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Nov 21

Destination: Dowling Ave

Posted on Thursday, November 21, 2013 in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Values

0839_i94_wb_nearexit228As a twelve-grader I was, I was a “survivor.

I survived, not in a life-and-death manner that some do today, but as an endurance test.

Spanish class was my least favorite class, so it was there that I tested my endurance the most.

Since I was already watching the clock, I decided to see how long I could hold my breath. “Go!”
– More than 45 seconds
– A minute
– 75 … 90 … 100 seconds
I was silently feeling so proud when I finally made it to two minutes.
The best I ever did in high school was 2:04. I was so proud, and breathless.

Jan 1

More Than A Bucket List by Toni Birdsong

“More Than a Bucket List will challenge you to go for that hole-in-one at Pebble Beach, to become an amateur chef, to scale K2. But it will also encourage you to view these accomplishments from God’s point of view and to make your bucket list matter eternally along the way. With each page, the dream inside you will be drawn out—the higher dream of what God has purposed for you.”

The author challenges her readers to choose positive values:
Pursue laughter.
Live your dreams.
Honor the strength of others.
Fight for love.
Be a Good Samaritan.
Become a more positive person.

Nov 16

A Week At Fifty

Posted on Friday, November 16, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

This week I was asked several times about turning fifty.

I was asked by twenty-somethings who now realized that I was twice as old as them. The gap that seemed more about experience than age now felt a little different.

I was asked by thirty-somethings who wondered aloud how old fifty seemed, but asked silently, “What will I be like when I’m fifty?” 

Turning 20

Twenty was the year I was going to school full-time, and working full-time, but I was spinning my wheels. When I turned twenty I had yet to make some healthy changes in my life, and the future didn’t look bright.

Nov 12

Benchmarks For The Rest Of My Days

Posted on Monday, November 12, 2012 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

This weekend with a flurry of activity, a wonderful conversation-filled open house, and, as my friend Julia remarked, “the social media Birthday bandwagon”, I turned fifty.

Then, yesterday I became godfather to cute little Anika.   

It was a busy, but great weekend.

Today, I’m fifty years and two days old.

The celebrations are over, now what am I going to do with the rest of my days?

What Now?

Even as I typed that I have tears in my eyes.

Oct 9

Right Up Your Alley

Posted on Tuesday, October 9, 2012 in Education, Emotional, How To, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, Values

When I was a teen I had a conversation with my dad about my future career choices.

Since I was a little boy I was known as “Scotty the Scientist”, so clearly a career in the sciences made sense for me. So it was a surprise to my dad when I mentioned that I thought about becoming a police officer.

That dream was more based on my fantasies about being a hero than understanding the what the job would entail.

Right Up Your Alley - What You Do Reveals Who You Are Becoming 

Oct 8

Right In Front Of Me

Posted on Monday, October 8, 2012 in How To, Relational, Spiritual, Values

I work hard.
I play hard.
But. sometimes I wonder if I’m neglecting to see something right in front of me.

Henri Nouwen wrote:

“In Abraham Heschel’s A Passion for Truth I read today the words of the Kotzker (Rabbi Menahem Mendl of Kotzk): “he who thinks that he is finished is finished.” How true.

Those who think that they have arrived, have lost their way.
Those who think they have reached their goal, have missed it.
Those who think they are saints, are demons.

Aug 18

Extravagant Love

Posted on Saturday, August 18, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Have mercy on me, O God, because of your unfailing love“, the singer sang.  1

Watching the movie Lion King this week reminded me of that kind of unfailing love.

Simba lost his father King Mufasa through the treachery of his uncle.  As time passes the young adult, but rebellious king-to-be is avoiding responsibility accompanied by his friends Timon and Pumbaa.

Rafiki, the monkey-mentor, led Simba through the wilderness to a pool of water. Ripples form across the surface of the water, reflecting Mufasa’s face. Simba has a vision of his father speaking to him. 2

Feb 21

Overcoming Fear

Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2012 in Beyond Whatever Promos, Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Values

Overcoming Fear

Eric Valli, a professional photographer, is dangling by a nylon rope from a 395 foot cliff in Nepal.

Nearby on a rope ladder is another man, Mani Lal, doing what he has done for decades: hunting honey.

Here in the Himalayan foothills, the cliffs shelter honeycombs of the world’s largest honeybee. At the moment, thousands of them are buzzing around both men. Lal, a veteran of hundreds of such attacks, is calm. Not so Mr. Valli.

Jan 6

A Trap, A Treasure & A Tip

Posted on Friday, January 6, 2012 in Education, Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Values

As I’ve said, I don’t believe on New Years resolutions I believe in New Years gifts. Gifts that we give ourselves. 

Resolutions that I had made in the part were well-intentioned, but often I gave up or got distracted. 

I believe in action.  I don’t want to just plan to do things, I believe in doing. I’m ambitious and encouraged others to have ambition.  

Trap

I am a notorious multi-tasker. As some women in my life have said, I can multitask as effectively as a woman.  I’m certain that’s not true, but I am a notorious multi-tasker.

Jan 5

New Years Gift of Education

Posted on Thursday, January 5, 2012 in Education, Financial, Intellectual, Values

Christmas is over, but the new year is here.
You enjoy Christmas presents, it’s time to enjoy a New years gift.

I don’t believe on New Years resolutions I believe in doing. Yesterday I challenged you to give yourself the gift of ambition.

This year apply that renewed ambition to give yourself the gift of learning something new.

The Gift of Learning

Everyone I know wants to learn something.
Everyone I know pushes aside some of those dreams.

I know, you’re busy.
Fight off your excuses.

I know you’re tired.
Fight off your laziness.