RSS Feed
Apr 2

Peer Pressure

Posted on Tuesday, April 2, 2013 in Uncategorized

sign-manypathsRecently I sat among a group of people all of whom respected one another. We share some common goals. We share some common hopes and dreams. While we were discussing those goals and hopes and dreams, one person spoke up.

The room of people turned.
We looked and listened.

She is well-respected.
She is respect-worthy.
She has a very respected legacy.

She is a leader among leaders.

And, in this group of people:
When she spoke people listened.
When she led people followed.
When she thought out-loud people agreed.

And, when she had a misguided suggestion there was buy-in.

It’s easy to think about “peer pressure” scenarios with foolhardy college students daring drunk people to do dumb stuff. It’s easy to find daring young teens willing to boldly move forward while feeling invincible, but what can we do when we’re faced with passionate, intelligent well-intentioned, but misguide people?

The same thing.

We need people with self-respect, courage, and wisdom to step forward and challenge the crowd respectfully.

In a post entitled Don’t Live In Fear Embrace Some Limits I suggested ten strategies to consider when faced with peer pressure. They are good and practical suggestions whether you’re a teen facing a lunch table of onlookers, a college student facing a couple of drunken roommates or a business-person facing a boardroom full of “yes-people.”

10 Paths to Consider When Face-to-Face With Peer Pressure

Path # 1: Simply say “No”.

Path # 2: Leave the scene, and if necessary RUN!

Path # 3: Ignore the other person or persons pressuring you.

Path # 4: Make an excuse.

Path # 5: Change the subject.

Path # 6: Make a joke. Humor sometimes deflates peer pressure.

Path # 7: Act shocked. Peer pressuring bullies sometimes back down and reconsider their demand.

Path # 8: Compromise; not compromise your values but find a way through the situation without compromising your values.

Path # 9: For instance, suggest a better idea.

“You’re hungry and want something to eat. How about we don’t break into cars looking for cash, and instead go to my house and heat up a pizza?”

“You’re thirsty and want to go to a strip club?  How about we get drinks somewhere else, like our place?”

“You’re thinking about firing the whole department? How about we make certain they’ve been properly trained first?”

Path # 10: Return the challenge.

These ten paths can protect me when I am tempted to ignore helpful limits and to stray off the right path. Maybe they’ll help you too.

Bring on the comments

  1. […] Why is it so hard to cope with peer pressure? […]

  2. […] us us have to cope with the challenges of peer pressure. When we face peer pressure situations it helps to understand our […]

Leave a Comment