spiritual, Values

Sometimes, I wrote yesterday, when our hearts are exposed we seem like a car in need of a jump-start: cold, (e)motionless and hard as steel.

I asked: How’s your character?

Does Your Character Need A Jump-Start?

Our music affects us.
Does yours lift you up or tear you down?

Our friends’ influence us.
Do your friends build your character or burden your conscience?

Our books teach us
Is  your reading list bad, neutral or helpful? Why settle for bad or neutral?

Our mentors guide us
Do you follow your mentor’s lead or make excuses and postpone progress?

Jan 14

Need A Jump-start?

Posted on Monday, January 14, 2013 in Relational

I’m anticipating cold temperature this week. In the Twin Cities this week is the week that historically has the lowest low temperatures.

While I’m driving to work today I realized how cold it really was.
Single-digits.

Jump-start

I’m blessed to own a running vehicle.
It’s not always been that way.

Dead in the driveway.
Freezing cold outside.
The wind blowing through my coat.
Howling, as India.Arie sang, “where the wind calls my name.”

Stuck.
Frustrated.

My car was cold, hard, motionless steel.

Jump-starts

Those words make me cringe: cold, hard, motionless steel.

Dec 11

Our Journey Our Fear

Posted on Tuesday, December 11, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Jesus Christ’s journey meant that he spent time at parties, dinners, friends’ houses, and enemies’ houses. 

He learned.
He listened.

He told jokes.
He gave hugs.
He laughed.

Jesus explained to the the people, “I am the world’s Light. No one who follows me stumbles around in the darkness. I provide plenty of light to live in.

The Pharisees objected, ‘All we have is your word on this. We need more than this to go on.‘” 1

I couldn’t agree more.
Not with Jesus.
With the Pharisees.

Aug 10

Granddads & Grace

Posted on Friday, August 10, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

I drove to see my parents this week.  While visiting them I attended a bible study that my father attends.  Among the participants were four retired pastors and several other grandfatherly men. 

Five things were clear as I spent the morning reading, listening, talking and eating with these men:

- They are men with the same feelings as the young men I’ve worked with, just different life experiences.

- They felt safe and were willing to share their knowledge, wisdom, pains and sorrows. 

- You would never know who the three pastors were.  There was not one trace of “I know more than you do.”

Aug 4

The Book of Man by Wiliam J. Bennett

Posted on Saturday, August 4, 2012 in Reviews

The Book of Man by William J. Bennett

Let’s Bring Back Heroes

“Men are called to be heroes in ways both big and small in every area of their lives, all the areas we cover in this book—war, work, and play; civic life, family life, and prayer life. What follows is a piece I wrote more than forty years ago and one whose message serves as a foundation for the pieces to follow. Whether we take up the sword, the plow, the ball, the gavel, our children, or our Bibles, we must always do it like the men we are called to be.”

Nov 30

Our Character Rises To The Surface

Posted on Wednesday, November 30, 2011 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, Values

Values are the things that are most important to us.  Yesterday I challenged you to consider your values and identify a Top 5.  Some of you even made yours public, thank you.

My Top 5 were Family, Friendship, Love, and Religious Beliefs, with Security edging out Peace and Self-Respect for the fifth spot. 1

With that in mind, I would like to think that my values would represent what I did with my time and money.  I’d like to say they do, but as often as my wife has teased me about “my mistress” — the laptop — I must confess to my misplaced priorities.

Sep 19

Watch Yourself

Posted on Monday, September 19, 2011 in How To, Relational, Social, Values

Watch Yourself

Watch yourself like you’re watching the clock when you’re really hungry for your lunch.
Watch yourself attentively like you’re waiting for an important appointment.
Watch yourself like you’re noticing a new pimple the day before an important first date.

Watch yourself because it matters what you do.

Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.  1

Dec 12

The Perils Of Popularity

Posted on Saturday, December 12, 2009 in Social, Sports

Barack Obama wins. Tiger Woods cheats. Tim Tebow loses.

These three men are, like us, people.  They have friends and a family. They have hopes and dreams. They win and they lose, they succeed and fail. Why do we care about them. Why do we track their lives? Why did their names appear on virtually every news portal every day this week?

Why, because they are “celebrities.”

Fame

As a society one of our biggest problems is that we create “celebrities.” Celebrities, people whose lives and accomplishments we follow. We attribute celebrity status to and esteem them because of their success in their chosen field. Athletes become icons, actors become idols, musicians become magnified.