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Pumpkin-Seed & Peeps

Posted on Tuesday, August 7, 2012 in Uncategorized

This weekend my dear – and very pregnant – friend Angi had a baby shower.

“Pumpkin seed” is Angi’s first.
This was also my first baby shower.

I know husbands, boyfriends, significant others and the like who have attended baby showers, but I never had.

I was feeling a variety of feelings as the moment to leave for the party arrived:

– I felt blessed to celebrate with Angi & “Pumpkin Seed.”
– I felt nervous that I wouldn’t know the unwritten rules.
– I felt excited to have a new “cross-cultural” experience.
– I felt apprehensive because I didn’t know what I would experience.
– I felt guilty because we could only stay for an hour before we left for a wedding.
– I also felt grateful because I knew that a cake was specially prepared for my glutton & dairy-free wife.

We arrived to a roomful of women smiling, chatting, laughing and listening to one another. I knew, at first glance, almost no one. My guess is that this baby shower had gathered women (and children) from many spheres of Angi’s life including, family, friends, workmates, cubicle-chums, church-buddies, fans of Peeps, and grateful fans of her pizza-making fame.

As we sat, in the corner (in the two open seats) I had a great view of the festivities. I looked, lunched, and listened.  Here are some of my observations.

Thoughtfulness Still Exists

I knew a couple of people had formal roles, but over and over I saw people live out the axiom, “Be kind and compassionate to one another.” 1

I loved and admired their mutual willingness to help make the party a success.

Strangers Still Feel Nervous

For me and and for you – you know who you are – here are a few suggestions that I’m trying to implement when I’m surrounded by strangers at parties.

Choose to be kind.
– Help prepare.
– Help cleanup.

Choose to share your experiences with one another.
– What are you excited about?  Talk about it.
Just as important, choose to patiently listen to others.
Ignore your phone — maybe even turn it off for a while.
Listen to, and learn about what the people you’re with care about.

Embattled People Can Still Be Gracious

I have a small family. Usually we get along. I know not every family is blessed with “usually we get along”, and usually is anything but “we get along.” To you I offer these time-tested tips:

Choose to respect people you don’t like.
– We can choose to tolerate your differences.
– We can choose to talk things out rather than stuff your annoyances.

Choose to bring happiness.
– If you hug people, offer everyone hugs.
– We can all choose to forget the drama.
– We can all choose to forgive the guilty.

Woman’s World Still Mystifies Me

Note – This may be exclusive subjective results based on a small sample-size, but they were mine.

Women can ignore the cries of a child – or many children – without a second thought.
Women can just as instantly recognize the cry of a genuinely distressed child.

Women can avoid eating for inexplicable reasons in some public settings.
Women can freely talk with their mouth-filled with food in others.


1 – Ephesians 4:32, NIV

Bring on the comments

  1. Wow Scott, thank you for sharing! I am glad you got to experience your first baby shower and that it was for Pumpkin Seed. We feel so blessed.
    On a side note, did Amy find the tato salad and other tasty treats for her? 🙂

  2. It was an honor to have you at the celebration for Angi and pumpkin seed….It was also a pleasure to make sure that everyone can have a great time…This was all possible because of everyone who helped it was wonderful to see all the women and children that came to celebrate and all those that helped make it happen 🙂

  3. You’re welcome.
    I believe Amy enjoyed everything on her plate. =)
    Hugs back!

  4. Soooooooo true!
    But it starts with a good friend like you!

  5. It does start with a good friend like Leslie. That is 25 years of friendship, with mistakes and successes, and laughter and love, forgiveness and compassion…and loyalty. Couldn’t ask for a more real and genuine friendship!

  6. Love it!!!

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