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Mar 13


Posted on Thursday, March 13, 2014 in Relational, TreeHouse

012_12When I was just beginning to move from loner to leader I read these words:

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” 1

They have helped me to remember not to choose as selfishly as I am inclined to be.

I attached the picture on purpose. Bad pictures remind us to laugh at ourselves and not take ourselves too seriously.

I’m thinking a lot about my role as a leader.

Nov 7

Pray Your Pain Out

Posted on Thursday, November 7, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

LightningWe’re all looking for happiness, and despite our doubts Happiness IS possiblefor all of us.

Sometimes, the pursuit of happiness involves a change of mind, a new perspective, a reversal of direction. Sometimes it’s a mind-altering mystery like, “Great pain can become great possibilities.”

Pray Your Pain Out

There are many reasons I have chosen to follow Jesus Christ, but one of the nearest and dearest reasons is that despite my sins, shortcomings, and slanderous rants God has not blown me up with a bolt of lightning. Not that God ever threatened to do so, but you know sometimes I just think I deserved it.

Mar 27


Posted on Wednesday, March 27, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

direction-95475_640Last night as I sat in a TreeHouse support group I sat in awe.

There surrounded by junior high teens I found myself grateful for their patient listening, gracious sharing and genuine compassion.

Most of the teens in my small group had been part of TreeHouse only a few weeks, yet directly and indirectly each teen reminded the other that “this is a safe place.”

Safe places are too few and far between. Those safe places, cared for and nurtured by safe people are safe harbors for the strong and the able, the weak and the wounded, and the lost and the wandering.

Mar 6

Secrets: Our Hiding

Posted on Wednesday, March 6, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

hidenseekSecrets, we all have them.
Secrets, we all guard them.
Secrets, we all fear their exposure.

Yesterday I mentioned Josh Groban’s song Hidden Away.

If you haven’t had a chance to hear it, give it a listen. He opens the song with:

“Over mountains and sky blue seas
On great circles will you watch for me?
The sweetest feeling I’ve got inside
I just can’t wait to get lost in your eyes
And all these words that you meant to say
Held in silence day after day
Words of kindness that our poor hearts crave
Please don’t keep them hidden away”

Jun 24

Our Favorite Sins by Todd Hunter

Posted on Sunday, June 24, 2012 in Reviews

Todd Hunter’s Our Favorite Sins: The Sins We Commit & How You Can Quit

Diving into Hunter’s book gives us freedom to acknowledge our struggles

“Beating temptation requires struggle because it always involves sorting out rightly ordered desires for good and godly things from our disordered desires for wrong things. We often experience these disordered desires as our most powerful and deeply rooted desires. Uprooting disordered desires involves personal, psychological, and spiritual suffering.”

struggles that don’t come easy and temptations that don’t fall willingly

Jun 4

GOD LOVES BROKEN PEOPLE (And Those Who Pretend They’re Not) by Sheila Walsh

Posted on Monday, June 4, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Reviews, Social, Spiritual, Values

Author Sheila Walsh believes that we should know that God “calls broken people not only to place their faith in Him, despite the darkness, but also to dare to reach beyond themselves and, through faith, bring the healing, loving touch of Christ to other hurting men and women.”

She writes for those of us who “have struggled with admitting to myself and others I’m broken.” And those of us who add, “I know I’m broken, but have struggled with how to deal with it.”

May 25

Perilous Pride

Posted on Friday, May 25, 2012 in Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

One of my all-time favorite television shoes is Columbo.  I love how the seemingly dimwitted detective relentlessly unravels the mystery.

Consistently Columbo faces intelligent murderers who dismiss Columbo as a nitwit who they can easily outwit.

In one of my favorite Columbo episodes is Bye Bye Sky High IQ Murder Case.

Wikipedia explains that, after Bertie Hastings discovers that his friend, Oliver Brandt, a senior partner in an accounting firm, has been embezzling money to support the lifestyle of his wife, Brandt kills Hastings at the Sigma Society, a club for geniuses. 1

May 24

We Need Accountability

Posted on Thursday, May 24, 2012 in Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

I’ve met many people who forget that, “God made everything with a place and purpose.” 1  It’s when we think we’re better than other people that our ignorance is most obvious.

In a small rural village in Central America I realized that all of my education, books, tools, and toys were far less important than time spent in a relaxing, thoughtful conversation with loved ones.  There in a dusty impoverished village of a couple hundred people I was taught through word and deed that while education, books, tools, and toys have value, relationships — and specifically people — are most valuable.

Feb 3

Pro Bowl Friendships Need Accountability

Posted on Friday, February 3, 2012 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Sports, Values

I’ve made many mistakes in my life.
Many of them could easily have been avoided.

Fortunately, not one of my mistakes has ended in the headlines.


Dallas Morning News reported today that Major League baseball player, “Rangers’ Josh Hamilton has relapse with alcohol at area bar.”  USA Today, Washington Post, Fox Sports, it’s on the news, it’s filling the headlines.

“Someone went to a bar” is hardly news. “Someone had a few drinks” isn’t either.  Unless that someone is, as Jeff Passan described him, the “most famous addict in sports.”  Then, everyone who knows about you knows that that’s a problem.  Josh Hamilton’s story of self-destruction, sobriety, redemption and success have been well-documented including his autobiographical Beyond Belief: Finding the Strength to Come Back.

Aug 18

Freedom Unchecked Can Lead To Disaster

Posted on Thursday, August 18, 2011 in How To, Relational, Spiritual, Values

You learn from your parents, and your children, nieces and nephews will learn from you.  What will they learn?  Will they see success or will they see you slide? Will you reject accountability and let your pride slide you away from what really matters into an unseen hardships?

Continuing our series on freedom using quotes from the movie Braveheart, allow Princess Isabelle to lead the query, “The king will be dead in a month and his son is a weakling. Who do you think will rule this kingdom?”

That’s the question that faced David as he passed his kingship to his son Solomon.