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Jan 29

Letting Go of Judging People

Posted on Wednesday, January 29, 2014 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values

beware file6041256515337After I wrote a mysilentscream post on not judging others I read Letting Go of Judging People By Leo Babauta. I liked it, and I thought that you would too.

Letting Go of Judging People 1

One of the best changes I’ve made to help me be happier is learning to see judging other people as a red flag.

Now, I’m not going to pretend I don’t ever judge other people — I think it’s either a built-in method all humans have, or something we develop because of built-in methods. We all judge people, and I’m not an exception.

Aug 15

Prized

Posted on Thursday, August 15, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

Clay-cutWhen I was a child I loved testing out the rifle-shooting games in arcades. And though I was typically right-handed, I usually shot left-handed. When I was young shooting left-handed was probably trying something new. When I was a teen I thought shooting left-handed was me being unique. As an adult I realized that I shot left-handed because I was left-eye dominant. I saw better shooting left handed. I shot better left-handed.

Jun 27

You Get Me

Posted on Thursday, June 27, 2013 in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, TreeHouse, Values

teenage_brother_and_sisterI spend a lot of time with loud, laughing teenagers. I love their energy. I love their whimsy. I love their willingness to have fun.

Have you ever been in a store, library or restaurant and noticed a group of teens gathered near you who were louder than anyone else?

Maybe they were aware of how loud they were.
Maybe they were not.

I also spend a fair amount of time with “socially awkward” teens. Some are more awkward than others:
– They ask questions at inopportune times:
“Can we go to McDonalds now?”

– They uninhibitedly comment, assess and judge:
“Scott, you’re an xxxhole.”

– They uninhibitedly say what most people would not:
“I like (masturbating).”

Jan 16

Need A Jump-Start? Try Forgiveness.

Posted on Wednesday, January 16, 2013 in Emotional, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values

Need a jump-start for your character?

Try forgiveness.

Forgive Yourself and Forgive Others.

There are three common possibilities after conflict occurs:
– Conflict escalates
– Conflict goes underground
– Conflict is resolved constructively

So often when we screw up we respond one of three ways:
– Defend
– Deflect or Deny
– Deal with it

Fortunately, our perspective does not limit God’s perspective.

Jan 6

Beyond Whatever – A Revolution Of Love

Posted on Thursday, January 6, 2011 in Beyond Whatever Promos, Relational, Spiritual

I worked the graveyard shift as a desk clerk in suburban Chicago.  While the weekend night were often busy late into the night, many nights I had lots of free time.   I was confined to a small space in a locked office behind glass.  I spoke through a slot below the glass.  I exchanged money and passed room keys through that small opening.

Yes, there were lonely, sleepy nights.

Alone I had several options.  I watched television.  I listened to music. Occasionally I napped.   As a newly committed God-follower I spent hours reading my Bible.