Posted on Tuesday, March 10, 2015
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, TreeHouse, Values
My parents have taught dog obedience training classes for forty years. They are well-respected for their expertise throughout Chicagoland.
When they are teaching their students (human and canine) they say “halt” whenever they want progress stopped. At that point the human stops and the canine stops and sits.
Halt as you know, means to stop or pause. H.A.L.T. is also an acronym that relates to an important decision-making principle.
This is part-8 of the “10 for 25″ series on important lessons I’ve learned at TreeHouse.
This is a picture of my friends Tiffany and Barry. I’ll see Barry next month. I last saw Tif in 1991.
Tiffany, Kris, Jenny, Eric, Rajjon, Adam, John, Beng, and Tyler, all TreeHouse teens. All gone. Way too soon.
Life Is Short
This is post is part of a series entitled “10 for 25.” It’s about ten lessons – most of them hard lessons to learn – that I’ve learned over my twenty-five years at TreeHouse.
Life is short. Our time with loved ones is never guaranteed.
Posted on Tuesday, November 25, 2014
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Almost every week I hear someone say, “she made me…” or “he made me…” as if they could.
Without a doubt we influence one another, but far too often we justify bad attitudes and hurtful responses because of the attitudes and decisions of others.
This week when tempers flare during your holiday gatherings here are three strategies to drop the drama:
1. Choose to use a soft voice.
“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.“ 1
Regardless what the other person chooses you can chose a soft and kind tone in your voice.
Posted on Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Parents in pain.
What can we do?
Every child I’ve met wants to be affirmed that they are lovable, capable and worthwhile.
We can start there.
12 Ways To Encourage A Child (Ages 0-118)
“You Are Lovable!”: Give attention to their character.
– Who they are has greater value than what they achieve.
– Accept mistakes; show grace.
– Bad decisions, poor choices and mistakes can be great teachers.
– Offer unconditional love. Trust can be conditional, love cannot.
“You Are Capable!”
Posted on Tuesday, August 26, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
He could hear the yelling from the neighbors’ house every night.
Shouts of anger.
Shouts of pain.
Shouts of passion.
“Was there any gain?”
The Cost of Turmoil
Teens, families, friendships and all kinds of relationships suffer because of the lack of peaceful conflict resolution skills. Conflicts arise, those involved feel hurt, disappointed, afraid or frustrated, and it quickly turns into anger. Anger often erupts in retaliation or brutal honesty. Alienation increases, relationships are broken, and scars are formed.
Posted on Monday, August 25, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
If every time you looked in the mirror you saw someone different looking at you at would add to your stress too.
The process of adolescence is complex and unpredictable. The young person experiences physical changes that catapult their childish frame into that of an adult. The intellect intensifies to form logical patterns of thinking and begins to formulate future plans. The teen also struggles to form an identity separate from that of a child or a mature adult. Meanwhile, the teen is faced with issues of morality and must make critical decisions about sex, drugs, and other social behaviors.
Posted on Thursday, July 17, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
I have a friend who read the Bible and his conclusions broke his heart. He read about a God who didn’t fit his paradigm. He read about a God who didn’t do what he thought best. He read about a God who seemed to sit silent through tragedy. His crumbling faith and doubts rippled through him like an earthquake. The chasm led him to abandon his previous love for God.
When people face tragedy, they usually have one of three reactions. They blame God, they turn to God for help or they abandon God.
Note: This is part 3 of the series, By The Numbers. Catch up if you need to:
1. Paint By Numbers.
2. By The Numbers.
It’s 2:38 A.M.
Few people who know me well would be surprised that I’m awake. Almost everyone would be surprised that it’s 2:38 A.M. and I just woke up.
I’m a night owl, but last night I had to go to bed early for a 4:15 A.M. wake up.
Predictably I didn’t need an alarm. Predictably, I didn’t want to startle Amy awake at 4:15 A.M. Predictably, I woke up early enough not to need an alarm.
I don’t always realize how worry and anxiety affect me. In fact, if asked I would say that I don’t worry very often.
But then something happens, it happens most often in competitive settings.
I want to live a joy-filled life, but too often I have settled for wanting to be successful.
Success or Joy?
When have I chosen the pursuit of success over joy?
I complain when I think Halo or Call of Duty is being unfair to me.
I yell at myself – out loud – when I make a mistake playing tennis.
I become commanding when l am playing football. 1
I pout when my teammates make mistakes.
Posted on Monday, June 23, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Sports, Values
I SCREAMED on Father’s Day.
More than once.
Honestly, it was shocking to me.
And, I was the screamer.
We we having fun as a fam playing tennis.
I know how I play tennis.
But, I haven’t played in a while.
My knowledge and my skills didn’t jive.
One miss-hit led to another and another.
I’m screamed at myself, because…