Posted on Tuesday, June 19, 2012
in Emotional, Relational, Social, Values
Yesterday I proposed that what comes to mind when we think of our dad, our father, and our father figures, contributes to the trajectory of our lives.
Here are four philosophical perspectives that supportive my position.
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.
– Sigmund Freud
Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk.
– Carl Jung
The child supplies the power but the parents have to do the steering.
– Benjamin Spock
If children fail to receive enough love from their fathers, they carry the painful effects for a long time to come– usually for the rest of their lives.
– Robert McGee
Here are three negative perspectives that supportive my position.
To be a successful father… there’s one absolute rule: when you have a kid, don’t look at it for the first two years.
– Ernest Hemingway
My father? I never knew him. Never even seen a picture of him.
I just wish I could understand my father…Yes, and I had pimples so badly it used to make me so shy. I used not to look at myself. I’d hide my face in the dark, I wouldn’t want to look in the mirror and my father teased me and I just hated it and I cried everyday.
– Michael Jackson
Here are three positive perspectives that supportive my position.
There’s so much negative imagery of black fatherhood. I’ve got tons of friends that are doing the right thing by their kids, and doing the right thing as a father – and how come that’s not as newsworthy?
– Will Smith
The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.
– Theodore Hesburgh
Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.
– Charles R. Swindoll
Finally, Robert McGee in his book Father Hunger explains, “What better word than hunger can describe the sensation of wanting a father’s love? Indeed, the desire goes beyond mere want. It is truly a need. We don’t just want our fathers to love us; we need them to love us. This kind of emotional hunger acts in many ways just like physical hunger. If we aren’t provided with what is best for us, we will soon begin to seek other, less healthy, substitutes. Since hunger is a drive that must be met, those who are starving try to cope with father hunger in various ways.”
How hungry am I?
How hungry are you?
Do you know someone starving?
How would we know?