Posted on Wednesday, January 29, 2014
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
After I wrote a mysilentscream post on not judging others I read Letting Go of Judging People By Leo Babauta. I liked it, and I thought that you would too.
Letting Go of Judging People 1
One of the best changes I’ve made to help me be happier is learning to see judging other people as a red flag.
Now, I’m not going to pretend I don’t ever judge other people — I think it’s either a built-in method all humans have, or something we develop because of built-in methods. We all judge people, and I’m not an exception.
When I was a child I loved testing out the rifle-shooting games in arcades. And though I was typically right-handed, I usually shot left-handed. When I was young shooting left-handed was probably trying something new. When I was a teen I thought shooting left-handed was me being unique. As an adult I realized that I shot left-handed because I was left-eye dominant. I saw better shooting left handed. I shot better left-handed.
I spend a lot of time with loud, laughing teenagers. I love their energy. I love their whimsy. I love their willingness to have fun.
Have you ever been in a store, library or restaurant and noticed a group of teens gathered near you who were louder than anyone else?
Maybe they were aware of how loud they were.
Maybe they were not.
I also spend a fair amount of time with “socially awkward” teens. Some are more awkward than others:
– They ask questions at inopportune times:
“Can we go to McDonalds now?”
– They uninhibitedly comment, assess and judge:
“Scott, you’re an xxxhole.”
– They uninhibitedly say what most people would not:
“I like (masturbating).”
Posted on Wednesday, January 16, 2013
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Need a jump-start for your character?
Forgive Yourself and Forgive Others.
There are three common possibilities after conflict occurs:
– Conflict escalates
– Conflict goes underground
– Conflict is resolved constructively
So often when we screw up we respond one of three ways:
– Deflect or Deny
– Deal with it
Fortunately, our perspective does not limit God’s perspective.
Posted on Thursday, January 6, 2011
in Beyond Whatever Promos, Relational, Spiritual
I worked the graveyard shift as a desk clerk in suburban Chicago. While the weekend night were often busy late into the night, many nights I had lots of free time. I was confined to a small space in a locked office behind glass. I spoke through a slot below the glass. I exchanged money and passed room keys through that small opening.
Yes, there were lonely, sleepy nights.
Alone I had several options. I watched television. I listened to music. Occasionally I napped. As a newly committed God-follower I spent hours reading my Bible.