Posted on Monday, October 10, 2011
in Emotional, How To, Relational, Social, Spiritual, Values
Last week I wrote about shame. You can resume that series on shame we had some fun with it, defined it, and practically explained how culturally bound and complicated shame-filled groups can become.
We choose to use shame because it seems to work.
Sadly, shame is insidious, it destroys its loyal supporters. Fortunately, shame but does not have the final word.
Shame can be defeated. This week I will offer some solutions which may help you and your loved one overcome shame.
Awareness of Needs
Addressing legitimate needs with genuine solutions is one key solution.
John Maxwell taught these shame-defeating, socially-constructive values:
1. PEOPLE LIKE TO FEEL SPECIAL… COMPLIMENT THEM.
2. PEOPLE LOOK FOR A BETTER TOMORROW… GIVE THEM HOPE.
3. PEOPLE NEED TO BE UNDERSTOOD… LISTEN TO THEM.
4. PEOPLE LACK DIRECTION… NAVIGATE FOR THEM.