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Apr 29

More April Fools

Posted on Tuesday, April 29, 2014 in Education, How To, Relational, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

flame3We all have blind spots in our life; misguided thinking, bad decisions and the like. Often times other people can see our blind spots but we either ignore, deny, or dismiss them.

On the other hand, sometimes we look at and assess others and assume what we see are their blind spots. Sometimes it’s us who can’t see clearly when we judge the lives.

Here are three people some would calls fools that I admire for their courage.

Three “Fools” I Admire

Apr 28

Exposing Blind Spots

Posted on Monday, April 28, 2014 in Education, Emotional, Financial, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

God-hand-flickWe all have blind spots in our life; misguided thinking, bad decisions and the like. Often times other people can see our blind spots but we either ignore, deny, or dismiss them.

Last week in Rules Are FOR People I explained that we live in a reckless, rule-ignoring, freedom-focused society. Far too often in our quest for freedom we create a new blind spot.

Apr 24

Pay Attention

Posted on Thursday, April 24, 2014 in Relational, Values

toiletpaperThis is one of those times maybe I should have checked with someone else before I hit the “Publish” button, but frankly I think it fits my theme so comment your complaints if you need to.

This week we’re discussing Blind Spots. We all have them. Misguided thinking, bad decisions and the like. Often times other people can see our blind spots but we either ignore, deny, or dismiss them.

In the Blind Spots sub-category of “Preventable things I wish didn’t happen to me” I offer the following. I neither assume the following to be factual nor fictional; either way they serve as a warning to those of us who don’t always “pay attention.”

Apr 23

Hypocrisy

Posted on Wednesday, April 23, 2014 in Relational, Values

Cat - Beware of dogMost people have blind spots. I do. You do.

This week on mysilentscream.com we’re looking at a few common blind spots.

The classic blind spot is the justification, “Do as I say, not as I do.” The person or persons believe that the rules should apply to other people.

That must be how, as one woman pointed out, “There are countries that enforce strict ‘puritanical’ laws – no drinking, no parties, no intermingling males and females etc. Yet, members of the ruling class have their lavish parties, lots of alcohol and women etc etc. Is that hypocritical?” 1

Apr 22

Blind Spots

Posted on Tuesday, April 22, 2014 in Relational

Blindspot_three_cars_illus“BEEEEEP!” screamed someone’s car horn.
“Was that directed at me?” I asked myself.
It happened again last week.
I had done nothing wrong.
I hate when someone honks their horn at me rudely.

On the other hand, sometimes I’m in the wrong.

More than once, despite my best intentions I try to drive my car into an open traffic lane only to have someone wisely interrupt me with a well-deserved warning, “BEEEEEP!”

I was the rude one. I did not properly consider the possibility of a blind spot.

Blind Spots

Mar 6

Listening is NOT a waste of time!

Posted on Thursday, March 6, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

listen file9991303336088Last night I sat with a group of men, young and old; a forty-year spread among them. Teens, college students and, as I like to call them, “grownups” sat together.

I told them the story of “my crossroad.” I then asked them, “When was a time when things didn’t work out the way wanted them to?”

After a moment, one brave guy replied, “When I went to college. It was much different than high school. All my friends were gone.” Another guy listened, and added, “My first day as a teacher I almost threw up. Literally I almost threw up. I was so anxious.”

Mar 5

Listen Before Speaking

Posted on Wednesday, March 5, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Sucking toads“Sometimes I just wanna choke somebody,” he said.

Exasperated with his friend, he was beside himself. “Why does he do such stupid things?” he asked no one. “What’s he thinking?” he continued.

I imagine the friends of this young man may have thought the same thing.

Somethings just don’t seem to make sense but all we wanna hear is something that does make sense. Unfortunately, too often we’re not really listening.

Listening Before Speaking

Mar 4

Listen For Their Cries

Posted on Tuesday, March 4, 2014 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

alone-61043_640Yesterday I introduced you to the woman who cried alone.

She wept alone.
She didn’t choose to be alone.
She simply was alone.

The grocery store was full of alone people. Most did not choose to be alone. Some did.

Some were not alone; they were with family, friends, co-workers and colleagues.
They were with people in person.
And “with” people on their phones.

But that woman cried alone.
Until people stopped being alone.
And they started being together.

Together, No Longer Alone

Mar 3

She Wept Alone

Posted on Monday, March 3, 2014 in Beyond Whatever Promos, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

sad-eyes-966603-mShe wept alone.

She cried.
Quietly.
Her cries muffled.
Muffled, but not muted.
Restricted, but not restrained.

She Wept Alone

There between the snack crackers and the cookies, she wept.

I heard her.
She heard her.
And, she heard her too.

A guy looked back and walked on.
Another woman peered over her shoulder. She barely hesitated.

Countless people in the grocery aisles, on their phones, passed by – without a glance – as she wept. Maybe they couldn’t hear? Maybe they couldn’t stop? Maybe they couldn’t care!

She Wept, Alone

Nov 9

Turning 50: Alone, But Not

Posted on Friday, November 9, 2012 in Beyond Whatever Promos, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

I’m turning 50 this week. 

I’m not yet fifty — it’s just one day away — but I thought I’d lead you through my journey, and maybe you’ll learn a thing or two that will help you on your journey.

Alone, But Not

You know how it is when you feel less alone when someone else can understand your pain?

There are days when I live like a practical atheist. 

Not that I don’t care about God, but that I don’t even think about God.